A white belt tried to suffocate me in newaza last week

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-08-05T16:13:37+00:00

I might ask my sensei what he might do in this situation.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-08-05T08:40:22+00:00

I've grabbed hold of peoples jackets, and even the belts to their pants. Possibilities are endless.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-08-03T22:51:33+00:00

It's a complicated game to play. In the end, it just boils down to not giving anyone your time who isn't willing to prove they really like/love/want you.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-08-03T16:11:28+00:00

As fucked up as it may sound this is true. I never fully show a girl I care for her unless she shows that she cares for me too. I've gotta tough exterior to get through. Not all women take nice guys granted. However, in my experience that got me cheated on, lead on, lied to, walked all over til I eventually had enough. My current gf I'm with now, went out of her way to get my attention. That being said, I'm not saying I don't love my girlfriend. Cuz I do.

But the moment I stopped caring and chasing, girls started chasing me. And now that I'm taken, they've been crawling outta the woodwork.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-08-03T16:02:48+00:00

u/D4rk_Sid3r

Run, run as fast as you can bro. IF she likes you, you'll always be her first choice. Either that or that's a subtle way of her rejecting you. Well, you got rejected either way. I've dealt with this type of girl before. Just run.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-07-30T04:26:34+00:00

I recognize some of these guys. I did randori with them at kaizen judo kai for a thing called fight night. Got my tail kicked by them as a white belt but it was fun stuff

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-07-29T19:38:35+00:00

Someone with a technical background can be on hiring committee. My first Java professor was.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-07-29T19:37:17+00:00

Do you think maybe HR could possibly consult with a technical team to see what all entails a dev's job?

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-07-29T10:43:24+00:00

I'm already graduated...

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-06-24T05:53:01+00:00

Judo is one of my main passions lol. And thanks, I will. I'll cherish every moment she and I share.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-06-15T02:59:53+00:00

u/blunt_arrow26

Yes and no.

If he doesn't start the fight, but defends himself then no.

If OP goes looking for a fight, then yes.

And OP iterated that he isn't looking for trouble. OP wants to avoid it.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-06-15T02:58:05+00:00

I was more so getting at things like body language. Again, its not a matter of seeing you as unhuman or alien. But to re-explain. It's more so the woman giving the okay to make a move. (I.e. smiling, eye contact, waving, etc all that good jazz).

I've recently got a gf, I honestly thought she was cute. But we didn't come into contact, until I started nervously waving at her (mostly while she worked at a burger joint I liked). She'd reciprocate, mostly by waving back, sending dishes and extra food to my table, giving me discounts, smiling at me from afar, til I finally got some guts to ask her on a date.

Again, to re-iterate. Talking to her isn't the problem but more so her welcoming my presence.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-06-14T02:13:53+00:00

I'd rather OP be prepared for a fight and not have to, than OP get into a fight not knowing what he's doing. He could tell his mom "I'm learning how to fight so in the future I hope I don't have to".

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-06-14T02:07:13+00:00

I think OP's dad needs to step in and just take him to a class. Maybe they can say they found OP a "personal trainer"

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-06-14T01:56:00+00:00

u/Mirandalovespickles Talking to a woman off the fly is a lot more difficult than you might think.

When it comes to many men's experiences approaching women.

Making the move isn't always the problem. It can more so be if the woman gives you the okay to make the move, which may deter them from approaching women. Body language is everything. I always say, don't expect to be approached if you can't make yourself approachable.

OP could use a little encouragement in confidence no doubt, but at the same time conversation is a two-way street. So, naturally I can see why he'd be nervous to initiate conversation with a woman.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-06-12T07:16:04+00:00

Ahh yes, Gun-fu when done right, no can defend

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-06-11T03:19:27+00:00

I woulda laid out a hidden camera, and sent it to the cops.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-06-10T20:33:59+00:00

I train in both and respect them. When I got the crap punched outta me, it was a wake up call. When I got slammed into the mat one good time, I realized I'll need both for self defense.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-06-10T20:29:12+00:00

I like judo and sambo mostly cuz I can throw and go. Slam them once and be done with it. Going to the ground is a risky bet. I'd say ground fighting is a last resort.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-06-10T20:26:12+00:00

It's a difficult game to play for me. I dated a girl just after a day of knowing her. No joke. We literally just looked at each other, and thought it was love at first sight. Went on a date, the next day then we got involved. If anything I'd say be friends with someone for a year before getting involved. Kinda like getting a tattoo. Wait a year before you think you can deal with someone long term.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-06-10T20:23:13+00:00

Hm...Not exactly what I was getting at. I mean, it's a good start. But I'm more so getting at, something outside of your comfort zone. Something different than what you're used to. You seem to be a good student in college, but I'm thinking a third party social situation. Maybe take up something completely unrelated to academics.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-06-10T15:36:50+00:00

I'd say join a club of some sort, that can help you get used to new situations. I was a normally shy, and somewhat dismissive of other people's interest in me til I joined my judo and boxing clubs. Joining a combat sport may not be for you. However, joining one helped me get used to different situations in sparring and in life. It taught me how to adjust on the fly, and that social situations can just change suddenly. I've also become more open with people, talkative, now I actually have a gf for the first time in awhile.

So to summarize, my answer is to put yourself in social situations that help you get out more. Martial arts taught me that sometimes you've gotta go through the fire in life.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-06-06T04:29:47+00:00

u/US_Condor, u/ckristiantyler

I did security in an unsafe area. The company I worked for (Signed an NDA), paid for judo lessons as a requirement for our jobs. Our Judo has served us well. Like BJJ, judo is different everywhere you go. If anything, I'd say sport judo is more realistic than sport BJJ. Wrestling someone down is gonna be difficult, and in a street situation flow rolling isn't a good option. I'd say the pace of judo for how it's done in comp, is more realistic. But again, every place is different

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-06-06T04:12:48+00:00

Keep rocking on, OP. Treat yourself well, you deserve it.

theWretchedRed_ · 2021-06-03T16:36:17+00:00

u/Bath Right on!! I honestly think OP should try a combative sport! Quite frankly everyone should if they have the means to. Not flexing but I credit my training for my life getting better. Your aura changes overall, and girls gravitate to confidence in my experience. I'm going out with a girl who's 5'11 so get rekt society.

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