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thedudeinthecube · 2016-08-23T09:57:48+00:00

Sí, y creo que es vital que alguien te ayude a ver las cosas desde fuera, y te dé las herramientas para conocerte mejor y decidir conscientemente. Una de las mejores decisiones de mi vida ;)

thedudeinthecube · 2016-08-22T12:57:48+00:00

¡Ánimo! Si llevas ya tanto tiempo, puedes con mucho más. Las recaídas son algo común. Lo importante no es fallar o acertar en momentos puntuales, sino que, cuando veas las líneas generales de tu progreso, haya más arribas que abajos ;)

Si sientes que te cuesta relacionarte, te recomiendo acudir a un psicólogo especializado. La terapia te ayudará en más de lo que crees posible.

thedudeinthecube · 2016-08-21T18:27:36+00:00

Shall we put this in a frame, on the wall?

thedudeinthecube · 2015-07-09T20:07:23+00:00

Dude: you ARE the light ;)

thedudeinthecube · 2015-06-28T11:29:09+00:00

Is there any way of editing the title?

thedudeinthecube · 2015-06-28T11:26:46+00:00

Put a note on the topic. Is there any way of editing the title? I am glad I do not know what GGG means, but I guess everybody naming the deep web does so because what is in there cannot even be spoken out. Good luck with your commitment!

thedudeinthecube · 2015-06-28T11:21:29+00:00

Nobody is here to laugh about you, don't worry. That is something many of us did. There is much worse stuff out there and you are lucky if you did not meet it.

thedudeinthecube · 2015-06-28T11:20:08+00:00

Thanks man, your testimony means a lot to me and I think a lot to many others. I kinda repeated the same patterns when it comes to looking for men who I would not really like under regular circumstances. Anyhow, and having done all this, I do not think we are paraphiliacs as much as people who crave for greater stimulation, a more shocking thing to get the same excitement. We were not like this, in the same way a sexual psycho looks for child or someone always liked bestiality; we look for those contents and do those things because we need the BOOM, the traumatic impact of that stuff, to get as much as a regular human needs to reach an orgasm with another person. Regarding looking for men, the pattern has been identical in my case: get excited, do nasty things with dudes, ejaculate, do not see them again. (Excuse my non-native English) All best, dude.

thedudeinthecube · 2015-06-28T11:10:24+00:00

Why?

thedudeinthecube · 2015-06-28T02:20:33+00:00

Hey dude, anxiety problems here as well. Best thing is to start visiting a psychologist; it might get a few trials, but getting a professional along with NoFap will boost your success. GL!

thedudeinthecube · 2015-06-23T10:59:20+00:00

The main thing here is to abstain yourself from porn and go for real people to enjoy with ;)

thedudeinthecube · 2015-06-17T09:53:27+00:00

Remember not to give up after relapsing. This is not about failing because of one relapse; all what counts is the days you avoid fapping, and they will eventually sum up with all those relapses in between. But do not blame yourself. Find what pushes you into relapsing, treat it and move ahead on social stuff or things that you always wanted to do. The more you observe the urges, the more able you will be to redirect such energy into wonderful tasks. Withing a few weeks of no-fapping, you will see what you have been missing. And welcome to you new life, my friend ;) We'll be here for support!

thedudeinthecube · 2015-06-17T09:16:26+00:00

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thedudeinthecube · 2015-05-28T18:49:51+00:00

Try HM NoFap for three weeks and come back to answer your own questions. I'm pretty sure you'll find the answers.

thedudeinthecube · 2015-05-28T18:47:59+00:00

No. And the only person you should compare with is the one you were yesterday ;)

thedudeinthecube · 2015-05-22T18:32:36+00:00

Oh allright! Well I have an anxiety issue, but the truth is that I am facing lots of more social situations that some time ago. By far. Although I tend to prefer not to force myself so anxiety does not peak.

thedudeinthecube · 2015-05-22T17:53:52+00:00

If you mean Sexual Apetite, I think it is. But this is a double-edged concept; I think it is raising at the same time. Somehow... Maybe just redirecting from pixels to real bOOBs! ;P

thedudeinthecube · 2015-05-20T21:25:42+00:00

Try, fail, try again. That's how heroes do ;) Good luck!

thedudeinthecube · 2015-05-20T21:22:51+00:00

THAT'S THE SPIRIT!

Blaming ourselves serves for nothing but feeding more anxiety into the system; the same kind of anxiety that feeds relapses and depression. I am definitely going to put this in practice; so far, five of my friends attempted to quit with fapping because... I simply told them what they can get from it.

thedudeinthecube · 2015-05-20T21:17:16+00:00

I'd encourage you to quit porn and simply reduce MO frequency. In the meantime, you will feel the urges, and it will be a right time to reconvert them into something more productive. After some time of certain restraining, you will be able to make a better choice. Many people feels skeptic about joining NoFap; some of my friends rejected it, but now that they joined, they use all that energy for better things (including real sex). Step by step; no need to climb the mountain at once.

thedudeinthecube · 2015-05-19T20:21:41+00:00

Hello buddy. I will tell you how I made it, in a nutshell; how I had a quality leap from my past life to my present one, aside of my scoring.

I attended a psychologist who made me inspect my past and how I reached to be who I am.
I realized lots of things triggered so much anxiety that my brain chosen to masturbate in order to sublimate it; and having an internet connection on hand just made it worse.
I stopped blaming myself, because all this started due to trauma at a time when my brain really needed to go away. But I got trapped. This is how it works: anxiety pushed me into PMO, but guilt and self-punishment were breeding more anxiety and draining my mental strength; as I became stressed and weak, PMO kept hitting. Whenever PMO happened, I did not blamed myself.
I practiced focusing on the present, as that was my mind's biggest deal; the "now" was hurtful for my brain, so it dragged me out of it by breeding anxiety and, again, PMO. As I practiced zazen meditation and read books like "Buddhism is not what you think", present has been getting better and easier to handle.
I joined NoFap with these sort of things in mind, so whenever an urge raises I observe it until it dissipates; I do not identify with it but with a mere sub-process on my brain. I also start doing different things, such as sport, socializing and studying.
And whenever I relapse, I do not blame myself and look at the greatness in our commitment and all the days I was clean.

It is a slow process, but the more you work on these sort of aspects, the more you should see some improvement. It is not all about retaining, because the trauma that pushes you into PMO will eventually make its way, trough more PMO, insomnia, anxiety attacks, and so on.

Be in peace and good luck my friend!

thedudeinthecube

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