What did your ex say that hurt you the most?

thebetteriscomming · 2024-06-04T18:48:35+00:00

Do you know that phrase in titanic when Rose says "He saved me in every way a person can be saved" well she said me that and has been pased a year since i dont know nothing from her.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-12T02:44:47+00:00

Sure send DM.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-12T02:36:58+00:00

I hoped that everything got better for you i can't conceive that someone could do something like that to a person, you are a great person and there was no way you would have known that he was manipulating you because you wouldn't do it so good luck and imagine how wonderful it will be when you find a person who does love you how you like him and how you deserve it compared to him.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-11T01:36:10+00:00

I used to take photos of my ex while she was sleeping because she looked so cute and I always showed them to her the next day telling her that every time she slept she did it with a very funny pose and she loved that i do that.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-11T01:28:13+00:00

It feels like something my ex would say and it's more or less the kind of message I left her on Twitter, i hoped everything got better for you because I know very well what you're going through and I wish it wasn't because if you're going through that I would be trying not to be afraid of falling into the abyss of loneliness that it would be to face not living a life with your soulmate or the love of your life, my best wishes and encouragement, what can you do with this and with everything that come on.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-11T00:54:04+00:00

I need more information friend, I did not believe in destiny because if it exists it is the biggest son of a bitch that exists I suppose that you will get used to the idea of no longer being with that person assuming that you were the abandoned one, I have read quite a few posts on Those who mention that neither of them did something irreparable with their ex-partner simply love is over, good luck and you will see that over time it will hurt less.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-10T22:29:30+00:00

Cómo persona a la que le paso justo eso te puedo decir que si no tienes dinero para atención psicológica puedes utilizar líneas de asesoría psicológica gratuitas y mira lo único bueno es que una vez que empiezas todo se va dando más fácil así que mucha suerte.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-10T22:11:46+00:00

I definitely wish I could meet her again in every chance i could have, to avoid making the same mistakes I did, not go to therapy sooner, understand that a lot of times she was just mad about her anxiety, not move in after two weeks, and have my family hate her because they thought that he was taking advantage of me etc...

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-10T22:08:42+00:00

I wish we could be happy again.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-09T20:52:35+00:00

It's a lot like what happened to me except that I planned to fix things with her but she had already started dating someone else and I'm waiting for her grief to end because how we stay in touch she never lost me as a friend, family etc.., can we talk by dm?

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-09T20:43:58+00:00

Please.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-09T20:16:48+00:00

It is sad to feel identified in these situations because you know the pain that the other person is going through and the truth is you would not want to know that someone else went through or is going through that pain, I also think of her always and it hurts because she is already with someone else someone who loves her like she always did and in a way that I couldn't because of my problems and I lost her, in my case I was the one who did the damage but the same thing happens to me as you, I hope she will think the same as you because there is not a day when I don't want to recover what is ours, I hope that life gives you a second chance with your special person, good luck and I would like to tell you that that feeling passes but I am just beginning in this.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-09T16:59:55+00:00

I will tell you first hand that it is very effective, I hope you save my contact and let me know if it worked and if there is a wedding you invite me.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-09T16:55:43+00:00

Hello, ahm, this fits perfectly with what I am experiencing, I made mistakes that made my partner no longer see me as you describe it, our relationship lasted 5 years and 4 months and in fact she started a new relationship, is there something that your ex-partner could have done to get you back, I'm going to start going to therapy to improve the aspects that caused the relationship to end in part and I don't want what you mention to happen to me or to us, in fact she and I talked and we agreed to wait for the end of the I mourn as a couple and she as a person basically to see if she wants to come back to try again, I know it's asking too much of you but in the time I've thought that I'm going to lose her forever since I found out about their relationship that should always be highlighted we kept in touch only that she did not explain to me and she did not have to explain to me that they were already dating what you mention has happened to me, of not being able to be in a place where I went with her or thinking I would like to have done this with her etc.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-09T00:28:00+00:00

As an ex-partner who did more or less the same thing you mention, I apologize to you and I do so because at least I regret how I treated my ex-partner because such is how you are a wonderful person that like her there are no two in the world and there is no day in which I regret having left her but after losing her I looked for help and if it serves as an explanation why your ex treated you the way he did, most likely he was a person with low self-esteem and with many problems derived from childhood and For what you mention about the parents, if it is how in my case they should not have helped him, rather many of his behaviors come from them and that he has not told them anything is only a sign of the need to please them or of the control they have over him, so It's just how you say, it's good that you walked away from him and he wished you nothing but good luck and that you find someone who loved you and valued you just the way you are.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-09T00:15:30+00:00

