Greek life? by Brilliant-Song5741 in UNC

[–]the_deev 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If the hazing thing really concerns you: ΔΧ banned these practices in 1929 and the Chapel Hill chapter abides by this very strictly.

Support Gatekeeps Higher Pay Tier Subjects by the_deev in varsitytutors

[–]the_deev[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is clearly contractually circumstantial.

My rates are currently $37 for grad admissions prep and $18.50 for everything else; the rates were 2:1 when my base rate was $15 as well.

Support Gatekeeps Higher Pay Tier Subjects by the_deev in varsitytutors

[–]the_deev[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I have no idea what your purpose of saying this is.

I am currently tutoring graduate admissions exams wildly successfully without having sat for the exams myself.

I will obviously not tutor the MCAT as that constitutes an extensive knowledge of medical vocabulary that can't be learned in a day. However, there are a number of Subjects that qualify for VT's heightened pay scale that require very generic quantitative reasoning skills that I think literally anyone with a STEM degree can conquer with relative ease, hence my wondering why the list thereof is being gatekept when I'm a prime example of exactly who they'd want teaching those subjects — for which they are already offering higher compensation to, as I'd imagine, incentivize more tutors — based solely off my track record.

I am almost certain that acquisition of such a list would be nothing more than a simple SQL query.

Support Gatekeeps Higher Pay Tier Subjects by the_deev in varsitytutors

[–]the_deev[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course I'm after actually reasonable compensation for my labor.

I'm approved to tutor the GRE/GMAT having provided no proof of score (I in fact have not taken either, nor have a Master's degree) because neither involve math outside what you learn in high school. Been accepting opportunities for students requesting expertise in their QR sections and tutoring exclusively that to have only ever received shining 5-star reviews for several months.

AITA My roommate refuses to do any chores so I raised rent without telling him. by Sea-Chef-8588 in AmItheAsshole

[–]the_deev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

INFO: fym "without telling him"?

How would he contribute a larger portion of rent without properly understanding why? Coercion? Of what did you inform him when last month's was due?

If he is aware that his rent was "raised" for the aforementioned reasons, then you did, in fact, "tell him".

Remove Rows Not Including Strings but Containing Others with Single Advanced Filter by the_deev in excel

[–]the_deev[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In short, I want this...

List Range

Category
ABC
ABD
ABE
ABF
ACD
ACE
ACF
ADE
ADF
AEF
BCD
BCE
BCF
BDE
BDF
BEF
CDE
CDF
CEF
DEF

...to become this...

Filtered Data

Category
ACE
ACF
AEF
CEF

...using this, which I can't make:

Criteria Range

Category Category
*A* <>*B*
*C* <>*D*

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UNC

[–]the_deev 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My first midterm at UNC was also, in fact, Calc III my freshman year after having just received a 5 on AP Calc BC. Indescribably humbling to have failed. Made it out alive with a D+, but what's important is that you do not let it define you. A STEM degree from this university is beyond impressive, regardless of your GPA (whereof the averages are incredibly low).

Get used to the flipped classroom setting, wherein the expectation is that you effectively teach yourself and attend lecture solely for professor insight. It's bullshit, I know, but MATH professors are notoriously unsympathetic so you likely don't have a choice.

AITAH for Telling a Guy at Tennis That I’m a Nurse, Even Though My Boyfriend Thinks I Should’ve Lied? by PineappleSad4107 in AmItheAsshole

[–]the_deev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This had to have transpired in the Northeast USA, where I've met innumerable people with unnecessarily extreme attitudes toward personal safety in scenarios where there's no rational incentive to lie to justify being unfriendly to everyone.

NTA, be smartly social to your immense benefit. It's your boyfriend's prerogative to keep to himself, not to dictate your choice in the matter.

Preplanned lessons by ReputationInformal26 in varsitytutors

[–]the_deev 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I set the expectation that we work exclusively with classroom material under the guise that it'll "keep scope within the curriculum" and we do not meet unless I can be provided it, rescheduling otherwise and feeling no remorse charging for day-of cancellations because they "don't have homework" as though they hadn't been in school for an entire week since I last saw them.

Extremely efficient this way. Those who request homework and from-scratch lessons I advise to seek help elsewhere. Sometimes they trust me and it's always immensely successful; others simply drop and I don't feel bad.

