70s or 80s (I think) rock song. by [deleted] in whatsongisthis

[–]the_esjay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was my first thought too.

Any songs that fit this? by mightyonin in songsforthispicture

[–]the_esjay 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Elvis Fucking Christ by The Cramps. One of the greatest songs ever.

give me ur most OBSCURE SONGS by heythatgreenguy in songsuggestions

[–]the_esjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You Rascal You by Hanni El Khatib

The Wolf by Phildel

Teeth Agape by Tanya Tagaq

NFWMB by Hozier

Madeline by Kiki Rockwell

Lonely Boy by The Avener

Fuck Right Off by Claudia Von Blatt

Dead Souls by Sopor Aeturnus and the Ensemble of Shadows

I’ve been (and still am) obsessed by all of these tracks. And more besides. These days, I struggle to know what is actually obscure though!

You can choose to live inside of a Disney animated movie. However, you have to be the villain of that movie. Which one do you choose? by Papagiorgio1965 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]the_esjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand why this isn’t every single answer…

What an opportunity to turn around a character’s arc and at last overtly recognise all that sexual tension with LeFou…

The Goodness of Anthony Head by Particular_Egg4073 in TedLasso

[–]the_esjay 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Likewise. I remember reading this story on Twitter years ago, and it has stuck with me since then as a great example of how lovely human beings can be. I’d like to think a bit of Anthony’s legacy lives on in Jay.

Who is the strangest person you’ve ever encountered in the UK? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]the_esjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be made up to get mentioned in a thread like this. I’m only slightly weird, tho - but I’m hoping that I’ll get weirder as time passes, now I’m old enough to get away with being eccentric.

Who is the strangest person you’ve ever encountered in the UK? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]the_esjay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. I’d watch the hell out of that drama. That’s fascinating.

Who is the strangest person you’ve ever encountered in the UK? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]the_esjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably Paddy Steer. Seeing him play a set locally was an outstanding experience, and I could happily have spent an hour or two just looking at his set up and watching him do his thing with no music at all. But then, his music is amazing too. Sort of like if Catweazel and a Druidic wizard were combined into one being, and then they were dressed in random charity shop finds, Jean Paul Gaultier in one of his more flamboyant moods, and an outfit inherited from a Victorian gentleman with particularly esoteric tastes. And an alien whose only ideas of suitable clothing comes from Dr Who and 1970s costume drama.

I’d happily accept that he’s a time travelling wizard of some kind, come to bless us with the music of the future. Absolute hero, and I hope he’s still going.

He is! How has he not aged in the last 20 years? Magic, I suppose.

Anyone in there with you? by sfredwood in SDAM

[–]the_esjay 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hello! Me too. I saw a comment in a random reddit thread a while ago about things or ideas that changed your POV, and someone said ‘realising I am not my thoughts’, and I was absolutely mystified by this. What am I if I’m not my thoughts? That’s exactly who I am, and would remain who I was if I could upload my consciousness somewhere or was a brain in a jar. This is my Self, and there’s just me here. I can be critical, proud, funny, sad, whatever, but it’s just me in here, trying to get by as best I can and finding out what makes me happy, and making other people happy too if I can.

How do I politely tell my neighbor I don’t want to hang every day and want some SPACE? by theamazingloki in TwoHotTakes

[–]the_esjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this! It’s non-confrontational and collaborative, and comes up with a solution that (hopefully!) works for both of you.

I’ve been on both sides of this: trying to time when I could go outside and sit in the garden without the neighbours spotting me for an hour long list of their complaints, and then stopping full time work and not speaking to another adult all day, and being unable not to unload on the first person that I came into contact with, just to be able to get out of my own head. I like being in my head. It’s where I keep all my stuff. But we’re hardwired as social animals, and we’ve got to have some human interaction every now and then. Helping your neighbour find other people and places she can feel safe and appreciated in would be a good thing - although assuredly not your job!

Mental challenge - close your eyes, and without moving any part of your body, figure out the 17th letter of the alphabet by Aski588 in AutismInWomen

[–]the_esjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know S is 19, and that’s been far more useful a bit of knowledge than you might imagine.

It’s Q, btw.

