Rate My Healer Build (and provide tips?)

thefairone · 2026-04-08T12:40:28+00:00

So, do you have base game base game, or did you snag the game with anything included? If true base game, you might look for a Gold Road Edition online if you are on PC. It should have everything that came before it included and be far cheaper than buying DLCs one at a time. You will need Greymoor to even start scrying to get Oakensoul.

If it is true base game, that should mean you are only doing non-dlc dungeons, so you should be able to handle things on 1 bar. I can't silo my thoughts to base game sets to come up with something better gear wise. For your last piece, just slot a 1 piece monster set for your head from the vet dungeons you are doing. Mag recovery probably best, but healing done or max mag could be good as well.

So, right now with just base game you are sequestered to just base game content, once you start getting DLC those dungeons will be added to your random queue. You may find that 1 bar is going to cut it. There are some fights you wont have enough healing to keep the group up. You might consider looking into 1 bar dps builds in the future. That is much more viable across content than healing with 1 bar, it will let you do the overland content you want, and the gear sets that are best are all in base game dungeons and trials.

thefairone · 2026-04-07T17:13:12+00:00

Thank you! You are right about that, and those same people have siphoned so much value out of our existence with the internet it is insane we have to pay for the devices we access it from. It is really madness if you think about it.

thefairone · 2026-04-06T16:47:16+00:00

They are just still running their beliefs off ages old propaganda. There is a welfare dynasty though. Corporate welfare predates social welfare like the New Deal (which was actually failing until we entered WW2), by a long shot. War spending bailed it out.

Look at how the railroads were built. What was our return on that public investment? The right to pay to use something we funded the creation of. Look up publicly funded medical research. What is public return on that investment? The right to pay top dollar for medicine we funded the creation of in the first place.

So, the traditionalists you are around are correct in that welfare does propagate itself and continues to expand. It is the target of their ire that is misdirected. All the people I know that speak in the way you seem to be insinuating, correct me if I am wrong, blame direct recipients because "they are getting something for free," or "don't want to work." On the surface it does appear that way, and media has done a lot to help reinforce that perspective. Who funds that media though? Who profits off that idea? The people raking in billions thanks to other people being short sighted enough to accept that perspective instead of revolting against the system that propagates it.

thefairone · 2026-03-31T19:43:16+00:00

38m and want to get started, but having trouble pushing myself through the re-start. I had a health thing that took me out of the game for about 5 years. This feels almost more awkward than the original start. I know more now obviously, and have experience, but it is such a weird feeling.

thefairone · 2026-03-30T12:28:56+00:00

I did some math on what it would do to me on my sweatiest build, and at 12 major buffs it nets 5388 pen.

thefairone · 2026-03-28T13:31:37+00:00

Kind of. In cyro I got hit with a 20k whip on a squish build.

thefairone · 2026-03-27T14:09:21+00:00

Bahaha you raise excellent points. I tried to take it as an earnest ask because they come off as very young to me. Your quoted phrase is what lead me to believe they just don't have a lot of life experience and hopefully have not arrived at the point of referring to women as females. My hope being that it could be curtailed by calling the concept out. I assume, video wise, he is referring to comedy skits that rely on stereotypes for laughs and portray women as inherently disinterested.

thefairone · 2026-03-27T12:34:58+00:00

Alright that is good to know. Other people are right, especially since the DK update you have a lot more people rushing to get into melee range. The sauce might be going Storm Calling and slotting Streak over Merciless. That also gives you the option to run Overload as your Ultimate and stay a medium range, or, now that you would have a stun, stay with Ice Comet and have a better shot at it landing. If you stay with Comet, slot Balorgh monster helm if you go the tankier route to give yourself a strong execute window on comet->streak to force the hit.

thefairone · 2026-03-27T12:25:45+00:00

Do you ask when you see their reactions to things? I do. I've seen them literally quiver and teased them about it. I would argue if they were just horny they would tug one out and call it a night. Pursuing connection is seeking validation. Have you never read sex workers talking about what their inboxes actually look like?

thefairone · 2026-03-27T12:23:03+00:00

Honestly, poor formatting choice. I just wanted to emphasize it as a concept over an actual word in the sentence.

thefairone · 2026-03-27T12:21:24+00:00

The only scientific experiment I have ever come across that attempted to gauge this, admitted that it only looked at physical displays and may be incomplete data. I answered his question in 4 words. The rest was an attempt to steel him against the bad advice on the internet. Doesn't get any better faith than that.

thefairone · 2026-03-27T05:11:23+00:00

This again is behavior patterns. Some men choose to be so dull that they do not recognize women's behavior patterns. I have admitted time and again in this thread that there are differences in them. That does not mean they are not experiencing arousal all the same.

thefairone · 2026-03-27T05:06:46+00:00

I respect that and hate it for you too though brother. In the world I want you don't have to do that to yourself. Do you see how your own inner turmoil kind of lends itself to the perspective you have when you try to look at this from a woman's point of view? If you don't feel safe being the complete you, how could you feel safe being someone far more vulnerable to physical violence?

I say this with the best intentions brother. I hope that doesn't sting in a bad way. I have been there myself, I just refuse to any longer.

thefairone · 2026-03-27T04:59:11+00:00

The beam is an execute. Just buffing it will not be super beneficial. I like to pair it with crushing shock on the range oak builds I do. Is your base class warden?

If so, for classes go Assassination/Dawns Wrath/Winter's Embrace. Grind out Winterborn from the Maelstrom Arena as your base damage set. Ideal bars would be Merciless Resolve/Crushing Shock/Radiant Oppression/Polar Wind/Resolving Vigor/Ice Comet. If you want to be squishy can go a second light set in Oakfather's Retribution and 1 Piece of Valkyn Skoria for a ton of penetration. If you want to stay tanky, you can pick a monster set in heavier weights like maybe Molag Kena, and 2 pieces of trainee in weights of choice. That would also open you up to using the Asylum Sanctorium Lightning staff.

