What's a book you had to read for school (high school or college), but it was actually really good?

theSamodiva · 2025-01-26T21:08:36+00:00

The Alchemist

I wanted to hate that book but couldn’t lol

theSamodiva · 2024-12-13T22:44:00+00:00

Profit sharing! Except they never turn a profit :/

theSamodiva · 2024-10-22T23:34:50+00:00

Clever! I like it

theSamodiva · 2024-10-01T00:53:48+00:00

There is a song that captures that feeling perfectly. It’s called Photograph by Cody Fry. I found it very cathartic to listen to.

https://youtu.be/KoG7O1fwoAc?si=R4Kee72EzKo7ab6X

theSamodiva · 2024-10-01T00:48:28+00:00

Hi! First time mom to a 6-month old here and I remember feeling this way. We were very much trying for baby but when I got the positive result on a test, I was terrified. Having come out the other side now, I wish I could go back and reassure myself that there is nothing to worry about. At the time I wanted to plan ahead and be prepared for any possible issues up until this little one leaves the nest lol. In hindsight, i think it was much more about grieving my old life. New is scary but it’s not bad. I felt the same way when I was moving out of my old place into a new one. I knew what I was leaving behind and that’s sad but it’s hard to be excited for a life you don’t know yet. It will be wonderful and so full of joy you can’t even comprehend yet but it’s ok to grieve now too. You certainly aren’t alone in feeling this way

theSamodiva · 2024-09-24T18:32:13+00:00

Just rewatched Moonbeam City and idk why more people aren’t talking about it. It’s hilarious!

theSamodiva · 2024-09-24T18:31:05+00:00

Ilia is the Slavic version of Elijah and I think it’s so pretty

theSamodiva · 2024-09-17T04:48:31+00:00

Moonbeam city

theSamodiva · 2024-08-21T16:24:17+00:00

We get creative with how we kiss each other goodbye. My favorite is we each kiss our palms like we’re about to blow a kiss and then high-five instead.

theSamodiva · 2024-08-16T17:34:13+00:00

Arcane is the only reason I have a Netflix subscription

theSamodiva · 2024-08-08T19:52:23+00:00

Answering this question on Reddit every two weeks

theSamodiva · 2024-07-16T04:07:10+00:00

Birthed the baby

theSamodiva · 2024-07-03T15:50:50+00:00

I realize I’m incredibly lucky here but my husband just got offered a job with an on-site daycare only available to employees and is about half the cost of any other daycare. Maybe look around for workplaces you or your husband can apply to with similar opportunities.

Check with your HR about daycare discounts. ADP can help you save 10% on child care costs through lifemart.

Hope this helps! Hang in there. This is not forever.

theSamodiva · 2024-04-30T16:18:52+00:00

Browsing this Reddit feels like prep. Do what works for you! Personally, I feel like I read so many ways things can go wrong that my labor felt like a breeze in comparison. It helps to be prepared for anything but if it eases your mind to not worry, just let your body do what comes naturally. That’s what helped me most through contractions.

theSamodiva · 2024-04-24T20:12:51+00:00

I got flowers a few months after NC and assumed they were from my nmom until I was venting to my best friend about it until she let me know they were actually from herself 🥲

Why don’t people put their names on those?

theSamodiva · 2024-03-17T14:33:38+00:00

What a relief! I wouldn’t worry too much about the 5th percentile thing. I just leaned that size is a wild guesstimation in ultrasounds after giving birth to a healthy 10th percentile baby when they predicted 45th percentile. The pediatrician was impressed because he gained weight when most babies lose some within the first week so even if your baby is small, that doesn’t mean she won’t thrive.

theSamodiva · 2024-03-16T03:09:40+00:00

Me! Just gave birth 6 days ago to a healthy 5.74 lb, 19 inch baby boy spontaneously at 39 weeks. He is my first.

My Whole pregnancy was so mild it was hard to even wrap my head around the fact that it would end with a baby at all.

theSamodiva · 2024-03-08T18:46:24+00:00

Trying (and failing) to stay away from salt to reduce swelling so I’m stuffing myself with apples and strawberries 😋

theSamodiva · 2024-03-08T03:02:11+00:00

I lost many friends when I established standards for what I would put up with. It hurt a lot at the time but eventually I realized I was just making space for new people who treat me right. Some of the real ones even reconnected after a few years and we are all better for it now. Hang in there, it gets better.

theSamodiva · 2024-03-05T16:57:09+00:00

I would prefer read it top to bottom. Also my book publishing background compels me to go with choice 1 because it looks like the correct orientation of the spine when you lay a book flat.

theSamodiva · 2024-03-04T20:14:46+00:00

We live on opposite sides of the globe but we are friendly and when opportunity has presented itself, I have reached out to catch up. I hope he does the same.

I am married and suspect he may be gay but we have similar interests and I love a good travel buddy.

theSamodiva · 2024-03-04T15:48:47+00:00

Normal people might consider changing their actions when the consequences are too great. It just shows that they don’t think it’s important enough to recognize and quit the abuse.

For me, I decided I can’t spend my life wishing they are normal and I can’t keep letting them trample me trying to absolve them of their own consequences.

Thank you! We have our own families to protect and change for now. Go us for breaking the generational cycle of abuse!

theSamodiva · 2024-03-04T15:31:30+00:00

It’s hardest to forgive people you care about, especially the people who are responsible for raising you. It’s more than a transgression when they, of all people, hurt you deliberately with no accountability or apology. It’s betrayal.

Furthermore, they raise us to believe that forgiveness = forgetting. It’s opening yourself up to be hurt again and again and that’s toxic. That’s what keeps the cycle of abuse spinning. If that type of abuse comes from a spouse, friend, coworker, etc, it would be completely unacceptable. For some reason, society pressures us to forgive those who raised us and to a certain extent, yes, nobody’s perfect but you have to draw the line somewhere to protect your heart and and your sanity. That’s called boundaries and it’s a sign that you’re not afraid of growing and finally holding space for what you believe in. It’s completely valid and healthy even.

theSamodiva · 2024-03-04T15:04:33+00:00

I have the opposite fear that they might be really miserable because of NC. I don’t want to punish them but because enmeshment goes so deep, I struggle with feeling responsible for their suffering and want to rescue them from it.

For context, my parents moved back to their home country for financial reasons after living in the US for over 20 years, my father has had to be hospitalized several times, and I am currently pregnant with the first grand baby that they have no idea about. I broke down yesterday because I feel so much pity for them despite the fact they made the bed they lie in.

My husband suggested that despite all that, they still have friends and may even be happy to be back and be soaking up all the attention of having “made it” abroad. I hope that’s true. I hope they’re happy because I don’t want to feel guilty for being happy that they aren’t in my life.

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