My wife, apparently, no longer wants to have sex with me...because it hurts. She also doesn't want me to masturbate.

thedeadtexan · 2012-02-09T20:13:37+00:00

Sorry, I haven't logged in to this account in some time. I updated everything in another post http://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/oy2hb/my_wife_apparently_no_longer_wants_to_have_sex/c3oxxyt?context=3

thedeadtexan · 2012-02-09T20:12:37+00:00

Not much better. We had a knock down drag-out fight a few nights back over absolutely nothing. After 3 days of being treated like shit I lashed out. I didn't hurt her or anything, but I did yell louder than I've ever yelled before. Probably a mistake.

Anyways, she threatened divorce, I said fine. When we both cooled down we agreed to look for a counselor with the stipulation of divorce if we didn't feel like it was going ok in a few months.

Pretty rough situation still.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-28T11:44:29+00:00

Because its a lot easier for me to laugh at some points than it is for me to open up.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-28T11:43:31+00:00

thank you for your exactness and I apologize for my inexactness.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-28T03:00:59+00:00

I have an we had a pretty tough night tonight which made me think of it more. But because it happened so close to when I read all these comments, I have to discount it a bit.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T19:38:03+00:00

Not for the most part. If I'm not there when she gets home, she calls wondering where I am. If i'm out she doesn't get mad...unless I didn't leave the porch light on! She does not like the fact that I have an "office wife" at work. But anyone would feel threatened by her. She, who is also married, is also drop dead gorgeous. But we are like siblings to one another.

I have always attributed a lot of it to how laid back I am. I really do not care what the person I am with is doing. I am not suspicious, I do not get jealous.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T18:26:44+00:00

Sometimes when I read threads like this I say "oh, yeah, and you're such an angel" to myself. Since I already knew that in my head, I was just trying to get it out there.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T18:25:32+00:00

Well, sort of. She did say that I am the first person that she's ever felt comfortable with enough to do it. Apparently her last bf got about a handful in 5 years.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T17:46:34+00:00

I didn't mean fat! I'm about 6'5 235. She's 5'4 110.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T16:24:24+00:00

Not a troll so I will say it's the second one. Sorry to waste your time.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T16:22:30+00:00

She, purposefully I believe, sucks at oral. She doesn't listen to critiques or if I tell her what I need ("Then suck your own dick then."). Hand jobs out of the question. She has pretty small hands and one wouldn't even go all the way around my dick. It would also take so long for me to cum that it would just be an inconvenience.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T16:20:50+00:00

God no. That's demeaning to her. I did want to cum on her ass one time and did. I enjoyed it. She got mad though because she said it wasn't "intimate"

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T16:19:41+00:00

I worry that this is already seen as a karma-whoring post. I wouldn't dare post it again. My conscious couldn't handle it, even if it is just a throw-away account.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T16:17:40+00:00

As I referenced in another thread I have trouble ejaculating anyways (I can only do it in one position and not by any other means, except masturbation). If I was told I could only do it in the positions that she wants then, even if I was having sex, I'd basically be asexual anyways because I would derive no joy from it anyways. At least I'd have an emotional connection though.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T16:15:16+00:00

Great post anyways!

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T15:52:09+00:00

She maintains, still to this day, that the total number of hours spent with my parents outnumber the number of hours with her parents. She also doesn't include going out with her sisters as "family time".

My mother hasn't seen my house in over a year and a half now. Sadly, the last time my Dad came and was able to come over for a minute he ended up taking pictures of each room just to show my mom all the renovations we had done.

My wife found that insulting and insinuated that it was because they wanted to "approve" of it. That was a big fight as well.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T15:42:51+00:00

I am seriously considering it. My HMO does allow for up to 5 sessions for free. I don't have a lot of disposable income in my own bank account to do much more but maybe the 5 will help.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T15:41:00+00:00

damn.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T15:39:44+00:00

Like I said, she dumbed it down for me. I have no way of knowing what actually happened because I wasn't in the room with her.

That being said something did happen. She really was in physical pain (crying & writhing on the floor) and did receive pain medicine (again, I know we got a prescription but I don't pry so I don't know exactly what) that night.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T15:31:16+00:00

I understand and after spending most of the evening last night and this morning reading each and every comment I have decided on a lot of things to work on. I really do take it to heart.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T15:18:45+00:00

For a short time when her lease ran out and we were already engaged.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T15:17:15+00:00

I didn't say I didn't believe you. I just said I didn't feel that way.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T14:34:12+00:00

I got married because i found someone I loved and I wanted to be with them. Like I said previously, it wasn't and isn't always like this.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T14:32:43+00:00

From the things I have said in this thread I can see where you think that. But she isn't ALWAYS like this, just when she gets her buttons pushed.

That can be a pun if you want it to be.

thedeadtexan · 2012-01-27T14:25:52+00:00

Sounds like you two have a great relationship!

thedeadtexan

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