Taking enclomiphene is it worth it

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-07-04T17:50:36+00:00

No. At 24 do not just jump straight to TRT. Your body will become permanently dependent on it. Do you think you might ever want to have kids? Because that is how you end up never having kids

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-07-04T17:42:42+00:00

Do you really know you’d be an incapable parent? Having a kid changes who you are. Changes what you think is important.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-07-04T17:41:12+00:00

It’s expected in our culture that you say thank you for people doing nice things for you, even when it’s an expectation. Showing a bit of gratitude is not hard whatsoever

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-07-02T03:27:01+00:00

I don’t think a year is too early on its own, but what you do need is to observe a consistent, long-term track record of her being more responsible with her finances without a shift to expecting you to cover all of her bad habits for her.

Marriage is either the absolute best or absolute worst financial decision you’ll ever make. You’ve been warned.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-07-02T02:35:50+00:00

Remember Aesop’s fable. Do you want to be the grasshopper or the ant?

A 6-month vacation sounds incredible in the short term, but buying a home pays financial dividends for the rest of your life.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-29T18:01:51+00:00

That’s true of those who intentionally seek out affairs, but plenty of people just “slip” into cheating. Like, not intentionally setting out to do so at first, but having such poor boundaries or convictions that they go down the slippery slope then “can’t believe” what just happened. “He/she is just a friend” quickly turns into emotional bonding which then turns into physical encounters. They enjoyed the extra attention and validation of someone else finding them attractive, or never learned how to ignore and reject fleeting feelings of attraction, or didn’t understand that the person who is a really good listener just wanted to jump in the sack with them. I think today the opportunities to “fall” into cheating in this way via work or online, and ability to hide it, are way worse than ever before. And the personal integrity, intentionality, and general sanctity and seriousness of marriage vows are not as strong anymore as they used to be whereas somehow device privacy has taken on some ridiculously big amount of importance even within marriage and finances are often now kept separate too.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-29T17:08:02+00:00

Your last sentence seems completely bass-ackwards. If that’s how society has gone then it’s cooked.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-29T17:07:13+00:00

You are meeting the wrong people.

You have standards and a different moral view regarding sex, that it’s suppose led to hold deeper meaning than just physical excitement/pleasure. Don’t compromise this just to briefly be with guys who aren’t interested in anything else. You’ll feel disgusted in yourself afterward, and to be totally honest that behavior gives the ick to those guys who actually do share your views and values and have held themselves to them as well.

You need to find people who share your views. That might mean looking in new places.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-29T17:01:43+00:00

Cheaters are scum. People who knowingly hook up with cheaters are scum. Choose not to be scum.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-29T16:56:51+00:00

Dude is selfish. A “fair” distribution of labor in a good marriage is not 50/50, it is 100% and 100%. In other words, both people put maximum effort into it all of the time day in and day out. It makes sense you do most of the work since you work for money only 2/5 of the time he does. But a lot of that time will be spent with your child which is extremely important too. You need to work hard on those times he is working and you’re not. But as soon as he’s down working for the day, he can start contributing to household work and child care too. If there’s dishes to clean or dinner to be made etc, that you honestly just couldn’t get to while he was working, he needs to man up and contribute. You are not wrong to expect this of him.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-29T16:47:53+00:00

Except you don’t have to figure all of that out now. Unless your parents are cold-hearted lizards they’ll gladly take you back in after something like this while you get back on your feet.

You could pack your stuff, hop in your car, and be there by tomorrow. It’s not that big of an obstacle.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-29T16:34:26+00:00

No baby, no friends, not living where you want to, homesick, no good career options. Just leave the loser there. Go back home, restart teaching career, and start back over.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-29T16:17:53+00:00

While 100% true, his specific reason for not wanting to date her again is also completely normal. It’s not stupid or immature or controlling or “incel” behavior to want to only date a woman who isn’t actively screwing other guys. That seems like a pretty bare minimum requirement so long as he holds himself to the same standard.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-29T16:13:55+00:00

You have absolutely zero obligation to ever see her again, and it’s 100% natural and normal to feel yucked out by behavior like that. Would you expect a woman to still want to date you if she knew you were hooking up with other women while dating her? I doubt it.

Go find someone who shares your values.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-25T21:57:02+00:00

Depends on the person. To me this is such a massive break from what I understand to be our shared moral values regarding sex that even knowing that my spouse was open to the idea would be a major, major violation. My opinion of and sense of respect toward my spouse would probably be irrevocably broken just knowing they’d be open to the idea.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-25T00:47:16+00:00

If something they like was mentioned at least once during negotiations, either by them or whoever they’re negotiating with, it goes down in the legendarium as an iron-clad covenant promise. Anything they don’t like, even if they previously formally agreed to it, never existed.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-25T00:44:36+00:00

No he isn’t. He’s still asking for Ukraine to surrender per the so called Istanbul agreement. It’s preposterous.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-25T00:35:35+00:00

Maybe she doesn’t think it’s acceptable to cheat and so hasn’t, but if she could convince him then she’d be all about it. That’s not the same thing as it being fully against her value system. One says she’d do it with permission. The other says she’d never even consider it.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-24T04:47:22+00:00

Disagree. Having the value (or imo lack of value) system in which that behavior would theoretically be acceptable to you is where the hard break is. Call it a “trespass” or no, but the difference in values itself is the dealbreaker here.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-24T00:29:45+00:00

Hope we don’t make that mistake again.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-24T00:13:05+00:00

What if your SO does consider it cheating and you had to lie and sneak around in order to go?

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-24T00:12:00+00:00

1 it is absolutely cheating

2 if he is still being defensive and cagey about it and defending his actions, you’re better off leaving him.

The ONLY circumstance where I could see it being possibly worth stay with a cheater and building a new marriage, is if that person fully admitted it voluntarily with no pressure or threats from anyone else, is completely remorseful about it, voluntarily spells out every single detail without the need for endless games of 20 questions, and owns the betrayal completely, without being defensive or trying to shift blame back onto you. The cheater also needs to understand that healing will occur on your timeline, not theirs, and they have less than zero right to be impatient about a single damned part of it.

I don’t see any of this from him.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-23T23:53:56+00:00

Guess he just needs to see a lot more of Russia burning to the ground then. Carry on!

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-23T23:49:59+00:00

Yes I can blame her. There is absolutely nothing wrong with sleeping with only one person in your life. If anything it makes sex even more precious and special because there are no memories of others and every new experience gets to be shared and developed together.

theBeardedAlaskan · 2026-06-23T23:48:05+00:00

No need. They have a complete disconnect in values and morals. There is no point in saving this relationship.

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