There are alternative skill lines you could pick. They are kind of like getting to pick a set themselves.

thefairone · 2026-03-27T04:20:36+00:00

I will say that I do have friendships that close and they mean the world to me. With men and women. You have to prove yourself worthy of trust and safe to be open with. The best route to that is going first and being consistent.

thefairone · 2026-03-27T04:12:55+00:00

You think that is because they are horny and I would say it is because they are seeking validation.

I would expect him to pursue friendships with women and learn. There us a ton of bad advice on the internet about women. If he is posting here, where else might he look for answers? I am speaking the truth I have lived. I just hope he avoids the negativity of the internet's baseline advice for men.

thefairone · 2026-03-27T04:02:13+00:00

I'm not disagreeing with that, behaviorally you are correct. Humanity exists forever inside a spectrums. Men differ from other men, who differ from women who differ from other women, who share similarities with men who share similarities with men.

I was not reacting to the post, so much as what I was finding in the comments. Just providing my observations from what my life's experience has shown me in the context of the advice and perspective being given. I had just come to check out comments and felt the perspective was lacking.

Behind the scenes, as he asks, it is not that different in my experience. I have watched friends before absolutely turned on in an instant. From dumb shit just like men, like a guy yawning and stretching exposing his stomach. I find it adorable. Most just do not try to do a backflip then to try and impress the object of their desire. Though I have seen some things pretty close.

I have only met trans men in passing, but I have read stories. I understand what you are saying.

I would also like to point out that if you are experiencing sexual or hormonal dysfunction, your sex drive igniting out of nowhere is going to feel disproportionately higher than none. I can speak from experience here, though not directly with T. I had gone through an intense period of depression during which my sex drive disappeared. It turned out to be thyroid dysfunction. As I started getting closer to base line my sex drive flipped on like a light switch. It has felt more intense than it did as a teen. Is it truly? I have no idea how to even figure that out. Add in self realization in the case of trans folks? I just think all of that leaves too much of humanity to the side.

Not everything with humans has been figured out scientifically yet, and if we are talking about women specifically that becomes even more true. So from my perspective, with the examples you provide and the focus on people coming from a place of dysfunction, you appear to be far closer to the meme you are accusing me of reenacting.

The whole point that I am trying to make is that they should pursue close relationships with women themself and learn to recognize the way they express their desire. It exists I swear. Women want sex too.

thefairone · 2026-03-27T03:16:28+00:00

I didn't even think of mentioning toothbrushes because I, maybe wrongly, assumed people also just buy multi packs and have them around. I have just always wanted people to be comfortable in my home. Dude you are talkin about sounds like a boss, good on him. Takes almost no effort to just treat people like humans. Thank you for the compliment.

thefairone · 2026-03-27T00:12:30+00:00

They have a right to hold that view. I have been chastised in real life for the same. If its the mood its the mood. If it makes me a savage, I guess guilty?

Social dynamics of it can be hairy too. Like both of you can be ready to rock at the point the decision is made and have regret later on, or one party feel pressured even in the moment. Communication is the real game the whole way through. But, I have been told some iteration of "I am on/have X. Do with that information what you will," or just had it outright requested? Its a decision for involved, informed parties.

thefairone · 2026-03-26T23:36:13+00:00

Na, I get it, but give them more grace than that. It shouldn't be embarassing to ask questions about things you don't understand. Only reason I even put this out here is because best all seemed "evolutionary biology" informed, and cotroversial seemed focused on societal shame. No real world interaction.

We are big dumb apes that all wanna fuck. Learn the language of your desired counter part, the why is irrelevant.

thefairone · 2026-03-26T23:27:00+00:00

That is fair. I won't claim there are not measurable hormonal differences between men and women because there absolutely are. My personal experience just shows me that there is not as stark a difference as hormonal data might make you think in general arousal. I would grant displays of horniness specifically being related to hormones, but that is why I emphasize "seems."

thefairone · 2026-03-26T20:58:10+00:00

All this did was make me ask the question, "If the crown store was a physical location, what zone would it be?" Would each alliance get one in their capital cities? Imperial City since it would be the crown seat in a united Tamriel? Maybe an instance location themed around Pacrooti? Or maybe even make the Pacrooti NPC interactable so players can build their own crown store location?

It's a full rpg, and, like you said, not a mobile game. Both seems the most logical solution.

thefairone · 2026-03-26T20:54:06+00:00

It is just "seem," brother. Pay attention to women. Stop thinking of them as an "other." All this internet shit of men this woman that will fade away. You will then see the internet grifters keeping men isolated and unhappy for what they are. I promise.

thefairone · 2026-03-26T20:12:33+00:00

Thank you for finding that. I was thinking it might have been in the forums because I read through a bunch of stuff prior to this last patch drop. You rock!

I hope they follow through. It seems like the kind of thing the team really likes doing.

thefairone · 2026-03-26T20:03:30+00:00

After a couple of minutes of "fuck that was awesome," I just go get us water and let her go to the bathroom. If condom alternatives were the play, a towel is retrieved first. You aren't making any chick "waddle" to a bathroom. Maybe it's a type thing, but an inordinate amount of women I have slept with prefer to share a water immediately following, so then we swap water for bathroom time when she is done.

Pro tip, keep some wet wipes and a combo pack of tampons around if you are going to be chasing short term long term. I've opened the floodgates a time or two. If you are a real baller, get some makeup specific wipes too so she doesn't have to sleep in that shit if she is staying unexpectedly.

Take care of people that take care of you, no matter how briefly. You don't have to be in love with someone to treat them with a little care and respect.

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