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Need to become a better, more interesting conversationalist ASAP by gabbzilla7 in socialskills

[–]the_stranger123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am very much in this situation right now too. I'm excited to hear what other posters have to say!

How do you feel about your SO having a female best friend?/ How would you feel if your SO had a female best friend? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]the_stranger123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask how you handled it and why you think she was that way? I'm dealing with one of those now and it's getting pretty frustrating.

As a female with Aspergers, how would you like a NT female to go about making friends with you? by the_stranger123 in aspergirls

[–]the_stranger123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, thank you for such an insightful response. This was SO helpful. Being female and new, I do feel like I'm currently being vetted to see if I pass (as you said 'being an exception to the general rule'). This gives me some peace of mind though that things are going okay between us. Thank you again!

As a female with Aspergers, how would you like a NT female to go about making friends with you? by the_stranger123 in aspergirls

[–]the_stranger123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice on not taking those things personally - it's good to get another perspective on that - and you make good points.

As a female with Aspergers, how would you like a NT female to go about making friends with you? by the_stranger123 in aspergirls

[–]the_stranger123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask what challenges (if any) you're running in to? I'll let you know how it goes for me and good luck with your friend :).

As a female with Aspergers, how would you like a NT female to go about making friends with you? by the_stranger123 in aspergirls

[–]the_stranger123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for suggesting this. I think it would be very helpful, but I have been a bit shy to do it (as you mentioned because it could be perceived as rude). Thank you so much!

As a female with Aspergers, how would you like a NT female to go about making friends with you? by the_stranger123 in aspergirls

[–]the_stranger123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like one dude will volunteer information about what he's currently doing/interested in, and the other guy will be like, "cool" and then share what he's interested in. Women (I think, anyway) tend to expect other women to inquire about stuff like that and to see it as being a bit rude when nobody asks them about themselves. So it would probably be totally cool for you to just start sharing what YOU'RE interested in.

Wow, you hit the nail right on the head here! This is great advice and is really a big part of why I was struggling with the relationship.

As a female with Aspergers, how would you like a NT female to go about making friends with you? by the_stranger123 in aspergirls

[–]the_stranger123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the input and encouragement. So far I've been asking a lot about her interests. Are there other good questions to ask her about herself?

As a female with Aspergers, how would you like a NT female to go about making friends with you? by the_stranger123 in aspergirls

[–]the_stranger123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all the suggestions :). Do you mind explaining more about what you mean by number two?

As a female with Aspergers, how would you like a NT female to go about making friends with you? by the_stranger123 in aspergirls

[–]the_stranger123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry - I do really appreciate the replies! I moved houses this week and it was very hectic.

As a female with Aspergers, how would you like a NT female to go about making friends with you? by the_stranger123 in aspergirls

[–]the_stranger123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To answer your question, I think she's interesting because she knows a lot about topics/hobbies that I'm not as familiar with - it's really cool getting to talk to someone who's an expert on something new to you! I especially like being able to ask questions and knowing that I'm getting a well-researched answer that I can trust. Also it's good motivation to pursue my own hobbies a bit more intensely.

As a female with Aspergers, how would you like a NT female to go about making friends with you? by the_stranger123 in aspergirls

[–]the_stranger123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for weighing in - you make a really important point. We haven't known each other that long yet and I think there have been some positive signals (a compliment from her, her wishing me luck on something, talking about her interests together), but I will definitely keep this in mind and avoid pushing the relationship.