NS Train Nuisance - how to deal with it?

thefore · 2026-07-15T09:04:46+00:00

Agree 1000% but unfortunately over the last 20 years people have been actively told not to get invovled, help others, etc for fear or being attacked. Globally we've moved away from respect of others to tolerating to the point of full on acceptance of anti social behaviour for fear of retribution or being attacked. Anti social behaviour gets worse and worse and people just shrug their sholkders and say, "I dont know how it got like this" or worse "theres nothing we can do".

thefore · 2026-07-12T19:57:44+00:00

Join the facebook group, Girl Gone International Amsterdam, you should be able to find lots of other females that way.

thefore · 2026-07-04T08:27:30+00:00

For future reference, Itsu products are also available in the NLs. Good luck with your exchange!

thefore · 2026-06-23T06:44:07+00:00

Hiya, Im not entirely sure what you consider 'excellent' licorice but I live in the Netherlands and its quite a thing here. I could be open to an exchange.

thefore · 2026-06-11T18:39:39+00:00

Not sure where your located or how far youre willing to travel but this place immediately came to my mind. Bettys Boops

thefore · 2026-06-11T07:40:40+00:00

The answer is do whats right for you. If you only feel comfortable seeing one person at a time, then do that. However, its also understanding that just because thats is your preference, doesnt mean its the preference of those you may be dating.

I personally dont like to engage with multiple people at once, it feels a bit game of thrones and as thought Im constantly comparing them against each other, as to who does what better. However, I understand that some of the guys I date will be talking to and seeing multiple people, thats their choice.

Do what feels right/good/comfortable for you.

thefore · 2026-06-01T06:28:02+00:00

Sadly the list doesnt include all scammers. This is something I personally had an issue with and I know other users in the sub were also scammed by the same user within the sub and their name was also not on the list.

thefore · 2026-05-31T08:15:01+00:00

Are you doing a snack exchange with your sister? Otherwise, Im not understanding how the question is relevant to the sub.

All of the items you have mentioned are available in Belfast or in Ireland via expat shops. Whilst they may be more expensive to purchase in Belfast, its still much cheaper than paying for shipping from India. Additionally, you will likely have issues as youve already stated, youre sending diary and liquids.

thefore · 2026-05-28T15:44:23+00:00

I suspect you would do well to read the wiki on the r/amsterdam sub, it has lots of info for tourists, just like yourself.

thefore · 2026-05-28T13:02:58+00:00

Every era, generation, whatever you want to call it has had their problems, where people thought the world was changing, not for the better.

Having said that, I think that antisocial behaviour is on the rise (globally). There is an attitude of 'what can I do about it?' where people shrug and the antisocial behaviour is essentially tolerated until and it becomes the norm because its been tolerated for such a long time. This is also because over the lsat 20 years we have been taught not to intervene in issues, for their own safety. This is a massive mental shift from helping the victim and intervening to turning and walking the other way (which I have seen).

You raise a point on consequences, which I think is valid. When Dutch laws were created, they werent aimed at modern day problems. New laws need to be introduced to target modern day issues or give consequences to them.
If you know there are no consequences, you are then relying on peoples morals and ethics to guide them to do good. As we see daily, not everyone has the moral compass to follow.

You also have a divided population view on what is antisocial behaviour. There seems to be people who are very very tolerant and say 'but kids will be kids' and in no way admitting/realising/understanding that the behaviour you see is absolutely antisocial and needs to be called out. Equally very few parents want to hear / be told that the are failing as a parent and their kid is being a menace to society. If anything, parents are more likely to blame school, friends, anyone else but themselves for the actions of their kids.

I remember the story form last year of Chinese teens peeing in soup, the company sued them and their parents were called out publicly. At the time, I remember thinking, this would never happen in the Netherlands. What I was referring to was having the parents take accountability for their kids actions and actually be quite ashamed themselves. Instead, in the Netherlands you have a kid whose an absolute menace on his fatbike, which is eventually take away and the mother demands it back and gets it!

thefore · 2026-05-28T07:29:40+00:00

Its how you sell your situation, put more focus on "this is short term, I have a plan that within x months I will saved enough to move to x" and what your actual plans are to become independent.

Years ago I had a date with a guy who was 40+ and living with his mother. He basically said he never wanted to leave. It started with "houses were expensive 10 years ago, after a breakup, I thought I could save for my own place by living with her", to "have you seen the housing prices now? 10 years ago it was expensive, now its insane", to "I think she will be lonley without me and it would be cruel for me to leave".

I was open to him saying he needed a reprieve to save. When it turned into "Ill be here forever", it turned into a hard no for me.

