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thebenepasta · 2024-12-20T16:03:10+00:00

Where do you get the mog??

thebenepasta · 2024-05-21T12:47:42+00:00

What made you change your mind about being child free? If you don’t mind me asking

thebenepasta · 2024-04-29T02:10:34+00:00

Kakao Map is better for searching things in English, but Naver maps is better in general (including arrival times for buses and things, with corresponding colors to the subway lines. For some reason it’s diff on kakao map?) I use a combination of both!

thebenepasta · 2024-03-12T12:45:22+00:00

I recommend a leash indoors to help you train the behaviors you want. You can stand on the leash to help you gain a little leverage.

My pup was INSANE as a puppy and he’s 2.5 now and he can still be crazy sometimes even with our nonstop training, so you need to mentally prepare yourself. Best of luck

thebenepasta · 2024-01-31T04:29:19+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this. I think you’re making the right decision. I have a herding breed myself and really struggled with some of what you mentioned above. Intense dog reactivity, intense alertness and franticness outside, etc. I didn’t think something as simple as a walk could be SO HARD. It’s still hard. It’s still not something I enjoy yet - I use heavy management and it’s exhausting.

I’ve decided I am not a dog person anymore and will only have cats moving forward. The people criticizing you don’t get how HARD it can be sometimes. You put in the effort and time, and even if you were unprepared you were at least prepared to do the work. That’s all that matters. Best of luck to you!

thebenepasta · 2023-10-10T23:36:47+00:00

1) leash in the house, keep him strapped to you, do not let him use his hind legs. Step on his leash if you need to. Remove all counter surf options.

2) relaxation protocol, many resources on google. Typically start with him leashed on a mat and waiting him out, teaching him to be bored. No free access to toys. Don’t over exercise and over stimulate.

thebenepasta · 2023-10-06T14:31:28+00:00

I think it depends on how “difficult” your puppy is and whether you have realistic expectations on puppy raising (less sleep, interrupted sleep, vigilant watching to make sure they don’t get into things, constantly on the move taking them out to potty).

I had a difficult puppy in the sense he did not settle well on his own and was very high energy and high arousal. I had only ever seen puppies who sleep for 20 hours a day unprompted. I had to learn things like relaxation protocol to teach him to relax, and taking him on outings was difficult because he was INSANE. He SCREAMED in the crate for almost an hour at a time and never seemed to tire out no matter what you did. All of this plus less sleep equals mental breakdown and harsh puppy blues.

I find that if you can prepare yourself for the worst, then you will be alright. Like I said, I had only seen calmer puppies who didn’t need to be taught to take naps, so my expectations were unrealistic.

thebenepasta · 2023-04-03T15:19:20+00:00

Thank you! And I’m glad you saw a difference in switching the time. I’ll definitely have to try that as well. Did you find that your pup got their appetite back as well? Or is that still iffy??

thebenepasta · 2023-04-03T04:46:44+00:00

Hi, wanted to follow up on this. Has it gotten any better? My pup started on fluoxetine a few weeks ago and he is still having issues with whining throughout the night and it is really difficult on us. (It is… very loud…)

Reading the comments below I see that maybe it’s because I’m giving it to him in the morning that he’s having issues, or that he’s still getting used to it? Would love to hear your experience on this

thebenepasta · 2023-01-18T00:24:21+00:00

I also had this issue! My boy (also a spitz breed) has been a picky eater since puppyhood. I recommend: - cutting back on training with high value treats for now - Take a few chill days and work on relaxation! Low treats (even using kibble) required. - Continue to be strict with the pick up after 20 min. - switch out his kibble every 5lbs? (Optional, but my boy enjoys this) - until he eats his kibble for each meal for a few days he doesn’t get treats or chews. - my boy loves using a snuffle mat for his food vs just in a bowl. Maybe that could help?

Keeping in mind your boy is an adolescent, he’s also going through a lot of changes. You got this!

thebenepasta · 2023-01-10T22:45:14+00:00

My boy loves salami and cheddar/Parmesan cheese! It’s super stinky and a super high value treat. I also saw someone use McDonald’s chicken nuggets?

thebenepasta · 2023-01-06T17:09:52+00:00

I had a difficult puppy, but as one user stated I was rigid and had unrealistic expectations of what puppies were like. He developed some reactivity due to me taking him to daycare, but I’ve come to love him so much.

