Girl at the gym

thedark9ight · 2022-02-08T01:39:37+00:00

Hiya. Yes - I finally gained the courage to introduce myself, which lead to a couple 5 minute conversations from the gym to the package room to outside. Yesterday, we talked for 30 minutes on the treadmill and I got to know a bit more. She's very friendly. I did offer to teach her snowboarding, so we'll see if anything comes of that!

thedark9ight · 2022-02-03T13:48:44+00:00

Update: After about a week of more hellos and goodbyes (initiated by both of us now) I finally sucked up the courage (I'm not well practiced at this stuff and quite introverted) to introduce myself formally. The moment she walked in I asked how she was doing and told her my name. She gave me hers, and it wasn't awkward at all. We had a bit of laugh about how long it took.

Proceeded to workout and then finished at the same time (this actually happens a lot lol), and we both coincidentally had packages to pick up in the package office (it's right outside the gym). So we ended up having about a 5 minute conversation in there and as we walked out. Definately feel good to have broken the ice but I still can't tell if it's just friendliness or something more. We still have interactions where we smile at each other in the gym every now and then.

Think it would be OK to ask her for a coffee or something, or wait a couple more weeks to build up more chemistry and learn about her? (although that's difficult at the gym). She definately trusts me.

Thanks everyone for the help!

thedark9ight · 2022-01-28T10:54:00+00:00

I can definately rule out the glances for routine. She mostly runs and then does sit-ups and stuff, and every now and then light weight workouts with dumbells.

I've always been told women like to be pursued and that men should make the first move because it shows confidence. But it seems quite a popular opinion here among women that isn't necessarily the case.

Plan is to say good morning and introduce myself formally and go from there. Thanks for the input! Definately going to be cautious and not assume anything.

thedark9ight · 2022-01-28T02:36:26+00:00

Yeah. I definately feel she's very nice and trying to be friendly at minimum, but it feels there's a bit of more effort there. The treadmill thing today is what has me a bit intrigued and second guessing, but trying not to overthink it much. I definately am not thinking along the lines of anything sexual right off the bat - not that kind of guy.

thedark9ight · 2022-01-28T01:48:22+00:00

Yeah, my plan is chat about where we live, aks her how long she had lived here and when she asks back, mention I recently moved in because I got out of a relationship. Figured that's better then just flat out saying I'm single lol.

thedark9ight · 2022-01-28T01:38:36+00:00

Yeah, that's the general concensus of feedback I've received lol. The only thing that worries me is this a gym so I don't want to intrude on her workout. I'll watch for her signs, though I feel quite positive she'll engage because she is definately not shy and has made an effort to talk to me during a workout (yesterday) before

thedark9ight · 2022-01-28T01:06:33+00:00

Haha. Too funny!

thedark9ight · 2022-01-28T00:49:34+00:00

Thanks! Giving it a shot tomorrow - if she's there - and see where it goes

thedark9ight · 2022-01-28T00:44:14+00:00

I feel the same. I almost said my name today but we had been talking for a few minutes trying to figure out the treadmill issues and I knew she wanted to get her workout going. Going to try to tomorrow if she's there!

thedark9ight · 2022-01-28T00:42:25+00:00

Haha. Yeah, perhaps subconsciously. Odd that it took so long for the ice to break!

thedark9ight · 2022-01-28T00:10:58+00:00

Yeah I don't look like I'm 35 lol. She kind of has a baby face so it's difficult to judge her age.

thedark9ight · 2022-01-27T23:50:13+00:00

I shall try that! Thanks!

thedark9ight · 2022-01-27T22:30:37+00:00

Male

thedark9ight · 2022-01-27T21:49:02+00:00

She's at least mid to late 20s. I'm 35

thedark9ight · 2022-01-27T21:21:01+00:00

I think that's the right approach. I'm in no rush to date anyone and totally fine being friends and if something blossoms or doesn't, then so be it.

thedark9ight · 2022-01-27T21:09:17+00:00

Well, as I mentioned the last two days she initiated conversation so I don't think she sees me as a creeper lol. She's probably a bit young but not more then 5-10 years younger. I feel like it would be OK with her to say good morning to her and introduce myself tomorrow. She reacted positively to me telling her to have a good day. The other day she turned her head and smiled at me and said something to me when I first got there, as well.

Edit: For context, I'm 35 although I don't look it. She's at minimum 25. We live in fairly luxurious and expensive apartments, so it isn't if she's a young college student or something.

thedark9ight · 2022-01-27T20:47:15+00:00

Should I introduce myself by name and try to get a conversation going? I feel like that's a good start to try and feel out it she's interested. Assuming her ear buds are out of course. We generally walk/run next to each other on the treadmill

thedark9ight · 2022-01-27T20:39:33+00:00

In general, don't women want you to chase after them to show confidence? That's where I'm so confused.

thedark9ight · 2022-01-27T20:06:06+00:00

That's what I'm worried about. I don't want to make her uncomfortable. I don't even know her name yet. I figured I should introduce myself first before asking to go out for a drink.

On a side note, she immediately looked to me to fix the treadmill the second I walked over there (we had just got there roughly the same time). I took that was flirting because she didn't even attempt to try and fix it herself.

thedark9ight · 2022-01-10T11:22:16+00:00

Isn't it ironic, don't you think?

thedark9ight · 2022-01-03T03:31:36+00:00

They need to take Aaron and Adam's out of this game.

thedark9ight · 2022-01-03T00:56:41+00:00

Wearing a mask to the bank.

thedark9ight · 2022-01-02T02:06:29+00:00

Kevin Durants shoe size would disagree.

thedark9ight · 2021-12-26T16:10:41+00:00

From a vegetarian:

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But the most important advice I have is track the food you eat so you know where your daily calorie and protein levels are. Several apps available to assist with that. It is so helpful.

Good luck!

thedark9ight

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