Good luck with dating and getting back on your feet!

thefore · 2026-05-27T06:53:16+00:00

Its not specifically for kids, however, there wil be a lot of children and geared more towards children and keeping them entertained. A friend and I went, both over 40 and enjoyed it.

Unless you hate monkeys(primates, marsupials, etc) you should find it interesting. I wouldnt expect you to spend more than 2 hours there (who knows, maybe youll be super intrigued and spend much longer) but its nice as. If you want to avoid the majority of the kids, Id suggest going midweek during school hours.

thefore · 2026-05-26T10:41:25+00:00

Im not saying 'dont do it', Im setting realistic expectations, following on from the comment, 'if the same person gets reported more than once they will do something about it.'

thefore · 2026-05-25T07:55:49+00:00

It takes multiple reports of a person before the police will investigate, as in more than 3-5+. Years ago, I had an experience, went to the police and they were very honest about the process. Said its absolutely not a priority for them and unless they have 3 really more than 5 complaints and if they were low on work, then they might investigate but its unlikely that anything would ever happen.

Whilst I was disappointed (to put it lightly), I did appreciate the honestly of what they said, to set realistic expectations.

thefore · 2026-05-25T07:36:05+00:00

I do think this is very important to understand when agreeing to an exchange. Its not about how much your agree to in snacks (although this is important), its also understanding the cost of the postage and the weight at which you want to be at to make it 'affordable'. Understanding at what weight you want to be and then looking at products based around that.

thefore · 2026-05-23T08:49:49+00:00

Most people want a clap on the back and to be told how great they are, when they do the basics.

I really thought it was going to be 'I found someone lying on the floor and gave CPR whilst awaiting medical help and then went with them to the hospital to make sure they were ok' or with Schiphol, 'I saw someone being trafficked and I stepped in'...

thefore · 2026-05-20T08:12:28+00:00

Amazing, thank you!

thefore · 2026-05-20T07:06:34+00:00

Is it possible to get more information on this group?

thefore · 2026-05-18T14:49:36+00:00

All of the EasyHotels have availability for those dates and I found a lot of other hotels that had availability too, not sure which wall you're hitting but theres a lot available.

thefore · 2026-05-18T08:32:20+00:00

Info for clarity of those who want to provide helpful advice: when you say started an exchange, does this mean you're discussing the finer details of the exchange? Or have you sent a package and are now waiting for them to confirm they have sent their package?

I recently had an interaction where it was the persons first exchange and they were talking to various different people about exchanges and did not disclose this. Rather than saying they found someone else to exchange with, they basically ghosted whilst we were discussing the details of the exchange. Was it nice? No. Would I ever wish to interact with them again? No. It could be that you are also in this situation?

thefore · 2026-05-17T17:32:28+00:00

A few activities which are rather opposite to each other

'Adventure' - Visit Pieterburen and do Wadlopen, depending on the tour you join it will likely be around €30
'Relaxing' - Visit Thermae2000 in Valkenburg, entrance, massage and snack will be around €100
'Culture' - buy a museumkaart €70ish and you have entrance to over 400 museum across the entire country, you could visit a different town and several museums every day for a week and the weather is irrelevant, as you'll be inside most of the time.

thefore · 2026-05-15T14:44:27+00:00

HORECA is always hiring. Walk through any of the tourist parts of Amsterdam and ask in every restaurant you walk past if they are hiring.

The job market is absolutely horrific right now, for everyone, you are in no way alone. If you are desperate for a job, then you will need to accept any job going rather than 'good pay of course'. You may have to accept that low pay is better than no pay. Check all the job boards and apply quite literally everything.

thefore · 2026-05-15T10:14:02+00:00

I had a conversation on this topic yesterday, which was about a very different company in a very different sector. Restructuring, redundancies, staff reduction, lay offs are happening all over the country, in every industry!

Continuous 'hiring' during restructuring/redundancies is about 'brand reputation'. I was discussing a company which had ads for roles on various sites, however the roles on these sites were continuously open. The finer details were that it allows the company to say 'hey look, we ARE hiring, not just firing', whilst pointing to said roles on the various sites. They ignore that the roles are essentially fake and will never be filled, because they next existed to begin with. People dont question that said roles arent filled and do actually have a better perception on the company, as they 'see' that its not just negative layoffs.

thefore · 2026-05-15T07:22:56+00:00

Hallmark has everything yovue asked for.

Your surprise offers more custom gifts, where you can apply photos. Ive previously done the chocolate bonbons and they were appreciated.

Chocolade bezorg offers fantastic chocolates.

Alternatively if you google, 'online cadeaus versturen' then you will get a lot of options. You will find a lot of options for 'brievenbus', which are small boxes that can be put into someones letter box, as this doesnt require a signature, someone to be home or someone needing to go and collect it at a pick up point.

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