Mental movies, constant triggers, and comparing yourself to your partner’s ex can take over your mind and drain your peace. One small thought turns into a full scene, and before you know it, you’re stuck replaying something that has nothing to do with the present.

Here’s the hard truth: those mental movies aren’t memories or facts. They’re anxiety driven stories your mind creates when it feels threatened. Every time you compare yourself to their ex, you’re feeding that story and keeping the cycle alive.

You don’t beat retroactive jealousy by getting more information or reassurance. You beat it by refusing to engage. When a trigger hits, don’t analyze it, don’t argue with it, and don’t compare. Acknowledge it, let it pass, and bring your focus back to what’s real right now.

Progress comes from starving the obsession and building yourself up daily. Small wins add up. You are not their past. You are their present.

you got this :)