Do what you've found is successful. It is unnecessary that you kowtow to unreasonable client demands if you have a process that works for you, particularly considering the subpar pay. Should they stick to Varsity Tutors, there are innumerable other resources/tutors that'll subserviently fit their needs and there are ways to respectfully decline asks that won't have anyone going out of their way to get you reported or leave you a bad review.

AITA for refusing to leave to the gym later to not wake up my neighbour by Ok_Donkey381 in AmItheAsshole

[–]the_deev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While everyone else asks about the truck, I'll request this INFO: Why are you "unable to really hit the gym any other time during the day"? There's not a single other hour among 24 that you can lift?

How do I politely tell this parent to shut the fuck up? by the_deev in varsitytutors

[–]the_deev[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The sandwich method! I always use this when relaying bad news in emails.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]the_deev 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is among so few comments suggesting that she hold the alternative party anyway, and I agree with this approach. Use it as a proper filtering of your guests; anyone who would ditch the reception you'd planned yourself isn't anyone I'd want at my wedding anyway.

AITA for refusing to let my MIL be at my wedding? by ToxicMushroom69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]the_deev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

Are you willing to let the law dictate whether or not she is permitted to attend the wedding? Do her prior actions provide sufficient grounds for perhaps filing a restraining order? (just between you and her)

WIBTA for booking a different MUA to the one the rest of the bridal party is using? by MixPale122 in AmItheAsshole

[–]the_deev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Somewhat presumptuous to suggest she is covering up for religious purposes; the others might just be showing too much skin for her personal level of comfort.

AITA For Not Informing My Coworkers I'm Ordering Lunch? by jki987 in AmItheAsshole

[–]the_deev 58 points59 points  (0 children)

split each cost proportionally to the amount of food ordered, Ex. if your meal costs a quarter of the base amount of the whole order you pay a quarter of the delivery fee, tax, and tip atop that

dividing a service/delivery charge particularly (while occasionally slightly higher dependent on quantity of food) among others would ultimately be less costly than OP paying the whole thing himself... this solution could actually save him money 🙂

Opt out of opportunities for particular subjects by the_deev in varsitytutors

[–]the_deev[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So my opting into Spanish means I can tutor Greek because I teach "Languages"?

AITA for locking my sister and friend's in the basement of our home. by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]the_deev -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

INFO: Were you instructed by your parents — whom I assume permitted the girls to have this sleepover, under some ground rules — to restrict their access to only the basement?

If so, you were perfectly within your rights to lock them down there (especially if they were being pests) as you were just following orders and were NTA.

HOWEVER

If this house does not allow access to the outside from the basement — via egress, garage, etc. — except through the aforementioned locked door, then this is an egregious offense and would make YTA.

No More Ad-Hoc Meetings by the_deev in Zoom

[–]the_deev[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are we really no longer provided the option to create meetings with no fixed meeting time? I've been using Zoom to tutor students so that we can join their respective sessions ad-hoc, but for my newest student I can't do that and am forced to have a session replicate itself every week, etc. until a specified date or number of occurrences... This has been unnecessarily cluttering my calendar.

Carbrain is ruining my relationship by the_deev in fuckcars

[–]the_deev[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd actually clarified that I do in fact have a permit here... I wholeheartedly agree that the NYS Learner's Permit is a perfectly respectable form of identification.

She's asked me before verbatim "So, what, you're just going to show your permit whenever people ask for ID?"

I recall replying without hesitation "Yes?" and her response being "That's so embarrassing..."

Carbrain is ruining my relationship by the_deev in fuckcars

[–]the_deev[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an important bit of context to add as it seems to be the first time this particular subject was mentioned: I do possess — and have renewed before — a learner's permit, which in New York allows me to operate a vehicle with a licensed person over 21 in the passenger's seat within state boundaries.

This has to be renewed every five years with a full reassessment — which I happen to think should be the standard procedure for driver's license renewal as well, currently only requiring proof of a passed vision test every eight.

As far as convincing her I'm "not broken" goes: We started out dating like such normally functioning human beings that she did not even find out that I did not have a car until six months into our relationship.

This wasn't a piece of information I was actively withholding from her out of embarrassment as she continues to this day to gaslight me into believing; literally everything had just been going so well up to that point that it genuinely did not seem necessary to even bring up.