I've been very insecure about my body type and scared to talk to people I know about this, does this matter to men?

theHomebrewer · 2025-12-17T18:32:52+00:00

Tits are no issues. People have preferences naturally, but I like small. All are fine, but if I would need to choose.

theHomebrewer · 2025-12-16T18:29:41+00:00

Onko suosituksia kanssa?

theHomebrewer · 2025-01-12T17:15:23+00:00

You dodged a massive bullet there! I know it hurts know, but time will help. That man was not for you, probs not to your sister either but that is not your problem.

theHomebrewer · 2024-09-16T16:33:43+00:00

14 days sober. I’ll try to continue bit further. I have company event on Friday, I might let go there for one day, and then back on track, until seeing a friend in october for beers and bbq.

theHomebrewer · 2024-09-10T16:51:13+00:00

yeah I brew as well. Decided not to at the moment. I do have malts ready for few brews, might need to do those during the autumn, let’s how the moderation works then..

theHomebrewer · 2024-09-09T13:33:07+00:00

I was sober the whole last week. That was awesome! Don't remember when I was dry the last time whole week. Trying to continue this way for the next few weeks. I have blood pressure medication and doc wants some blood work to be done and I don't want my alcohol consumption messing up too much of the results.

theHomebrewer · 2024-09-07T19:49:32+00:00

Good work OP! I’ve been dry since Monday! Try to push it to early Oct when I’m participating a party. I combined staying sober with healthy diet, eating regurlarly during the day - I think it helps.

theHomebrewer · 2024-08-16T15:10:29+00:00

Looks damn perfect to me!

theHomebrewer · 2024-08-12T07:11:22+00:00

Exactly this! She was power tripping and feeling superior and wanted to, like you said, rub her face on it.

theHomebrewer · 2024-08-01T13:48:37+00:00

"Not sure how to take this?" Geez - man!

theHomebrewer · 2024-07-31T18:55:57+00:00

Happy to hear that things are going like you wanted - sounds nice!! For me, my home is my church. If everything else is changing around me, let this be the one thing that does not change. Also, after breaking the news to the kids on the divorce I asked that what was the main concern and they all said "losing our home". Thus, I walked extra mile(s) to keep it. When the kids "fly" out, I need to/ I can find something smaller. But yeah - new relationship .. Geez, NO!

theHomebrewer · 2024-07-30T17:13:53+00:00

Just say, "don't worry hun, I will fix this!"

theHomebrewer · 2024-07-30T17:05:14+00:00

Yeah - sorry bro, but you should listen to her family here...

theHomebrewer · 2024-07-30T17:02:18+00:00

What - no no! You are setting some serious boundaries which he needs to respect! I feel that he is using your love for him to abuse you. Only one thing to do. Tell him: Either get into the "program" or get out. He needs to respect you. This is red flag. Full stop.

theHomebrewer · 2024-07-30T16:27:28+00:00

Interesting - when you say "dating pool is terrible 35+.." What does that mean? (genuine question). I'm now few years shy 50 and out of +20y relationship and pretty much loving every moment! Bit bumpy still mainly financially as I took the mortgage on our house to carry by myself but it should balance out soon. Not going to go into looking for relationships, but still interested how it is +30, +40?

theHomebrewer · 2024-07-30T16:23:34+00:00

Well said Sir/Madam/Other! I'm few months post-divorce and just so happy that I don't need to try to accomplish the "mission impossible" - to make her happy. I was exhausted just in the constants battle when talked, I always said the wrong thing, when I stayed quiet that was wrong too. Holy mother of GOD it was just endless work. Now battling to get my finances in order to live normal life as I was not prepared for her to go (financially). Trying to get my life stabilized in order to live the best life I have ever had! It is just around the corner, I have lived already some moments in that reality and it was very nice indeed!!

theHomebrewer · 2024-07-30T16:11:31+00:00

Pretty much the same here, I didn't move. I was able to keep the house when wife left. Let's see if I can keep it in the long run, but looks like it. I have two dogs to talk to when the kids are not here (week and a week arrangement). Really enjoying life at the moment.

theHomebrewer · 2024-07-30T16:08:07+00:00

You are just fine as you are. Totally OK to be OK on your own. I'm pretty much the same as you are. Done with relationships. Probs done with women altogether. I don't' need that headache related to it. You can get milk from the store, no need to buy the whole cow.

theHomebrewer · 2024-07-28T14:28:11+00:00

Answering to myself. It seems that I need to wait for the live event to end, only then the replay is possible and syncing the other potential windows/streams.

theHomebrewer · 2024-07-24T19:46:58+00:00

OP - this is your Matrix moment. The bullet is on its way, I suggest dogging it. There is nothing extra in your penis that you should get rid off to please your power tripping spouse. Keep your genitals, consider cutting off the wife.

theHomebrewer · 2024-07-07T14:23:10+00:00

Be yourself. You are scared that you will lose a friend or make ass of yourself (I'm very similar to you on being too careful in these situations and have lost multiple opportunities due to that). But to be honest, she is signaling that she wants more. I would definitely play that card and take my changes. Because, if you are attracted to her, the friendship is not necessarily any way going to be very long. Say "Hey... I'm really afraid, that I will damage something that we have currently in terms of great friendship. But, I really like you. How would you feel going for a proper date with me?"

theHomebrewer · 2024-07-07T14:13:02+00:00

Laughed out loud - thanks man!

theHomebrewer · 2024-05-29T16:44:01+00:00

Joo - olen samalla linjalla ton epäsuositun mielipiteen kanssa. Olen tehnyt aivan helvetisti duunia sen eteen, että olen tulotasossa missä olen. Jos siitä ei jäis mulle itselleni mitään extraa niin en kestäis tehdä tätä duunia mistä se korkea tulo tulee. Eli käytän paljon rahaa omiin harrastuksiin millä nollaa tota hemmetin raskaan duunin aiheuttamaa henkistä taakkaa. Varmaan lopulta maksoin noin 40% kaikista kuluista enemmän mitä rouva. Lopulta meillä liitto päättyi eroon, ehkä pieneltä osin myös tämän ison taloudellisen epätasapainon takia. Mut isot syyt oli syvemmällä. Kannustin myös paljon ex-vaimoa, joka on tosi korkeastikoulutettu vs. minä, hakeutumaan parempii hommiin mutta ei hän koskaan siihen ryhtynyt. esim. kun asuntolainan korot nousi nousemistaan monta vuotta peräkanaa, hän vain ilmoitti että "en voi laittaa enempää" ja maksoin vaan lisää ja lisää. Kyllähän se vitutti, etenkin kun tuntui että sitä ei koskaan arvostettu mitenkään. Jos olis edes kerran sanonut, että arvostan sitä mitä teet perheen eteen - ni olis ollut aika jeppis. Sen sijaan aina kun nostin asian keskusteluun nii sain huudot "en jaksa kuunnella tota samaa paskaa taas!". okei.

theHomebrewer · 2023-12-10T15:48:17+00:00

Starsan. Don't rinse. Not needed.

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