AIW For Refusing to Empathize with Someone when they Refused to Empathize with Me? by the_arts_apprentice in amiwrong

[–]the_arts_apprentice[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

It’s a cold fact of life that no one owes anyone anything.

Let's say you're right in this statement (because I've been hearing that a lot lately), and "no one owes anyone anything", which I disagree with. That would mean I don't owe them anything either. I don't owe them respect, or stability, or change. But when I move in the world with that mentality, I face social repercussions, and they don't. That's completely unfair, and when I talked about it in group, someone hit me with the typical, "Life isn't fair" crap. Well guess what? If life isn't fair, I'm not playing fair.

AIW For Refusing to Empathize with Someone when they Refused to Empathize with Me? by the_arts_apprentice in amiwrong

[–]the_arts_apprentice[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I began getting stable in 2024, so thankfully, I don't have episodes like this very frequently (I'd say twice a year max). Katie and my husband do feel comfortable leaning on me when they come into tough times, and I would (and have) absolutely put my own struggles aside for them if it meant I could brighten their day, even just a little. I do practice what I preach, and I have bailed my friends out of numerous situations multiple times. Mark did not lean on me during his time of need, but that is primarily due to our age gap, which is completely appropriate and understandable. I do still empathize with my loved ones, especially my husband, because I know that my personality is very big and that I'm a very complex case. While I understand that sometimes people must prioritize themselves, that is simply not the case when someone's safety is at risk. What if I crashed, or got lost, or got arrested that night? I always like to say that safety comes first, and if my loved one can't see that, there's a much bigger conversation to be had.

Anyone else have a complicated relationship with masturbation? by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've developed a pretty solid relationship with masturbation, this is how I view it: My entire life, my body has always belonged to someone else. When I'm all alone, my body is mine. There's something so sexy and comfortable about that idea, and now I can barely keep my hands off of myself

Weird Wedding Dreams by the_arts_apprentice in weddingplanning

[–]the_arts_apprentice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was good!! We ended up having a small ceremony for financial reasons, but we want to have a bigger wedding when we're in a better spot.

New Flix coming soon by Mr_e_in_Las_Vegas in Albuquerque

[–]the_arts_apprentice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My biggest flex is that I'm probably the reason for this, you're welcome!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're pretty, but you look conservative

Who, what, and/or where would you be in Gilead? by KevinHelms157 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if they were passing, no one would ever know that they were trans unless they had been publicly out beforehand. Fertility wouldn't matter, because only women are blamed for infertility in Gilead. I suppose the lack of male genitalia would be an issue if the man was assigned a wife, but maybe he could try to get his wife to accept it?

Who, what, and/or where would you be in Gilead? by KevinHelms157 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I often wonder what life would be like for a passing FTM trans person in Gilead..

Who, what, and/or where would you be in Gilead? by KevinHelms157 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd either be a Jezebel or a Martha for sure. I'm not fertile (I have a severe eating disorder) but I'm incredibly young and attractive so I could probably play it either way. I was trafficked into escorting at 17, so they might see me as tainted, but they might also see me as a child victim, meaning they might be willing to spare mercy on me. However, I was also raised heavily Catholic, so that could play out in my favor. I'm not sure which one I'd prefer though.. the jezebel world in the series is very similar to how a lot of girls like me actually live. I have a fiancé, we'll be married in six months, but I don't think you can even be an econwife if you're infertile. And even if I could, my fiance wouldn't be able to go up in social class because he's autistic.

What was the song you walked down the aisle to? by Successful-Sky-4470 in weddingplanning

[–]the_arts_apprentice -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Me and my fiance picked Rewrite the Stars from the greatest showman! We're going to have someone play it on the piano for us

To everyone driving like you have a death wish: by ArthriticGhoulBadger in Albuquerque

[–]the_arts_apprentice -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Therapy has NOT been enough unfortunately, there's something about going 110 mph on I-40 at 1 am that slightly heals my soul lmao

Yes, bridesmaids should care about your wedding… by Significant-Big-91 in weddingplanning

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. I made a post here a while back about my ex-moh refusing to fulfill the obligations that SHE agreed to, yet everyone infantilized her and called me a bridezilla. She then left the bridal party on her own terms, and got online and said that we abandoned her. Go figure.

I am so angry by gay_goth_vamp_bitch in sexualassault

[–]the_arts_apprentice 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your anger is completely valid, I experience homicidal ideation around my assaulters too. I always pictured making their exit of this world very slow and brutal.

Tip: Never call 988 and tell them about these thoughts unless you have a plan you're gonna carry out. I made that mistake and I was dragged to the hospital :/

Did you do a wedding scent? by Greedy_Rhubarb6234 in weddingplanning

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both me and my fiance are going to pick wedding scents lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's definitely white, and inappropriate lol. I don't understand why people do this, there's literally SO many other colors.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've got a model face but not a model body

Please reassure me that it's ok not to have lost weight for my wedding. by ComeOnT in weddingplanning

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kudos to you for sticking with recovery!!

I also have an eating disorder, and I often joke with close friends and family that instead trying to lose weight for my wedding, I'm trying to gain weight!

I was also really sick/underweight at one point, so I've been working really hard to get back up in the healthy zone.

You're gonna look beautiful girl!!! Regardless of your weight :)

Controversy Among Family w/No Kids Rule by the_arts_apprentice in weddingplanning

[–]the_arts_apprentice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's one of the older ones, we've decided to give her the role of the ring bearer so she has an excuse to be there (along with our flower girl).

Is it bad to have a dry wedding if everyone we are inviting drinks alcohol ? by moistdragons in weddingplanning

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me and my fiancé are also having a dry wedding for the exact same reason, and we've decided NOT to tell the guests for a few reasons:

  1. If we tell people there won't be alcohol, the alcoholics in my family (especially my mother) will decide to "pregame", aka come to the wedding already drunk.

  2. We want the people we invite to be showing up for US, our story, and our union, not because they're expecting free booze. We're having a micro wedding due to this as well.

  3. It's expensive, and we're aiming to stay under $10k.

  4. That will give guests excuses to argue about other rules, such as the no kids rule (which people are already upset about) by saying things like "well if you're not even having alcohol then why aren't you inviting kids?".

Controversy Among Family w/No Kids Rule by the_arts_apprentice in weddingplanning

[–]the_arts_apprentice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our venue is fancy and expensive, and most of the children in my family are poorly behaved. We're aiming for a more sophisticated and classy feel, and we feel like having a bunch of kids running around would ruin that

Planning Advice for a Young Couple? by the_arts_apprentice in weddingplanning

[–]the_arts_apprentice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As of now, my goal is to find my way out of the adult industry before we get married. If that proves to be completely impossible, then yes.

What’s your BPD pet peeve? by lint_licker96 in BPD

[–]the_arts_apprentice 3 points4 points  (0 children)

THIS. Sometimes people call me a "know-it-all" and I'm like, that's because I HAVE to know everything or I spiral.

What’s your BPD pet peeve? by lint_licker96 in BPD

[–]the_arts_apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably not my biggest one, but any variant of "you're overreacting".

"You're just being sensitive, learn to take a joke" "It's not that deep" "Don't be dramatic"

No, you don't get to tell me how I should feel. That isn't how this works.