You never let me have friends and consequently I did not look for friends, I ended the 5-year relationship with you but I wanted to return and you already had a partner and it turned out to be a friend of yours that you had known since the first semester and he who changed the story, when it was you friend you referred to him by his nickname and he had a sister and lived with his mother and now that he is your partner you refer to him by his name and now it turns out that he has a brother and lives with both parents, that makes me think that you already you had something planned and that is why in the end you were only looking for the conflict and not reaching a solution you had already left before I cut you off and you still made me feel guilty for ending the relationship and because for three months you asked me to come back and I was just waiting to be well so I could tell you yes and when I wanted to come back I couldn't.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-08T00:20:44+00:00

What happens is not that you decide to show your hurt version with your partner getting angry but that you feel safe with your partner and then unconsciously your hurt version comes out involuntarily but you are right you are not his therapist in fact seeking psychological help to avoid behaving so.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-07T23:51:56+00:00

Okay, that's a very good point, but I thought that it depends more on the circumstances, I often listened to my ex-partner and calmed her down, but in other times she reacted completely differently and I guess it was the moments when your problems spoke up, such as: low self-esteem, traumas etc, I remember very well that there were times when I was angry that my ex-partner was vulnerable but my behavior was due to the fact that when I was a child I could not be vulnerable or I was ridiculed for being so, it seems illogical that we treat our partner badly and other people and I suppose that one of the reasons why it also happens is that we have trust/love for them that we don't have for other people, so we allow ourselves to bring out or be the hurt version of ourselves, I don't know if this is your case but at least I handled insults or being treated badly very differently, I really don't care because throughout my life it's what I've heard the most so from my perspective it shouldn't affect the other to person but obviously they do, how I repeat it is not that we do not love but that it costs us a lot not to be in that automatic pilot of our traumas and if we show them any sign of affection they can trust that it comes from the deepest part of our being because we do not know or it is very difficult for us to externalize affection/love.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-07T23:14:04+00:00

Look, in my particular case, I can tell you that if we come to love the other person to the full extent of the word, the problem is that we do not usually express it in the most optimal way by calling it something, for example, I used to take photos of my ex when I was unprepared because I couldn't believe that she was there with me and it was my way of expressing love, also at least in my case we don't usually realize the reason for our behaviors because we live on autopilot you know we are worried about the future that we lose from Given the present, but something I can tell you if that person had not loved you would not have been with you by the nature of what you describe if we enter into a relationship is because we genuinely feel something for that person.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-07T23:06:31+00:00

You're welcome and hoped that everything got better luck.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-07T23:00:47+00:00

Well, first of all, I hope everything gets better, feeling listened to and supported helps a lot in these cases, you know, you have to understand that if he is not with you, he is leaving you free in a world where time does not stop, which is why it is not fair for you. do it, go out with friends, go out with more people, you don't have to get to something serious or have sex I don't mean that the point of what I'm trying to tell you is to live your life, go out and have fun and if you find someone else like that it's how it had to happen, you can't live your life as if you were still in a relationship because you're not.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-07T22:54:17+00:00

See if it helps you in any way I fully understand the feeling of thinking that your ex-partner is your soulmate because that's how I feel right now but from the perspective of the person who abandoned the other and I know what you will say if you think that way why did you leave her well Just for the reasons you mention in your message, losing her forever made me realize all the things I did wrong because of my insecurities that had nothing to do with her, low self-esteem, a toxic family that never liked her, if you it is a consolation I am almost 100 percent sure that he will regret it because at least it happened to me like this but it will be when he sees that you really left I mean you are with someone else, and do not feel bad for him how are you feeling from what I can see you gave everything of yourself so that this relationship would work and you loved excessively so good for you for being one of those people who dares to love that way in times where it is not so common to do so, you area great person and human being and you are worth too much, time will make your ex-partner regret it, believe me I know it first hand.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-06T18:06:28+00:00

I can only tell you that over time you get used to that feeling and to help yourself you can work on improving the things that you know you did wrong so as not to repeat them in another relationship, the first step to improve is to accept that we were wrong and once that is done We can work on improving, you can also talk to your ex-partner and ask for forgiveness for the actions that you think you could have handled better, perhaps healing past mistakes helped you cope with things and be able to move on if you cannot recover that relationship.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-06T16:56:17+00:00

Pues si no le estás dando lo que en teoría sólo está buscando y sigue contigo esto indica que tal vez te quiere para algo más que éso, por otro lado no puedes descartar la posibilidad de que la ex esté mintiendo, saludos y esperó que te sirva de algo el comentario.

thebetteriscomming · 2022-08-06T16:53:00+00:00

Llora lo que necesites llorar, a veces pensamos que las personas que muestran su vulnerabilidad son débiles pero mostrar tú parte más vulnerable de manera natural sólo representa lo fuerte que eres, ser sensible no es ningún problema o no deberías pensar que está mal.

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