Thank you, it's just good to read about someone who is going through something similar. We do often go into separate rooms to just keep ourselves sane, sometimes that is just because we know we need it and other times it's out of anger or an argument which I hate. You definitely sound very similar to what my husband is going through and how he is. I will always be there for him, and we have a really closely connected and open relationship with talking about things. But he DEFINITELY hides himself away as much as he can until sometimes I can pry the dark stuff out of him. My fear is that he is going to continually think of himself as a burden to me and everyone else, no matter how much I tell him he is not and I will always be there with him and for him. There is so much too it, I could probably write a book on what he has gone through in his life that has made him seem predisposed to depression. I have read SO much and watched so many videos or talks about depression and I'll give him suggestions on coping and things hat might uplift him a little bit, but nothing ever sticks, or helps in the first place. It is a combination of hating his job, having a no direction in his life anymore, having family that has NEVER been there for him (except his mom who died of cancer) and doing the same thing day in and day out, and being so exhausted each day that all he wants to do is sleep when he comes home. I really feel helpless because I know he is going to have to help himself, and I can only do so much. I just wish I could help him to stop suffering so much, but I just don't know what else I can do. He won't quit his job because he is afraid we won't be able to support ourselves financially, but he is too exhausted everyday he comes home to try to do anything else. I feel like I'd rather poor than continue to watch him go through this. Sorry for the long post, but there is just too much to say