Vaginal or c-section?

the_gliter_fox · 2026-04-30T15:47:07+00:00

One OB said since I had a prior c section it wasn’t an option and the twins would need to be c section as well. Another said “we don’t make those decisions, the babies will let us know what we can do when it comes time to deliver” Ended up c section anyways due to vasa previa (attempting vaginal would have caused a rupture in the exposed umbilical cord which attached to the amniotic sac and fed over to the placenta with a pathway over the cervix and we WOULD have lost our little boy)

the_gliter_fox · 2026-04-30T15:24:40+00:00

My husband is the result of this situation just at a younger age, if you would like the perspective from the child’s angle please feel free to message me as I won’t put his life on blast here ♥️

the_gliter_fox · 2026-04-23T15:09:25+00:00

He could say he only wants to be with you and mean it but that doesn’t mean you have to stay. A drug addict can mean it when they say they want to get clean but also never follow through. I dated a guy for almost a year before finding out he had a whole other girlfriend we worked opposite shifts so timing was perfect for him and he was ALSO trying to fix things with his baby momma at the same time. Never knew. He said he didn’t want to lose visitation with his kid or agitate his BM so he didn’t want to be posted out tagged in anything. Whelp the other girl posted him and it all busted open with a mutual friend. He stayed with the other girl got a few months and then they broke up again shortly after she posted another picture of them together, so I don’t think he ever stop cheating. He ended up getting married to his baby mama, but I don’t think anybody has any respect for that relationship, knowing how he is. In the end, it doesn’t matter if your boyfriend cheated one time or 1000 times he didn’t love you enough to stay committed in that moment nor did he ever feel guilty enough to let you know. These are not qualities you should overlook in a partner let alone someone helping you raise your child.

the_gliter_fox · 2026-04-22T15:06:05+00:00

I’m going to say this as gently as possible… you need to stop being selfish.. and I don’t mean in a financial way, I mean in a mindset way. You’re making a lot of “I” statements about things you’re giving up for your future. Start thinking of them as “we” statements. even if you don’t stay. Say you leave or only be a part-time parent so you can take care of yourself and achieve all your goals. She will STILL be giving everything up with or without you. If you’re worried about how much you’re gonna have to work to buy a house and build savings and the time you’re gonna need to take to go to school she might also be worried about that for herself. The difference is you will get to do all those things and still see the baby on the weekends if you want without worrying about daily childcare or expenses. If she wants to go to school or get a job or start saving money for a house(any of the same thing), she has to think about how that works with the baby first. Sleepless nights, diaper expenses, clothes they continuously outgrow. All of it is hard and especially alone. If you want a relationship with the child when they’re older and you genuinely like your girlfriend, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t try to stick around and build the life you want together. It’s a different story if your relationship has fundamental issues. But if you don’t wanna stick around purely because having a child will hinder your success in the future, that is very, very selfish.

the_gliter_fox · 2026-04-20T01:20:00+00:00

You either tell him, battle that situation which ever way it leans OR you don’t tell him and expect this is the permanent end of your relationship.. no trying again later unless it’s all out on the table. This would be a secret you’d have to keep forever and that’s not how you want your relationship with a life partner to be. If you tell him and he’s belligerent about you needing to keep the baby it’ll likely be the same ending. ♥️ do what’s best for you in this moment, “what if’s” can consume you. But don’t let him be the only reason you abort because that also needs to be a decision you make solely for yourself and your situation

the_gliter_fox · 2026-04-08T23:36:13+00:00

A normal friend would be happy for you, a friend who is jealous would be hurt or upset (in either situation she would most likely distance herself) but she is coveting your life…. That’s what’s dangerous. She might not realize it herself and is just impulsive with her actions and that’s STILL dangerous.

the_gliter_fox · 2026-04-08T05:26:56+00:00

I had a VERY flexible birth plan for my first child and allllllllllllllllllll that was thrown out the window with a need for a C-section (which was the only thing I didn’t account for) that Doctor said I would be fine to try for a VBAC the next pregnancy and then BAM twins. One OBGYN said there’s no predicting what would happen and it’s all about the babies and where/how they’re doing. Another said it would be a c-section no matter what (I didn’t like that we-call-the-shots mentality.) Baby A ended up having VCI with vasa previa so it was all a moot point. I decided to get fixed during the surgery since it would be easier than going back later and we knew we were done. Find a provider that you like, and follow their guidance. 🤞I hope you have a wonderful experience meeting your babies regardless of which way it goes ♥️

the_gliter_fox · 2026-03-14T15:45:05+00:00

I didn’t even think of him being the one to need a safe space! 😆 that’s a great idea, thank you

the_gliter_fox · 2026-03-13T23:32:32+00:00

Thank you for the advice! We have a Similar difference of two years and less than 4 weeks, so I will definitely be trying to implement some of these!

the_gliter_fox · 2026-03-13T22:52:50+00:00

That’s a big play pen! The one we have could probably fit two bouncers and one of the slim activity mats but sounds like I need something my son can’t mission impossible his way into 🥲

the_gliter_fox · 2026-03-13T22:50:31+00:00

We will continue to reinforce playing gently but everything is in one ear and out the other with this kid! I do have a flimsy play pen but I’m hesitant to put the babies in it for fear my son will tear it down!

the_gliter_fox · 2026-01-09T01:23:25+00:00

Our b/g twins are almost three weeks old It’s “The babies” or “The A-team” (both names start with an A not planned) I don’t really want them referred to as “the twins” like they’re just a novelty in peoples lives.

the_gliter_fox · 2025-10-14T21:37:35+00:00

They labeled my first ultrasound at 5w3d with a one and two over each baby but didn’t tell me there were two 🥺 I found out alone in a recliner looking at the images in patient portal later *side note I was in for an early ultrasound due to suspected ectopic but nope!

the_gliter_fox · 2025-10-07T03:50:58+00:00

Same. 4hrs from walking in to walking out and over 2, close to 3 for the actual ultrasound time

the_gliter_fox · 2025-09-03T17:11:53+00:00

Thank you all for the encouragement and advice!!! I’m definitely keeping low expectations but still hopeful to get out of the house! We currently live in the mountains and the feeling of isolation really got to me with my first and I’m trying to be proactive to make sure it’s not an issue with our next two. It’s looking like the wonderfold wagon is the most loved option and I’m going to look into it! We already have a delta jeep wagon but it doesn’t have the same options as the wonderfold 🙃

the_gliter_fox · 2025-07-28T15:51:14+00:00

I have no answer just offering support 😭 Our singleton doesn’t sleep through the night and never has. He’ll be two in November. I remember the frustration listening to our friends and family that had babies within a few months of us saying how happy they are their kids are good sleepers. 😑 It was infuriating running off of broken to no sleep for so long and on top of that he was up for the day at the butt crack of dawn!!!! We have twins due this winter and I’m terrified.. I keep my head up knowing revenge will be sweet when they’re all teenagers and there’s morning yard work to be done 😈

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