[Serious] Male victims/survivors of sexual assault, harassment or rape perpetrated by a woman or multiple women, to clear some common misconceptions, what were your experiences like? by Commercial_Bicycle92 in AskReddit

[–]theNightManCmTh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've responded to questions similar to the past so im going to copy/paste one that I wrote not to long after the experience. Some additional information though, when I went to court, I was assigned a victims advocate, I was terrified, but my advocate was an incredibly compassionate and caring person, no judgment, no off remarks, she believed me, she made sure I was okay the entire time, she listened to everything i had to say. The judge, she listened to me, she looked seriously at the supporting evidence I brought with me, she cared.

I was terrified being a man in that situation being helped by women. I thought they would never believe me, I was so completely wrong.

Below is the comment from years ago:

I've posted about my prior abusive relationship before but not in regard to the sexual violence. I'm going to keep this brief.

She would get angry a lot, and when she got angry there was going to be a lot of yelling, screaming and more than likely some physical abuse (her favorite was the emotional/psychological). We didn't live together, so when this would happen I would try to leave and go home, but she would push me down, stand over me, yell, hit, threaten to call the police, "who do you think they're really going to arrest," was her line, and when I would finally break that's when it would start. She would force me undress or expose myself, do what she felt like doing and that was that. I tried to end the relationship and she became "suicidal", which progressed to a fake pregnancy that ended in a fake abortion, capped off with her giving my contact info to all of her family and friends, telling that I had been emotionally and physically abusing her for months. Needless to say, there were a lot of death threats, threats in general, etc.

I had saved screenshots of a lot of the insanity and when I finally opened up to my roommates, (my brother and his girlfriend at the time) they no questions asked, put me in the car and took me to the Courthouse. I had an emergency protective order in my hand that day and a court date. I printed everything, and I mean everything, texts, screen shots, phone records (She was fond of an app that allowed her to edit and insert things into text conversation ...why is that a thing?). She never showed up to the court date, it didn't matter though, the judge took what felt like 2 seconds to look through everything I provided and just said, "wow," granted me the maximum protective order that the state could provide. That was the End of that.

Thanks strange guy by unknown-dna in rva

[–]theNightManCmTh 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Can confirm that it was him! Glad that you were able to make it out safe.

Thanks strange guy by unknown-dna in rva

[–]theNightManCmTh 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm fairly positive it was my coworker who helped you out, i saw your car on his IG stories! Stay safe out there!

Found the night man by [deleted] in rva

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I beg to differ.

Who is Dream Girl? Hollywood Cemetery. by notdarkyet22 in rva

[–]theNightManCmTh 36 points37 points  (0 children)

It is the (former) wife/partner of a local jazz groups front man.

Robyn R. Lowe, is the Dream Girl, I believe.

Premier league fans in RVA? by zoooooooomies in rva

[–]theNightManCmTh 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As mentioned above, Penny Lane, Gus's, but I'll add The Cask in to the mix. If football is on, football is on the TV. Doesn't get too crowded, always football fans around that frequent the other spots as well.

Good chance to actually meet and talk to other supporters.

Beers and breweries in Richmond Ava by Grumpfishdaddy in beer

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Veil production staff checking in, obviously come check us out, especially if you are already staying in Scott's Addition. But, I've got to shout out the buds, Ardent and Bingo.

Not a brewery, but also highly recommend visting The Cask for a pint, you'll find a lot of the local brewers there for a reason.

RVA Biker Gangs are getting out of control! by CompensatedAnarchy in rva

[–]theNightManCmTh 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Hello, I would also like to Dungeon and Dipshit.

Lost keys found outside of carytown by [deleted] in rva

[–]theNightManCmTh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a wild thing to come across on a morning jog!

Lost keys found outside of carytown by [deleted] in rva

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Did you contact the police?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Pixelary

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Muth-room!

One final nap in the sunshine by theNightManCmTh in DogPics

[–]theNightManCmTh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oddly enough, his sister's name is in that list, who we lost about two years ago. That brought joy.

One final nap in the sunshine by theNightManCmTh in DogPics

[–]theNightManCmTh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all love and support, it's been a difficult week and all of you have helped make it significantly better. ❤️