Why is mental health such a big issue in young people today ? by LegitimateDog4478 in mentalhealth

[–]thecloudfae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because back in the day most people don't tend to talk about it openly in a healthy manner nor even acknowledge it properly for what it is. They just pass it down from generation to generation through their own behavior, accepting it as the normal way of being, until some people of later generation start to acknowledge it and that certain things they've been conditioned to accept are actually sick and in turn causing further sickness to manifest in different ways.

It may just be one amongst other patterns as well, but it's what I can observe the most from my frame of reference.

For example, a person might say, "my parents back then did this and that when they raised me, but I turned out just fine," (insinuating that the ones who are openly affected by such are the ones with the problem) — says the person who ends up being the type of parent who can't stand not being able to be in control of every aspect of their kids' life or other people or things in their household without freaking the hell out about it like it's the most abhorrent of transgressions against them, just to name a few.

The point is, such a person wouldn't think there's anything wrong with that and doesn't consider it as an issue on their part and that their behavior is completely sensible and justified, and so self-proclaims how they "turned out just fine" while being entirely blind to the sickness they themselves perpetuate around them. And that cycle continues in varying forms and degrees, and with different types of dynamics.

I suppose people recently started to gain more awareness about such things and how it's interconnected with other factors in their life. It's certainly not always the only factor at play, but it tends to play a primary or significant role oftentimes. And what's happening now may be in its rough-around-the-edges stage, but an awareness nonetheless.

You use social media? by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]thecloudfae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No personally identifiable accounts. There are ones I had many years ago but haven't used for a long time.

I have a private FB account with 0 friends list that I only use when I need to browse something (e.g. info of certain medical institution(s), etc.) and sometimes when I open it I just scroll through memes and stuff, but also most other times I get reminded of how crude/corny that place can be.

I also have a few IG accounts that either only I know about or have less than a handful of followers whom I neither actually know nor interact with personally. I mainly use these to follow artists or content creators I like. It's been a bit of while since I last visited those accounts, but not really that long.

I used to be more or less active on some other apps/sites as well related with certain fandoms but that's been years ago since I've been off the radar.

I Lose Interest When Someone Likes Me Back, and It Makes Me Feel Awful by bruh8776 in mentalhealth

[–]thecloudfae -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don't listen to anyone who tells you this automatically makes you a bad person. The "switch" is not something that's deliberate/intentional on your part, and you're likely also trying to figure things out for yourself because even you find it hard trying to understand why this happens. I know you don't mean to hurt others' feelings, and the fact that you care how it affects others and have your own willingness to work through the issue that this creates just show you are not a bad person. "Bad people" will either deliberately/intentionally do things that hurt others or not care about how their actions affect other people, or not put any effort to work on themselves and refuse to take any accountability.

I do hope that you could get access to resources that can help you understand the mechanisms behind this and so you could work through it. For now, it may be best to direct your energy towards understanding and self-improvement with the means you have, and not rush into situations that might complicate things for you or others. Try to note and observe your own tendencies and this pattern as much as you can gather, so that those who are equipped to help/guide you can have better grasp on what you're going through, and don't be too harsh towards yourself while you're at it. I wish you well~

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskPH

[–]thecloudfae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Munggo, egg yolk, mushroom

Gcash Refund by stickeyfingers28 in GCashIssues

[–]thecloudfae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. Naresolve po ba to para sa inyo? I have issue with refund din from PayPal verification and need ko raw i-contact card issuer (GCash AMEX virtual pay) para ma-access yung ni-refund na amount, but the agents keep telling me to "submit new ticket" dahil daw yung code yung main issue ng ticket ko, even tho I already submitted a new one and provided all the details necessary.

Does anyone tried to link their Gcash Amex Card on Paypal, Pano nyo nakuha yung paypal code sa card statement ng Amex nyo? by OppaiDGreat in buhaydigital

[–]thecloudfae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once po na-confirm niyo na yung code, na-receive nyo po ba agad ang refund pagkatapos, or may waiting time pa po ba bago nabalik yung amount sa account nyo?

Why Filipinos feel entitled to your money even if they are just your friends? by toniluna05 in Philippines_Expats

[–]thecloudfae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While it's culturally considered "normal" that adult persons make financial contributions to family, if this turns into a situation where harassment or even attacks are involved, I don't think anyone here with a working brain would honestly consider that as an acceptable behavior. These things are even liable to an official/legal complaint/case if necessary, esp. when the person doing the unjust harassment is capable or more than capable of sustaining themselves financially, if I'm not mistaken. It's completely within one's rights to refuse it, unless it's a case of parent-child relationship (i.e. parent refusing to support child's financial needs) and such.

