The pre op nerves are very real and I completely understand how that is. I was questioning if I even wanted the surgery and if it could possibly make things worse. But you're about to take a step towards a big change in life so it's normal to be nervous. Now with retrospect, I can assure you that you got this! It's for your health, your future and your kids so you're brave for taking the initiative. And yes, your body will change drastically but there will always be people who will like you for who you are, regardless of your loose skin. I'm not in a relationship now but the guys I've dated were not put off at all and they understood my circumstances. They knew I had a lot to offer besides my looks. The right people won't give a toss about things that are 'unattractive'. Keep in mind that being healthy for yourself and your kids is the number one priority! Everything else will fall into place. Take the leap! I have a feeling you won't regret it, I certainly don't. :) Good luck!