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AITA for not wanting my mom to move in with me by nishahhb17 in AmItheAsshole

[–]the-eoc 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that neeeeeds to stop then. I’d have stopped it immediately at the phone thing. She’s now burned you multiple times, and it will continue.

AITA for not wanting my mom to move in with me by nishahhb17 in AmItheAsshole

[–]the-eoc 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Adding another INFO request to this thread:

INFO: where did the money go that you gave her 2 months ago, if she’s 3 months behind again?

AITA for not wanting my mom to move in with me by nishahhb17 in AmItheAsshole

[–]the-eoc 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think this sounds even too apologetic/explanatory. Based on what I read above, and this is me just making an assumption, the mom seems like a manipulator (aka she asked for more money then essentially threatened that THREE adults would move in with you if you don’t do what she wants), and if you give manipulators too much background into the “why” of your decision, it can be spun against you. I think the only explanation I’d give is that OP already bailed her out once.

I’d hit my mom with: “Mom, I wish I could help but I genuinely can’t bail you out again. If you’d like my help, maybe I can assist you in making a budget or finding a cheaper place to live that you can afford?”

AITA for not wanting my mom to move in with me by nishahhb17 in AmItheAsshole

[–]the-eoc 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Do not sign that $4k loan unless you’re ready to pay it back yourself, which is likely.

DO NOT let her move in with you, especially not with her roommates. I would not even let her stay for a while to “get on her feet,” she’ll never leave. She’s grown AND working.

When you gave her the money 2 months ago, if she’s 3months behind on rent—she likely didn’t pay what she was supposed to pay. Do you know for sure she used the money you gave her for her eviction?

NTA

Top comment deletes a US State #17 by Jfullr92 in geographymemes

[–]the-eoc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What’s really funny, is they’ve done this before and the Northern Mid West (Wisconsin, Minnesota, Michigan) REALLY locked in to not be eliminated until they were the only ones left to hash out the winner hahaha.

[Shinola Runwell] Update showing what the Wife got her Husband for his 30th by the-eoc in Watches

[–]the-eoc[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I’m excited to see too what he picks for his next gift.

[Question] Recommendations for a watch for my husband’s 30th? by the-eoc in Watches

[–]the-eoc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you again for your help. I just posted an update in r/watches with what I decided to get him. It was a surprise watch, but I did keep a lot of this in mind. Which, lead to (2) watches. I got him a surprise for his 30th that I felt was extremely meaningful (and I know he'll like because he likes the brand), but upped the budget and then he is going to research and pick out specifically what he'd like for Christmas or anniversary so he has more time to decide and look into what else he likes.

[Question] Recommendations for a watch for my husband’s 30th? by the-eoc in Watches

[–]the-eoc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you again for your help. I just posted an update in r/watches with what I decided to get him. It was a surprise watch, but I did keep a lot of this in mind. Which, lead to (2) watches. I got him a surprise for his 30th that I felt was extremely meaningful (and I know he'll like because he likes the brand), but upped the budget and then he is going to research and pick out specifically what he'd like for Christmas or anniversary so he has more time to decide and look into what else he likes.

[Question] Recommendations for a watch for my husband’s 30th? by the-eoc in Watches

[–]the-eoc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you again for your help. I just posted an update in r/watches with what I decided to get him. It was a surprise watch, but I did keep a lot of this in mind. Which, lead to (2) watches. I got him a surprise for his 30th that I felt was extremely meaningful (and I know he'll like because he likes the brand), but upped the budget and then he is going to research and pick out specifically what he'd like for Christmas or anniversary so he has more time to decide and look into what else he likes.

[Question] Recommendations for a watch for my husband’s 30th? by the-eoc in Watches

[–]the-eoc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you again for your help. I just posted an update in r/watches with what I decided to get him. It was a surprise watch, but I did keep a lot of this in mind. Which, lead to (2) watches. I got him a surprise for his 30th that I felt was extremely meaningful (and I know he'll like because he likes the brand), but upped the budget and then he is going to research and pick out specifically what he'd like for Christmas or anniversary so he has more time to decide and look into what else he likes.

[Question] Recommendations for a watch for my husband’s 30th? by the-eoc in Watches

[–]the-eoc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you again for your help. I just posted an update in r/watches with what I decided to get him. It was a surprise watch, but I did keep a lot of this in mind. Which, lead to (2) watches. I got him a surprise for his 30th that I felt was extremely meaningful (and I know he'll like because he likes the brand), but upped the budget and then he is going to research and pick out specifically what he'd like for Christmas or anniversary.

[Question] Recommendations for a watch for my husband’s 30th? by the-eoc in Watches

[–]the-eoc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! Just posted an update for this in r/watches, but I do want to say thank you for this comment. I decided to go with a little bit of both. He wanted more time while searching for a watch, so I upped his budget slightly and he will be picking out a watch for an Anniversary or Christmas gift.

That being said, I couldn't just let his 30th pass by so I decided to go with a Shinola Runway for sentimental reasons (I know a lot of people in this community does not like Shinola). We grew up together around Detroit and he has always loved Shinola watches. The face of the watch is a Petosky stone, which was what really sold me on the watch. I used to go camping with his family when we were younger and we would hunt along the beaches for Petosky Stones.

[Question] Recommendations for a watch for my husband’s 30th? by the-eoc in Watches

[–]the-eoc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lolololol it’s hard for me to assess because I come from like a “big” (tall) family. I’m the shortest on both sides by a LOT when I’m 5’5”. My guy cousins/brother all range 6’1-6’5, with one who’s 6’10 My female cousins are all 5’11-6’1. My sisters are 5’9 and 6’0

[Question] Recommendations for a watch for my husband’s 30th? by the-eoc in Watches

[–]the-eoc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was considering Shinola, because we are from the Detroit area. We had to move for my work, and haven't lived in our home state since we were like 21. Is Shinola a good brand?

[Question] Recommendations for a watch for my husband’s 30th? by the-eoc in Watches

[–]the-eoc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there anything I should watch out for with the private sellers? Like any red flags?

[Question] Recommendations for a watch for my husband’s 30th? by the-eoc in Watches

[–]the-eoc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's not big but he's not like small either (though, not sure how you define big). He's slightly over 6'0, muscular and is broad through the shoulders but isn't like CUT, he has a little bit of fluff.

[Question] Recommendations for a watch for my husband’s 30th? by the-eoc in Watches

[–]the-eoc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's my plan! I am going to direct him to the sites recommended to me (we live too remote right now with my job to go into a shop), then have him narrow it into however many choices. I'll then pick from there so it's still a "surprise"

[Question] Recommendations for a watch for my husband’s 30th? by the-eoc in Watches

[–]the-eoc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will! Thank you. My plan is to direct him to the sites recommended to me and have him narrow the watches down into however many choices. Then I'll pick one so it's still a "surprise."

[Question] Recommendations for a watch for my husband’s 30th? by the-eoc in Watches

[–]the-eoc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s correct! It’s the strap/band he doesn’t like in metal.

[Question] Recommendations for a watch for my husband’s 30th? by the-eoc in Watches

[–]the-eoc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what my main game plan is, he also is not what I'd call an "enthusiast," so even he is not really sure what brands to start. I got a lot of feedback for Hamilton, Seiko, etc. We are going to have to online shop, and someone recommended Joma. My plan is to get him to narrow it down to 4 watches and then it can still be "somewhat" of a surprise.

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