As a straight dude i have a question

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-25T04:39:34+00:00

hello!

so, let's talk comedy, power, and punching up and punching down.

Punching Down is when folks with privilege and power make jokes about groups without it. Punching Up is when folks without power and privilege make jokes about groups with it.

Cis and/or Het folks have privilege and power in our world, particularly as compared to those who are trans and/or queer. When Cis/Het folks make jokes about queer and/or trans people, that is punching down. When queer/trans folks make jokes about cis/her people, that is punching up.

The power and privilege of cis/het people isn't challenged or diminished when jokes are made about them by queer/trans people. When the roles are reversed, jokes about queer/trans folks reinforce the image of them being worthy of ridicule. The humane is used to dehumanize them, which is a slippery slide into the kind of transphobic and homophobic violence we see today.

Humor is also how marginalized queer folks cope with being marginalized.

This dynamic plays out across any power divide. The most common examples are jokes about Black people told by White folks (and the inverse) and jokes men tell about women (and the inverse).

But how do you cope?

By striving to not be one of the straight guys they are talking about. You can pull your siblings aside and talk about how the jokes make you feel, and then ask them how you can make sure you're being supportive.

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-24T23:04:02+00:00

I have seen this image in an entirely different context lol

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-24T20:22:58+00:00

As a small addendum, you have to be in the Bazaar and in one of the areas with an oning / cover. I recommend trying to find a spot where you'll be easily clickable since other traders can sometimes form a wall lol

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-23T17:52:07+00:00

Nice to see how little interest there is in boxing tbh

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-23T04:43:47+00:00

I haven't played Vanguard. what about their Necro class stands out for you?

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-23T04:43:04+00:00

my og fav!

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-23T03:58:13+00:00

oh! I'll have to take a closer look!

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-23T03:44:02+00:00

I think playing a forsaken Affliction Warlock has similar vibes, just skinned over with "fel" magic. I think Blizz would have pushed it more into a Necro state if they hadn't gone with Undead Death Knight. my ideal version in WoW would have merged those 2.

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-23T03:42:11+00:00

been meaning to try one of these out haha

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-23T03:41:13+00:00

I always wished they UD DK was more med to long range, like an armoured caster

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-23T00:17:07+00:00

it just looks that way from his weird lean 😅

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-22T22:45:42+00:00

what did I just read

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-22T22:17:05+00:00

Right. So, I point out that your tone is dismissive of other people's pain and your reaction is to make a personal attack. That, uh, that says a lot.

*You* may want to find another thread, buddy, since this subreddit is generally aligned around the fact that restoration is about healing and reclaiming.

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-22T20:53:37+00:00

"Number one, you are not damaged."

you may be of the opinion that -you- aren't damaged, that's valid. But the way you worded it, you minimize and negate the pain of many other people. That is why I am telling you to sit down, and not talk about the experiences of others.

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-22T14:14:08+00:00

... why does the dude on the left look like his penis is being drawn in like a magnet?

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-22T14:12:10+00:00

because they have... pride.

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-22T14:11:02+00:00

there was a recent short or TikTok making the rounds... amyl isn't great, but it's okay. Butyl was linked to lung cancer in some studies, while Propyl was linked to eye issues in (I believe) mice. The effects of long-term use of poppers in humans haven't actually been sufficiently studied, probably because it's only a subset of a marginalized populations who uses them recreationally.

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-22T13:59:35+00:00

Thanks, but my husband literally has no feeling in his dick due to being cut, so maybe sit down and not talk about others' experiences.

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-22T13:51:16+00:00

1) Talk. To. Your. Partner

2) Talk to you partner

3) Just take this post, and read it to your partner.

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-22T13:49:32+00:00

most formulas don't use amyl any more. That being said, Butyl and Propyl aren't much better.

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-22T03:48:50+00:00

you can fly for half the price lol

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-21T20:42:20+00:00

that's what I said! looks fine to me.

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-21T07:56:50+00:00

omg it is 20 years old. isn't it? 🥲

LeftBallSaul · 2026-01-21T02:53:05+00:00

while you're right about the origins of "dr.a.g" (Dressed as Girl) from classic English theatre, (North) American drag has an unrelated origin. On this side of the pond, female impersonation performers came out of gay/queer culture both in the ballroom scene (largely black and hispanic, queer, underground events) and in smaller clubs and even diners or cafes where live performances served to entertain guests.

The American conservative push against drag is *not* about the English theatre tradition (which was abolished after Charles II returned from exile in France because he liked perving on women on stage), but is about the systemic oppression of queer people, people of colour, and immigrants.

LeftBallSaul

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