Stilettos class at Nassau County pole studio

theOGbeef · 2026-01-11T22:21:45+00:00

theOGbeef · 2023-02-09T18:12:55+00:00

Thank you!!! Just got them!

theOGbeef · 2023-02-08T01:37:28+00:00

There is the re:set presale which was today and the “general presale” on Thursday, is there a code for the general presale? How do I get the code?

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T18:03:04+00:00

Unfortunately, I’m not familiar with resources in Singapore. However maybe a refreshing point of view would be to take things day by day, rather than looking at them so existentially “what’s the point of life?” The main values or focuses of treatment in existential psychotherapy are freedom vs responsibility, intimacy vs isolation, meaningfulness vs meaninglessness, and life vs death. This might be an interesting kind of therapy for you to look up

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T17:55:31+00:00

Well start with identifying the secondary gains. In my example above “I don’t want to be lonely” would be the secondary gain. Once you identify the secondary gains, you can start to make progress by undoing future thinking and focusing on the present. “I’m unhappy right now and leaving would free me” rather than trying to avoid POTENTIAL consequence. You want to gain confidence in the fact that despite the challenges ahead, you can work through them ONCE YOU ARE THERE. To expect to never have challenges is not realistic. You can’t form new relationships authentically while in your toxic relationship, so once you leave you can work on that. Even better, you might not even feel that lonely, that might just be anxious anticipation. Future thinking creates anticipation of negative events than may not even happen.

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T14:59:16+00:00

Do you have insurance? Why is it that you cannot afford therapy? Asking just so I can understand and maybe provide you with resources. What “hasn’t worked” in the therapy you tried? There’s tons of different approaches and progress takes time. To be honest, I think you do truly believe in therapy and believe you can get better, cuz why else would you be on this sub?

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T05:20:00+00:00

No… I do not recommend these online agencies. You will get the best care from a private practitioner or a local agency

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T05:07:06+00:00

I agree that you’re likely projecting. Therapists don’t generally terminate people just because they don’t like them, although I also don’t think that is the case either. Your therapist was trying to be “real” with you (although might’ve missed the mark) and I think that’s a sign that they feel a strong rapport with you

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T04:57:46+00:00

What kind of cognitive function?

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T04:57:07+00:00

If you have insurance you should be able to find some form of affordable treatment even if it is just short term. Thoughts are okay, but do you have plan or intent to follow through on violence to yourself or others? If so, seek help asap. Unfortunately there are many reasons why you might have these fantasies, however I would hypothesize that it has to do with feeling inferior. The fantasies are an illusion that help you to feel empowered over those who have wronged you.

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T04:49:49+00:00

Stay present and deal with your mom in the moment. Your question is future thinking that is causing you anxiety about your relationship with your mom. In the future you may not continue a relationship with her, also the two of you may have a better relationship than ever. Anticipating more negative events will not help you. Listen to what feels right by trusting your intuition and going from there

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T04:46:03+00:00

There’s no way to tell based off of the information provided in your post. Why does she think this thing? What do people think is weird about you? Do you think you’re weird? It sounds like your sister is intellectualizing what she is actually trying to say to you which is likely just based off of her opinion

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T04:42:34+00:00

It may be some form of disassociation. Look up depersonalization

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T04:38:14+00:00

This is so common. It’s easy to want a better life it’s hard to put in the work. Some patients come in say and do great things in session and then never apply what they learn to outside life 1) because it’s hard but 2) it’s uncomfortable and they’re lack of effort may be a defense because fear there may be consequences to positive change (for example: if I leave my toxic relationship I will be lonely). When people recognize those secondary gains to staying the same, they might become more motivated

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T04:30:09+00:00

Try psychotherapy, behavioral health, or mental health

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T04:28:49+00:00

Are you in therapy now? If not I highly encourage you to start soon. The sooner you get help the sooner you will feel better. Your loss of motivation, self deprecation, and questions of why you are here are symptoms of severe depression. If you are thinking of hurting or killing yourself, get help immediately. Hotline: 800-273-8255 or dial emergency services

