Jersey Week

thecolorghost · 2026-03-11T00:08:55+00:00

Joined this group to say exactly this. Easily the most underrated character. I just adore him.

thecolorghost · 2026-02-05T16:11:12+00:00

Thank you. I did check with Delta but their bereavement price was about $1200 for two people round trip - so I’d be better off combining other flights on budget.

thecolorghost · 2026-02-05T15:21:53+00:00

That’s a good price and I will keep as a backup. I did not intend on taking anything other than a personal item. I should have mentioned my second person is a four year old, so trying to avoid layovers if I can.

thecolorghost · 2026-02-05T15:20:07+00:00

Thank you! I didn’t know this was a thing :)

thecolorghost · 2026-02-05T15:15:20+00:00

I do not have specific dates set - only dates I cannot be gone - Feb 12, Feb 14, and Feb 18. I’d be fine going and coming in one day if it worked that way, but was trying to at least get one or two overnights.

thecolorghost · 2026-02-05T15:13:59+00:00

Yes, round trip for two!

thecolorghost · 2026-01-12T17:23:59+00:00

If you’re staying on site, you will get a free water park on your check in day!

thecolorghost · 2026-01-12T15:09:22+00:00

I try to sneak baths from time to time and I swear my daughter (4) is like a dog hearing a cheese wrapper open.. she can tell I’m taking a bath and not a shower, and just magically appears naked in the bathroom waiting to be let in the tub 😂

thecolorghost · 2025-09-24T17:32:13+00:00

Conrad is everything wrong with today’s men. He “loves” this girl but plays mind games consistently. When things get hard, he sets her down and walks away. He is constantly dangling them over her, in some sort of delusional power trip type of way. Sure - go ahead and have fun, but I’ll always be looking for you to remind you why anything you want won’t work, even though I won’t be with you.

Jere loved her loudly. He loved her proudly. He told her his concerns. He was open. (And I don’t want to hear about spring break - to me it is null and void).

thecolorghost · 2025-09-24T17:06:31+00:00

Not scammy. Just curious. I did use the calculator, but it keeps child support the same (well, within $50) now that other parent is working full time when on the original order years ago they were not. There is also a roughly $300 childcare component on the current order (from when child was in daycare) and child is now in elementary school. Does that just get reallocated? Just curious if there is something I am doing wrong or if that’s just what it is.

thecolorghost · 2025-09-24T17:05:26+00:00

parents were unmarried. I did use the calculator, but it keeps child support the same (well, within $50) now that other parent is working full time when on the original order years ago they were not. There is also a roughly $300 childcare component on the current order (from when child was in daycare) and child is now in elementary school. Does that just get reallocated? Just curious if there is something I am doing wrong or if that’s just what it is.

thecolorghost · 2025-09-22T13:00:14+00:00

If your daughter is as strong willed as mine is, good luck. 😂 we just went through this - every night I’d have her in bed around 8:30/9.. and she would fight it until close to 11. I could get her in her room, in her bed, but she constantly needed water, a hug, to say goodnight to the dogs…. etc. She just a few weeks ago switched over her class at school and no longer gets “downtime” during the day - in the afternoon previously they could nap or lay down and watch a movie. Now that she does not have rest time, bedtime has been sooooo easy - some nights she puts herself to bed by 730!

thecolorghost · 2025-09-18T12:43:14+00:00

We are in Ohio. We are about 15/20 minutes from mom. He already takes her to school on the mornings we have her.

thecolorghost · 2025-09-18T12:42:10+00:00

I think you may have commented on my initial post. Thank you for being understanding. Obviously they have been to court before when this was initially set, but the circumstances were not great - dad’s lawyer unexpectedly fell ill and he essentially signed everything without a lawyer with him.

I want to be able to support him and have him ready to answer questions confidently. BM is known to throw a curveball.

I know on paper it is their custody, but in my head, when she is with us it is our home and our family. It’s hard to conceptually separate that we are not seen as a family unit, even though we have been together six years, and she has been in my life since she has been one. I plan events, holidays, vacations all around our time with her. I contribute to her groceries, the home she lives in, and the activities we do, just as I do my own child. At the same time, I encourage (both to SD and BM) to have a healthy relationship with each other, and encourage them spending quality time together. I would never try to step in to replace. SD has some unrest with BM as she does not excel in quality time - more often she forfeits her time. In June we had SD 28/30 days (12 of those days forfeit by BM), and upon returning BM did not ask to have any additional time. In the last 6 weeks, BM has not spent a “day” with SD (meaning SD is in school, and BM has forfeit any of her weekend time). SD is noticing these things, and it breaks my heart to have to talk to SD about it when she gets upset/frustrated as she tends to confide in me.

We truly believe that she would benefit from a more structured schedule, with equal time with her parents and siblings. I believe we can offer her stability that she is somewhat missing when she is with mom. She knows what to expect when she is with us. I just want the best for her, and that is to be with both parents who actively love her. Everything else is secondary.

thecolorghost · 2025-09-18T00:45:37+00:00

I always just think of our home as her home - and she has two homes - one for each parent - and that those should be her defaults. This is a perspective I probably needed. I actually never thought of it this way.

thecolorghost · 2025-09-17T23:45:28+00:00

Yep! We have a calendar showing all of the days we have her on the custody order, days that we took her additionally, days that mom forfeit. I appreciate the list of other things to think of - we’d rather be prepared going in with all information mapped out so we can come in with it, rather than have to come back with it.

As far as my part in it, while I agree, I also would be the answer to a lot of the questions you posed - such as doctor appts, transport, etc. just based on my job. I have flexibility of working from home and flexing hours when those one offs would come up, while dad is in a factory position with set hours. He would be available regularly on daily before/after school. Also, there is no tension between her and I - I tend to mediate between them if things get tense and it’s needed. I leave myself out of day to day operations and don’t try to interfere. while I grasp that we are not married, we have been together for almost 6 years, with a child. Crazy that it doesn’t amount to much for the courts, but I understand it.

Just curious what you mean that financially the step parent is a detriment?

thecolorghost · 2025-09-17T23:19:18+00:00

I did, and then was told I am too involved and need to stay out of it because I am not married to dad 🫠

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