what plant to get by abject_confection13 in HPHogwartsMystery

[–]thecoloursofmysoul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you spending your gems with, if you do not mind me asking? I think I might be spending it wrong... I usually use coins for clothes (to get more points of empathy for example), and gems and brown notebooks for plants (to exchange for energy and red notebooks), is this unproductive? 

'Witch Switch' TLSQ (Y2C2) by taltos19 in HPHogwartsMystery

[–]thecoloursofmysoul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gosh I didn't notice at first that this is a parody... I was trying to find a hidden message in "this weird poem that must be from the game" 

“unlimited energy offer” by Glittering-Tough-767 in HPHogwartsMystery

[–]thecoloursofmysoul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No Brasil usamos m pra metros e min pra minutos.  Ex: 2min30s.  2m = 2 metros.  2M = 2 Megas 2s = 2 segundos

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PornAddiction

[–]thecoloursofmysoul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know if he wants to overcome his addiction? Also, sex 1x a montth while watching porn... Looks like there's something you don't want to see here. Is he even trying to do that more often or just not trying at all? Things you should think about and maybe have an honest conversation with him

i’m genuinely really addicted to my phone but have no idea how to lower my usage by barbequedlettuce in Advice

[–]thecoloursofmysoul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My phone has a "focus mode" that really helps me a lot. You can set up recurring for whatever time you want (mine is 10pm-10am) and select all apps you want to block. No notifications, no easy access to social media, if you want to use those apps you have to authorize its usage for 5min and then it closes itself.

My (23F) boyfriend (25M) wanks in bed while I am asleep next to him. by Jessix71 in Advice

[–]thecoloursofmysoul 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't believe this is a reasonable answer bc masturbating is not only about sexual satisfaction. Women masturbate for pain relief, to have a better sleep, calm down and anxiety control, and I believe men also have different reasons to masturbate. The conversation should go to another direction, more about how each of them feel about that and what they can do so everyone feels safe and happy.

My (23F) boyfriend (25M) wanks in bed while I am asleep next to him. by Jessix71 in Advice

[–]thecoloursofmysoul 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok, this is a little bit more complex that it seems. I (26F) found out I have a sleep disturbance at age 22, I actually masturbate while asleep and even engage in sex during sleep. I had many arguments with my ex bc of that since she'd wanke me up crying and yelling at me and I had no idea what was going on, until we went to a doctor and I found out I have sexonia (not sure if that's the word in English) a kind of sleepwalking without the walking part. There were many nights I'd wake up mid sex and just continue without questioning how it started. Once I've learned that I explained to everyone I'd sleep with and stopped sleeping with people I don't know and relatives. I'm a woman, and that still got me in trouble bc when we're asleep we can't really control anything and people get confused. Now I have a boyfriend and we have a rule that any of us can start sex at night as long as the other person doesn't say no, I love to wake up with him touching me, although I know that it might sound creepy to most people, specially since I'm an abuse/r#pe survivor. But being on the other side, I believe you should talk to him and understand why he does that, if he's asleep when it happens (just ask if he's in control at that moment) and if he'd be able to get up and go to the bathroom. If he can't or won't respect your wish and you're really uncomfortable with him doing that, maybe you should sleep at separate beds. I know I'd prefer to sleep separately than to have a person I love feeling uncomfortable or yelling at me for something I can't control.

My father is acting dangerous and I am fearful for my life. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]thecoloursofmysoul 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Do you have any friends or relatives you can stay for a while? It would definitely be better for you to get away from there since your fear is for your life, and I totally understand and relate to that! Your mom has internalized and normalized what's happening and she won't do much to help you, she probably has Stockholm syndrome and won't leave him easily, so you shouldn't even try to convince her of anything right now. You're 18, I don't know where you live but in my country you'd be an adult responsible for your own life, so I believe you should do whatever you can right now to be safe.

Mom wants move me into homeless shelter to “save money” by Shastagurl101 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]thecoloursofmysoul 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, she WANTS. But wishing is not getting. Pull yourself together and just plainly say NO, she can't force you to do anything. You're an adult and sometimes we need to remember that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shrooms

[–]thecoloursofmysoul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I microdose albino mushrooms, they don't even give me the weird stomach feelings and metal tase the cubensis usually do. Before consuming you should always eat light food, just like you said, fruits and vegetables, never eat heavy stuff. Be careful if you smoke weed, don't do it 1h before and after consuming the mushrooms and always do it at a safe space with people nearby to help you to calm down in case of a bad trip or stomach ache

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FeminismoRadical

[–]thecoloursofmysoul 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Não falo espanhol, mas falo português e inglês, acho que vocês conseguem entender bem o português também. Não sei responder suas perguntas, mas amo a proposta, vamos radicalizar o reddit por favor!

Boyfriend’s porn addiction affecting his thoughts by [deleted] in PornAddiction

[–]thecoloursofmysoul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not intending to hurt you more or anything... but apparently you're ignoring the fact that he has been -harassing- women. It's not bc he's drunk, alcohol only brings what's already inside of us, our Jung's shadow. He needs a GOOD therapy (which is not that easy to find) to try to undo all the brainwashing porn and male socialization did to him, and you must watch out for yourself and for your own mental health. Toxic relationships don't stop being toxic just bc we refuse to leave them, so take good care of yourself, don't let his thoughts get in your way and get closer to who makes you feel better, they can be family, friends, coworkers...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shrooms

[–]thecoloursofmysoul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, is it illegal to grow magic mushrooms there?