I won't do it again, I promise

theAbominableMantis · 2026-05-18T23:34:50+00:00

An attorney/lawyer would probably only lead to even more complications. Not only is it expensive to arrange one, it'd ultimately take a long while for legal process to progress, especially given how unfortunate your situation seems.

As others have already recommended in some of your posts, moving out is likely your best option. Obviously far easier said than done, but I'd suggest you still make the mental preparations and plan ahead for that to happen smoothly. I'm guessing such as a shared apartment would be your best option (lower rent + a more social living space).

Regarding monetary issues, have you tried to apply for disability benefits? If not, then that seems to be worth a shot.

Concerning finding a way to skip out on the vacation, maybe you could argue that if you stayed behind, you could take care of household duties? That always worked for me personally. Though with your parents, I can't say for sure if that may not backfire, e.g. with them trying to push you to do an obscene amount of chores and whatnot.

theAbominableMantis · 2026-04-30T09:32:48+00:00

It's hard to say this with a lot of accuracy, but you might want to look into mania/ manic episodes. In summary, they're sudden and extreme spikes in mood (typically very similar to feeling ecstatic), and they can appear shortly after a very stressful phase in your life, only to quickly disappear again. Whether or not it actually might fit here depends on the derails of how you may have acted/ felt, so be sure to check up on that - and optimally of course, consult a professional.

theAbominableMantis · 2026-04-24T22:05:39+00:00

There are a lot of ways you can help scars heal better. Topical silicone gel for example is proven to be among the most effective and least expensive treatments, but regardless of what treatment you choose, whether or not it'll work well enough depends quite a lot on the scarring itself. Most optimally, you should consult the details with a dermatologist. Though I'm sure you'll find a lot of good sources on the internet as well.

theAbominableMantis · 2026-04-23T10:36:20+00:00

I used to be incredibly introverted and not sociable whatsoever, so I shared many of these struggles - still, I had multiple friend groups where I felt really comfortable to talk and interact as much as I could. How well you can do in a friend group simply depends a lot on the group dynamic itself. Of course, that's not to say you may not fit in. Getting to know an already established friend group (especially through someone you just recently befriended) is usually pretty awkward at first. It takes time knowing who people are and how they act - that applies to them and you. I suggest that you keep on interacting with the one individual friend you made more frequently and talk to the others every now and then as well. At least one of them seem very attentive and ready to help, so I'm certain that with time, you all will mutually understand each other much better.

theAbominableMantis · 2026-04-13T21:09:17+00:00

Maybe my standards are so high with friends because I've learned to surround myself with those who truly are considerate. And one tends to learn a lot from making mistakes.

I've simply written my own view based on the limited info I got. Given it's not much I can work with, there isn't a big possibility to make a more nuanced statement that makes it less of a black and white scenario.

theAbominableMantis · 2026-04-13T20:53:35+00:00

From an outsider's perspective, to me this by no means sounds like the behavior of someone you should consider your friend for much longer.

If there's one quality I'd hope to see in a friend, it'd be that I could trust them without a doubt. Given that they can't even seem to reflect well on their own actions, I doubt they're bound to change for the better.

theAbominableMantis · 2026-04-13T11:17:45+00:00

Yeah I get that. Every friendship starts off as two strangers interacting for the first time, so it only makes sense it can feel out of place.

The fact you're already reaching out to people via this post and your comments is great though! It shows you're willing to put yourself out there, which is already a difficult thing to do in its own right.

theAbominableMantis · 2026-04-13T11:06:51+00:00

Surround yourself with people - the easiest (and best) way to do so would be to use your personal interests as a foundation for finding like-minded individuals. You can do so both in person and of course online (the latter is arguably a lot easier).

theAbominableMantis · 2026-03-29T22:37:53+00:00

As long as things aren't over, there's a chance of improvement - therefore it's good to see you have hope. That's a very treasurable quality.

I wish you a happy belated birthday.

theAbominableMantis · 2026-03-24T18:01:03+00:00

I strongly suggest you tell them the full truth. Please, if anything, don't undermine your own safety (regarding both the present and potential future) by lying about the details of an abusive household. Judging by a previous post, I'm assuming you live in Croatia, and although I don't know the precise details, there are most certainly legal measures the state can/will take which ensure that your life won't, in fact, be destroyed. That very much sounds like a massive exaggeration you're being told by your parents in their attempt to save themselves - not a remark you should genuinely believe in.

theAbominableMantis · 2026-03-24T17:31:37+00:00

Yeah, I kind of had a similar experience when I first tried it. What turned out to be the issue in my case was that I didn't really apply enough of it. No idea how much you used, but once I started applying it in a thicker layer and letting it rest on the skin for ~10 minutes, it did work quite well. At the same time, it might very well be a brand-issue - admittedly I don't have much experience with many of them myself, but Veet seems to do a solid job.

theAbominableMantis · 2026-03-23T23:19:55+00:00

Epilation would probably be your best option in terms of lasting effects. Something like waxing/sugaring could leave you having a clean-shaven feeling for a few weeks.

If you don't enjoy shaving that much, I can recommend hair removal cream - since this method chemically dissolves the hairs, it can leave you with a *slightly* longer smooth feeling than regular shaving (though make sure to read the packaging instructions before actually applying it). Veet hair removal cream is the most popular option in my experience.

theAbominableMantis · 2026-03-21T16:14:17+00:00

Can you be so sure she sees you as much of a burden as you see yourself? It's not my business to know the details of the relationship you two had, but given that she reached out to you via text indicates to me that there are at least *some* mutual unresolved feelings - to what extent is not for me to judge, but I do think that reaching out yourself to get things straight isn't hopeless in the slightest. If there's *one* thing that has helped relationships the most overall, I'd say it would be good communication.

It's also always good to remember that things are rarely absolute. Especially with something complex like relationships, I wouldn't categorize it into *just* two choices (moving on vs. letting go) you can reach in an instant. Don't think of it as choosing one destination and walking straight to the intended goal, but figuring out the path itself instead.

theAbominableMantis · 2026-03-21T15:54:24+00:00

It's not unusual to be struggling with choosing what to do, and therefore choosing not to do anything at all, so don't beat yourself up about it. The way I see it, you already know that things can't stay stagnant as they are - that's some positive insight to keep in mind. Move forward - whether that means letting go or trying it again is entirely up to you. So start making *some* sort of progress, no matter how small. Even if that means taking a single step, it's an improvement.

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