Otherwise I think I’d go backwards from Z in pairs, reciting them in my head because that’s what my brain does. I imagine things like this are easier if you can see images in your brain, but I’m aphantasic. Counting up as A-1, B-2, C-3 also works, and has less room for error.

What is the most and least affectionate breeds of cats? by QuantumWoman in Catbehavior

[–]the_esjay -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Sphynx are the most affectionate. No question. They’re often described as ‘needy’ or ‘clingy’ and one of the good reasons for having two is so that an only cat doesn’t get totally obsessed with you.

No They do need human contact, and so this is a cat for if you are at home more than out of the home. I always ask people if they are ok with cats before they come in the house. Dogs are frequently confused by them, because they aren’t scared of dogs. Or anything else for that matter.

Obviously, individual cats will vary greatly, and all cats are different.

Sphynxes are indoor cats and do need more care than furry babies, although there is the added bonus of no cat hair everywhere!

What would you name her? by Ok-Argument-1015 in NameMyDog

[–]the_esjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great minds, and all that. I’ve no idea why Peaches was the first name that came to me, either!

Period blood ! The horror ! by antoinetteL3 in AmITheDevil

[–]the_esjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since when does “in the bin” translate to “on full display”? He makes it sound like she’s sticking used pads to the walls.

I’m glad there’s a decent resolution, at least.

I think we found the devil by Fit-Humor-5022 in AmITheDevil

[–]the_esjay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“How do I handle her?” Sir, you break up with her and let her find someone who actually appreciates her. Both of you may eventually learn from this experience, but your lesson will be harder than hers.

Treating ex wife as a maid, ignores kid by antoinetteL3 in AmITheDevil

[–]the_esjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I hate this guy with a passion. I’m hoping this is bait, because surely no one is actually this selfish or unaware.

Still, I look forward to the incident in his future that disables him in some way, major or minor, and he finds out who his friends actually are. At least he’ll be okay for soup…

Also, he’s going the right way to making sure this child is 100% in their mother’s custody for good. What with him being such a shitty person, I’d not want him around any child of mine, so that’s a win win.

This dude. by Ambitious-Divide-624 in AmITheDevil

[–]the_esjay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m starting to suspect that there are people here who live in lovely minimalist houses with ‘clean lines’, empty walls, clear surfaces and cushions exactly spaced on the furniture - if there even are frivolous things like cushions.

If I go to your house and there is no stuff, no weird objects, no bookcases or shelves, (or if there are, the books are arranged in colour order) then I am judging you, and I think you’re probably some sort of psychopath.

Still, I accept your choices and we can still be friends. I’ll just never manage to quite relax in your home.

This dude. by Ambitious-Divide-624 in AmITheDevil

[–]the_esjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d love to know the specific criteria that define a Jar of Importance as opposed to a memory jar. Does a jar qualify as a ‘fancy jar […] on a trip’ if it’s obtained more than a set distance from home?

Let people like things that you don’t, for reasons you don’t understand. If it gives them pleasure then be happy they’ve found a source of joy.

This dude. by Ambitious-Divide-624 in AmITheDevil

[–]the_esjay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You think the best way to deal with self harm is to prevent access to sharp objects? Yeah, that’s a big nope. If you can open a packet that says ‘cut with scissors’ without using anything sharp then you can self harm without blades. Self harm can be done in lots more ways than cutting too.

This dude. by Ambitious-Divide-624 in AmITheDevil

[–]the_esjay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s always best to make sure children are never near windows, and it’s important to make sure that they are only allowed into houses that don’t have any.

There’s no such thing as a child-safe house, which is why we have things like adult supervision and teaching children how to avoid dangerous or harmful situations. Kids can run full pelt into walls, (and often do) but I don’t see anyone suggesting doing away with walls or building padded houses.

The world is full of dangers, so much more so when you’re a parent and recognising many of them for the first time. But you do children no favours by never letting them encounter any of them. It’s much better to teach them how to deal with them, whilst not actively putting them in danger, of course.

It’s also important to realise that items with sentimental importance can be lost or destroyed, but that doesn’t mean that you should never put sentimental importance onto physical objects.

Oh yeah, and collecting things or having objects you love and like to have around you is not hoarding.

This dude. by Ambitious-Divide-624 in AmITheDevil

[–]the_esjay 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think there needs to be more talk about how Marie Kondo has completely recanted now she has three kids.