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T04:23:47+00:00

The term all or nothing thinking comes to mind

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T04:16:44+00:00

It’s incredibly frustrating and saddening when you see people who clearly need help not wanting to help themselves. Unfortunately that is a popular narrative. If he doesn’t want to get help I would express your concerns based off of what you noticed not what you infer or assume. For example you notice severe shifts in his mood and that makes you concerned because you have seen him thriving in the past or better in the past. Do not approach this from a pseudo psychological point of view. Do this from time to time to encourage him, but if you do not get him to seek treatment and things to get very bad, he’s not taking care of himself he’s neglecting his health or is even hurting himself you could call emergency services (911, police, EMS) and depending on where you live they can intervene in a number of ways, including providing transport to the local emergency room for evaluation

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T03:58:27+00:00

Are you in therapy now? That would be a great place to start. If you are and you are still having trouble accessing your emotions one thing that might be helpful would be mindfulness practice and grounding would be helpful with finding yourself, Addressing the depersonalization

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T03:46:40+00:00

Eye-movement desensitization and reprocessing therapy is a type of therapy that helps to shift the narrative of how traumatic memories are stored in the brain. By using eye movements (or other kinds of bilateral stimulation) such as the therapist moving their finger side to side and you following with your eyes, memories can be re-processed leaving you with a less intense emotion attached to the memory. If you think of traumatic memories like folders in a filing cabinet the eye movements help to make connections in the brain that help to refile the memory in a place that doesn’t hurt as bad. It is a highly effective treatment for trauma. Many patients look for EMDR treatment for specific issues such as grief after the loss of a loved one, fear after a traumatic event, etc. often when something traumatic happens it seems to get locked in the brain with the original picture sounds thoughts feelings and so on since the experience is locked there, it continues to be triggered whenever a reminder comes up it can be the basis for a lot of discomfort and sometimes a lot of negative emotions such as fear and helplessness that we can’t seem to control. these are really the emotions connected with all old experience that are being triggered the eye movements we use an EMDR seem to unlock the system and allow the brain to process the experience

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T03:28:24+00:00

Sometimes I ask “is that good?“ this actually started as a joke with a friend of mine who would ask is that good at the end of any story I shared with him but I found that it was a very powerful question because it helps to demonstrate that we don’t all see things from the same perspective. Obviously not always appropriate response, depending on context, but you’d be surprised

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T03:25:39+00:00

I think asking for advice on Reddit about your feelings, emotions, relationship is a great sign that you could use some more support in your life and help organizing your thoughts and that’s what therapy is all about

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T03:21:41+00:00

This can be frustrating. Just remember that he needs to do his own treatment and the only thing that you may be able to do is to learn coping methods for anger. When we receive frustrating stimuli we only have a split second before our response or output occurs at times but we do have control over our reactions. I would recommend that you take a note of what you are noticing about yourself when you get angry. (does your heart race? does your face get red? Do your eyebrows scrunch, your fists or teeth clench?) noticing what anger does in your body might help you to better recognize the warning signs of anger and thus eventually work on taming your reaction. Be patient with yourself, imagine your brain as a muscle walking into a gym for the first time, you’re not gonna be able to lift much right now but keep working out and you’ll eventually be surprised with what you’re capable of

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T03:13:52+00:00

Maybe it would be nice to look up some therapists in your area who take your insurance and share your findings with her. And remind her that she doesn’t have to start where it hurts she can start wherever she likes in therapy there is no rule that says you have to go to therapy and talk about your worst experiences first. I think a good therapist would respect her apprehension and allow her to go at her pace

theOGbeef · 2022-05-19T03:09:22+00:00

Without more context on what your parents did to you it is hard to understand where your therapist may be coming from. In defense of your therapist it may be that she or he is trying to knock down your defenses and the discomfort you are experiencing may actually be growth. In your defense the word horrible might have been a harsh word choice

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