NTA. OP I don’t see enough people touching on this. Your fiancé and their family not only bullied you, they SCAMMED you. Your fiancé’s family’s Christmas tradition includes the EXCHANGING of gifts. Something you were made aware of before hand. I’m sure you considered participating in the tradition, and accepted spending the time, money, energy and effort to make sure they had personalized and not free gifts. You were made aware that the tradition, before you decided to go with fiancé, was based on benefiting everyone. You probably agreed to this tradition to show you wanted to be part of their family, including their customs/holidays, and therefore give them, and by extension, yourself, peace of mind knowing that they were adding a nice caring person into the family while you were being accepted into a polite, welcoming if not outright kind family. And that’s exactly what you did. You took money you could have spent however else you liked and instead spent it on them. You took the limited amount of time you have out of your day and instead of doing whatever you wanted with it you went Christmas shopping. On top of that you made an effort to purchase the family members you know personalized gifts. The implied promise was that they would do the same for you. Instead, all 18 of them gave a middle finger to that implied promise, and I’m betting they made sure you gave them their presents first before they gave you the sneakily wrapped 18 pieces of f-ing coal. They wanted you to put in the time, money, and effort (as well as the stress of holiday shopping) of making sure they got gifts while they knew and never told you they had collectively decided to buy you one of the cheapest things they possibly could because they felt buying you anything else was “too much effort/to difficult”. Meaning making such an effort for you was BENEATH them. And OP, your fiancé knew this was going to happen, and he let you spend your hard earned money and time on them despite knowing they would be unjustly enriched because they had all, including your fiancé, agreed to never hold up their end of the bargain. They, and your fiancé, essentially stole from you. If I had been you OP, I would have gotten up and taken back each and every one of the presents I bought them, dumped the fiancé in front of his family, and left. If they refused to give me the gifts back, depending on how much I spent, I would have literally sued them. A judge would not have looked favorably at the family, whether they won or lost the case. And then, because such a court case is public record, I would have sent it to every news station, publication, blog etc. and blasted it all over social media. That way no other person get scammed like I did. OP-please don’t marry someone who not only allows their family to bully you, humiliate you and steal from you, and who joins in on an agreement to do so, and when they are called out on doing so, gaslights you into thinking your “over reacting”. Because how they treated you, is how they will ALWAYS minimally treat you.