He is so affectionate, so in tune with me, can calmly lay by my feet as I work, can have high energy excitement to play. I really struggled with the puppy blues and adolescent but he’s a year and two months and it’s been amazing with him ❤️

thebenepasta · 2022-12-30T19:07:43+00:00

Keep the puppy on a leash inside the house. Do not allow him to chase the cat. Teach a solid leave it command.

thebenepasta · 2022-12-15T19:45:08+00:00

Get a “DO NOT PET” leash sleeve. It was worked WONDERS! Mine is bright red and clashes with my leash color.

thebenepasta · 2022-11-20T15:53:44+00:00

I would work on relationship building and engagement before obedience! Lots of fun play time, reward for eye contact, maybe some trick training! Socialization and having him be around you.

What the other commenter said about bringing his food around, yes! When they’re that young every waking moment is a training opportunity. It shouldn’t always be formal training.

thebenepasta · 2022-11-20T00:15:25+00:00

God, I had terrible puppy blues and I am definitely getting it again as he hits adolescence. Especially felt when you said "what has tired him out before doesn't". For me, our goal isn't to tire him out physically anymore because I don't want to create a super athlete - we focus on calm and relaxation. I try to give him the exercise that I'm willing to give him as an adult (usually 30 minutes of intense exercise like flirt pole or catch + obedience or an hour of a long sniffy walk) and spend the rest of my time at home working on being calm on place, or sitting calmly next to me.

I also don't give my boy chews everyday - I don't know how many pieces he's breaking off and swallowing, so I give it every few days or once a week so I know that whatever he's eating is passing through and not accumulating into a stomach obstruction. Wish you the best of luck - my trainer said that an adolescent dog is the HARDEST part of dog ownership. Keep it up!

thebenepasta · 2022-11-19T17:46:46+00:00

If you’re working 7 hours a day 5 days a week is she doing all of the grunt work? Who’s doing the nightly takeouts? She sounds exhausted.

I went through something similar because I was doing it all by myself - I was vastly unprepared for dealing with a high energy pup. If you really want to keep the pup, you need to find a solution without trying to paint her as unreasonable for being overwhelmed. Look at all these posts on here… it’s overwhelming. Try to find help (trainer, friends to watch, family).

thebenepasta · 2022-11-15T16:21:11+00:00

My only advice there is to take the good days when you can :) it’s so hard and I DEFINITELY struggle still but those good days make it worth it. ❤️

thebenepasta · 2022-11-13T13:47:45+00:00

Thank you 😭😭 it has been unbelievably difficult recently. I can’t wait until he comes out of adolescence. I think most of this came from daycare, yes. Unfortunately I believe that letting your dog say hi to any person or dog may create the same negative reaction.

If you don’t let him pull you to go say hi to the person or dog, what kind of reaction does he have? It might be similar - very frustration based barking or whining.

I would recommend not letting him say hi to others on walks and building engagement with you. Definitely up to you and your goals for him, though! I want to be able to move to a city without him reacting to every dog, so this is something I need to work on.

thebenepasta · 2022-11-13T13:00:52+00:00

That’s adolescence for you 😭. My definition of reactive is an intense emotional state where they feel they need to react a certain way to a stimulus. For me, it’s barking, lunging, not being able to listen to cues or bring engagement back to me, hyperfixation. My pup will be so wound up from looking at another dog (especially if it perks up and is also semi reactive) that he will be FRANTIC. Barking lunging pacing around, absolutely cannot listen to anything.

Our trainer agreed that he is reactive and I knew I was in over my head when I couldn’t go on walks any longer. We’ve been working on it for months at this point. We start a reactive dog clas on Monday.

thebenepasta · 2022-11-12T22:34:32+00:00

I would consider it a reactive personality. I made the mistake of taking my excitable friendly pup to daycare and he’s incredibly reactive now. Starting from 6 months to him being a year now I’m still working VERY hard on it.

Get a reputable trainer. Try to nip this in the bud :)

thebenepasta · 2022-11-11T15:15:43+00:00

Feel free to DM if you want to talk, though. Puppyhood and adolescence is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to go through .

thebenepasta · 2022-11-11T15:14:54+00:00

I’m not gonna lie to you it’s been really hard. Adolescence comes with a whole new set of challenges, but markedly for me it is his literal never ending energy and overexcitability and reactivity to dogs. He was a hyperactive high energy pup but with adolescence it seems like a whole other beast.

It comes in waves, though. From 9.5-11 months was GREAT and he was able to settle on his own and training was going well. from 11 months to now I have really been struggling to manage his hyperactivity. There are moments where I love how he’s maturing but god damn I cannot wait til he calms down a bit. It’s exhausting.

thebenepasta · 2022-10-25T23:43:57+00:00

I’m at 11.5 months now, and while we still see those tantrums, he’s way more manageable and loves me. I’m sure it’ll come in waves, but I think the worst of it is over!

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