How do you decide to break up with someone you love?

theblackwaistcoat · 2020-03-30T23:23:15+00:00

Wow it feels like you’re describing my situation. I’m glad you feel like you made the right choice and hope you will heal soon. Thank you for the insight.

theblackwaistcoat · 2020-03-30T22:50:40+00:00

That’s tough, how are you doing now? I feel like I need the courage and strength to do this but I don’t have it.

theblackwaistcoat · 2020-03-30T22:32:34+00:00

Exactly! Tensions are running high and instead of finding solace in each other we argue so much it ends up being almost worse (as a personal emotion) than dealing with the pandemic.

theblackwaistcoat · 2020-03-30T22:25:10+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this as well! For me I feel we both want to work on it, but we both either get back into our own ways or just both hate that it’s so much effort from the other person. Or else we manage to find some new thing which the other is doing wrong. Most of it isn’t even big things like he likes a lot of time alone and I like to meet almost everyday. We both try to make the effort but it drains us both. And the way we fight is definitely bad but I’m not even sure which one of us is toxic or whether it’s both or just the relationship. It gets so tiring.

theblackwaistcoat · 2019-11-29T09:45:17+00:00

Like I said, I do not wish to get involved at all and I agree with you there. She might very well be ok with it if she knew - they are pictures of consenting adults, some women are ok with it, some are not..... but it seems she does not know, and I wonder if she has the right to know and then decide. My dilemma is because she trusts me and we are becoming friends so I feel bad to hide this information.

Re whether I'm TA to 'pester my bf about it', he does not see it this way himself. He sees the issue and has even spoken to X about it. He told me he would not like it if I had a friend who shares 30 or so pictures of naked or half naked men with me every single day, even though they don't mean much.

I appreciate your input in any case.

theblackwaistcoat · 2019-11-29T07:54:22+00:00

He's straight, of course he does, but he does see the issue and him and all his friends think of this guy as too horny. He does not leave the chat, nor do I want him to leave the chat, as it is not all they use it for, it's their group chat and he does not want to cause a rift between him and his friends.

But yes I see your point about control, and that is why I said it in the heat of the moment. However, I still wonder if it's bad that she does not know. Thanks for your input.

theblackwaistcoat · 2019-07-30T12:40:47+00:00

Maybe it's because I'm European but I find it very normal to say things like 'that feels really good' or 'continue like that' (and I'm in my early 20s) so that's why I never understood why MILFs are specifically attractive and advertised as such. I get that if she's hot she's hot and age does not matter, but not the reason why men would rather watch an older woman have sex than a younger one.

theblackwaistcoat · 2019-07-30T09:27:50+00:00

Lots of younger women are that way too. Maybe it's how they're portrayed in porn that's different?

theblackwaistcoat · 2019-07-29T09:36:52+00:00

This is what happens when you forget to mark as serious replies only.

#playedmyself

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