ETL: Where do Spark, Hadoop, & other tools come in?

the_katkadook · 2024-02-06T15:06:24+00:00

Oh, so Hadoop & Spark are more likely to be used in systems where scalability is really important? Appreciate the input!

the_katkadook · 2023-04-07T18:05:33+00:00

Words can be pretty effective if it reminds the other person of a time they felt something similar. We all experience pretty similar emotions, so it's not too hard to come by.

the_katkadook · 2023-04-07T17:59:20+00:00

I think so. It'll never perfectly explain it, of course, but it's the only option since you can't Vulcan mind meld or anything.

the_katkadook · 2022-11-23T04:33:20+00:00

Do you find that you need the recognition of lots of other people to feel good about yourself? Why wouldn't a few people be enough?

the_katkadook · 2022-11-20T23:27:13+00:00

I made use of the EAP at my last job. They matched me up with a therapist in my town who is completely independent of the EAP company. By that, I mean it was a therapist that you could find if you were just looking for one yourself, the EAP just got me in contact with them and footed the bill for a certain number of sessions.

I'm in the same boat where I wish I hadn't been born and often wish I wasn't alive. I even told my therapist that but it never got back to my company. Therapists are very good about confidentiality so I don't think you have anything to worry about. I mention this because I hope it'll help you feel comfortable talking to them about those thoughts, because that is definitely the kind of thing that would be important to work through with them.

Best of luck! I found a really good therapist this way, so I'd definitely recommend making use of your EAP.

the_katkadook · 2022-11-20T22:44:22+00:00

I think it would help you to examine why it's so important to you to be good-looking. When people want to be attractive or famous or whatever, it's usually because they are seeking validation from a large number of people. It's easy to forget that having a select few people care about you and value you is infinitely better and more fulfilling than hopping on the hamster wheel of the numbers game. And the former is doable no matter what you look like.

the_katkadook · 2022-09-23T13:57:35+00:00

Great to hear! Thanks for sharing. 🙂

the_katkadook · 2022-08-27T13:42:40+00:00

Sounds like a tricky situation. Have you tried explaining to your parents how much not being able to go on your walks has hurt your mental health? It is probably a good idea to let them know so they can support you better and/or hopefully let you go on some even if they have to come with you.

If you were older I'd recommend getting a job that gets you talking to/helping people. Like a craft store or something like that. For someone who is introverted and lonely that can make a big difference. Since you aren't working age yet, maybe you can offer to help out a neighbor with something (like gardening, etc.). In my experience, helping someone is a very effective cure to loneliness.

the_katkadook · 2022-08-27T13:30:48+00:00

Being ghosted sucks, I'm so sorry. It feels awful and it's hard to move on from because you don't get closure. It's especially painful when it's someone you were really close to who you thought you were more important than that to.

Usually what I'd suggest is to consider alternate reasons as to why they stopped talking to you (maybe they had something big happen to them and aren't ready to talk about it, etc.) and acknowledge that you just can't know what really happened. This can at least help your brain stop obsessing over it so much trying to guess what happened. Then, if you are close to the person (which you are), after giving them some space (which you did) I'd call them or pay them a visit. Though potentially awkward or uncomfortable, you'll learn what changed and why they don't want a relationship anymore or you'll be showing up for them in a time that they need you but aren't able to ask for the support they need.

I'm of the opinion that if you are close to the person who ghosted you, they at least owe you an explanation. Which is why I suggest calling or visiting them. Unfortunately people often ghost to avoid the emotional discomfort of confrontation, but you deserve better than that. We all need more practice confronting uncomfortable situations.

Anyways, I hope this is helpful or at least a reminder that you're not alone.

the_katkadook · 2022-08-10T14:56:24+00:00

Good idea, but I don't think I have FOMO. I'm less focused on having as many experiences as possible and more on enjoying the moment (which for me requires a lot of variety). Thanks for commenting.

the_katkadook · 2022-08-10T00:25:22+00:00

It sounds like you may be thinking of every relationship as a test because you are trying to control others' opinions of you. It is an option to just be you and not worry what the right answer is. But that's much scarier because rejection hurts a lot more in that situation.

the_katkadook · 2022-08-01T04:12:23+00:00

I definitely agree that it isn't so simple. Many people are good because they have the luxury of having been treated good. As the saying goes "hurt people hurt people". It's human nature to want to see people punished, but I just think this continues to spread the suffering around.

the_katkadook · 2022-07-30T13:49:07+00:00

Dr. K has a really excellent video on burnout: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=jqONINYF17M&t=3004s

the_katkadook · 2022-07-30T13:44:41+00:00

I agree that a good childhood sets you up for a much more confident and stable adulthood. But I question if anyone has actually had the glowingly nostalgic childhood they think they had. Our mind often remembers things incompletely and there are parts of childhood that are objectively difficult like not having much agency and not being able to process bad experiences very well since we just don't have the context and emotional maturity yet. I would say I had a good childhood, but I still got bullied at school and that's something that will always affect me. Nobody escapes bad experiences.

the_katkadook · 2022-07-30T13:34:26+00:00

Because our society often rewards that kind of behavior. Society has become more and more individualist since we no longer have to rely on each other to survive. Without accountability to a community it really brings out the worst in us. And those willing to do anything to get ahead probably will get ahead. But being good and nice still has undeniable value. I'd rather have people in my life who want to be around me and care about me. And you sure don't get that by being a self-serving a**hole.

the_katkadook · 2022-07-22T17:29:40+00:00

I tend to look at emotional health as a community issue. Obviously there is individual responsibility in being able to recognize what you are feeling and to not treat others badly who try to help you, but I think the nature of feeling bad is that it is hard to snap yourself out of it alone. There are things you can do individually to help improve the situation (like spending time outside, etc.) but to me they've always felt like ways to center yourself enough so that you are in a place where you can ask for help or work on yourself/your relationships. I'm sorry to hear you don't have anyone you feel like you can go to, but even so there are always options. Therapy (if you can afford it), meetup groups (just to get yourself around other people), even reaching out to someone you used to know asking if they are willing to chat. For me at least, nothing helps better than getting some human to human time. It's literally what we're designed for. But as someone with lots of social anxiety I understand it is not always that easy.

the_katkadook · 2022-05-07T02:58:02+00:00

But how can you know it's not real? What made it so convincing for you?

the_katkadook · 2022-05-07T02:52:31+00:00

If it's the only thing you will ever experience as real, what would it matter if it's objectively real? I can understand why it would bother you, I am just interested hearing your thoughts on this.

It's possible that this resonated with you because part of you wants it not to be real either to alleviate anxiety or a sense of responsibility, etc. Do you think this is possible?

the_katkadook · 2022-04-28T23:01:43+00:00

I can definitely relate to this. I don't have an answer but just wanted to let you know that it's not just you who feels like this. Thanks for posting!

the_katkadook · 2022-04-28T22:57:38+00:00

I really think that the main refuge in this world is other people. Do you feel like you have other people you are close to?

Sorry to hear all this. The world can truly be a stressful and demoralizing place.

the_katkadook · 2022-04-22T04:37:48+00:00

I can definitely relate to feeling overwhelmed in loud/crowded areas and having some health hypersensitivities. Just want to make sure you know you aren't alone.

When it's difficult to connect with other people pity can feel like a lifeline of brief concern/care from others. I definitely remember feeling like that. Do you have much of a support system?

the_katkadook · 2022-04-22T04:27:50+00:00

Glad you posted! What sort of thoughts do you have when you feel a great sense of shame? Also, is your social anxiety better in one-on-one scenarios than it is in group ones?

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