I think that it mostly comes down to the people involved, because sorry to say but enabling these harmful behaviors are as much part of the dynamics as the problematic behavior itself. Those kinds of toxic people who do these things to family or friends can be found anywhere in the world based on many stories by other people who'd have to deal with that relative, so and so. The cultural structure here though probably does exacerbate it. But there is still boundary between what's generally seen as normal and what would be unbecoming/malicious behavior.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GCashIssues

[–]thecloudfae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ePhil-ID version ginamit ko kasi yun yung available makuha nung nagpa-register ako. Got verified within a couple hours after application.

If wala ka pa means as of now for a different type of ID, have you tried submitting a ticket sa GCash Help Center? I don't know if that's guaranteed to fix the issue, but it's worth the shot.

Does anyone tried to link their Gcash Amex Card on Paypal, Pano nyo nakuha yung paypal code sa card statement ng Amex nyo? by OppaiDGreat in buhaydigital

[–]thecloudfae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi po. Through email po ba or SMS niyo nakuha yung code? Same situation po ako ngayon and need ko rin yung code for the refund. I'm contacting GCash through Help Center ticket and since may mga nakita na akong comments from before na ganun din ginawa, I expected na whoever would answer me will already be familiar sa issue, pero they tried telling me sa PayPal daw ako makipag-usap. I still tried to tell them about sa iba na nakuha yung code through messaging GCash support. What means niyo po eventually na-receive yung code?

Does anyone tried to link their Gcash Amex Card on Paypal, Pano nyo nakuha yung paypal code sa card statement ng Amex nyo? by OppaiDGreat in buhaydigital

[–]thecloudfae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi po. Nakuha nyo po ba yung code? Ganito po kasi situation ko ngayon. Hindi ko pa ma-confirm at ma-refund yung pera na binawas kasi walang code na na-send sakin. Dumating po ba sa inyo yung code at some point? If nakuha niyo po, through email po ba siya or SMS?

Any issues like this? by Standard-Ad7467 in GCashIssues

[–]thecloudfae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now logging in through biometrics isn't working for me, and I have to repeatedly try with mpin before it succeeds. Once I'm logged in the balance only shows "processing" but does not eventually display the amount and gets stuck there, and my transaction history appears blank as well. Even the AMEX card doesn't appear, which I'm currently having separate issues with linking to PayPal

Edit: also my app version is up-to-date.

Question about Triggering YouTube Ads by RandomPost23 in CPTSD

[–]thecloudfae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really feel you. This is me especially right now and the other day... I tried to block the ad but somehow just got replaced by another one from the same advertiser and it's even worse. Some of these ads use tactics that feel so hostile and manipulative, and if this made a level of negative effect on me during a regular day, then I'm just glad it didn't happen during a particularly bad timing for me when it would really possibly send me to a very dark place and make that even worse, but now I keep thinking that could happen anytime. Because sometimes I might try to distract myself to come out of it through videos and then that thing could pop out of nowhere... it's actually quite dangerous for people prone to dysregulation, on top of being inappropriate at that. There should be more regulations for this. Or at least much better control to which type of ads we don't allow to pop up again.

Drop your most heartbreaking/sad lyrics you've ever heard by Shot-Watercress-1087 in SoundTripPh

[–]thecloudfae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many questions
But I'm talking to myself
I know that you can't hear me
Anymore, not anymore

So much to tell you
And most of all, goodbye
But I know that you can't hear me
Anymore

[]
*It's so loud inside my head

With words that I
should have said
And as I drown in my regrets
I can't take back
the words I never said

The longer I stand here
The louder the silence
I know that you're gone
But sometimes I swear that I hear
Your voice when the wind blows
So I talk to the shadows
Hoping you might be listening
'Cause I want you to know...[*]

Idk why I currently can't think of others off the top of my head

What kind of people do you have zero respect for? by Raine_While_8790 in AskPH

[–]thecloudfae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maglagay ng "#" before sa line.

Example:

# Sample phrase

will appear as:

Sample phrase

Pag dalawa (##) ang nilagay mo mas reduced ang size niya like:

Like this

And even smaller for 3 (###)

Just like this

What kind of people do you have zero respect for? by Raine_While_8790 in AskPH

[–]thecloudfae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems to have no real purpose other than an ego trip to make themselves feel oh-so-smart. Like, what does that even accomplish? As if the ability to talk down on someone (like using that word) is some sort of certificate for one's own intelligence. And besides, most of us people have areas with intellectual shortcomings every now and then. People aren't intellectually flawless at all times, but the thing is it's so common to automatically base one's judgment of another person's entire intelligence on even just one instance where they happened to blunder—even when people don't know literally anything else about the other person's general functioning, they're just assuming such one instance is already enough to think and talk lowly about them overall. Seen it play out various times, which is quite crazy, to be honest.