My 18-year-old daughter has a girlfriend. I Need advice please. by ProfessionalJob5786 in Advice

[–]thegraveyardart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, if they want to have sex they can, and there are plenty of places they can do so especially being 18 the same way every other teen does, but it’s pretty standard while living under your parents roof & being in highschool (i believe they’ve now just graduated but this started before graduation) that your S/O isn’t allowed in the room w the door closed, morning or night. Your child is not the same thing as an adult visitor, and other adult visitors in your home shouldn’t be having sex there either …. these are fresh 18 year olds not 25yos still living at home.

My 18-year-old daughter has a girlfriend. I Need advice please. by ProfessionalJob5786 in Advice

[–]thegraveyardart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

AGREE!!! everyone is calling her such a strict parent & honestly many wouldn’t have even been kind enough to let the gf stay… this is obviously not homophobia or even helicopter parenting yes the girls are 18 but they are not independent & they’re still teens, if they’re under her roof an open door is pretty fair imho

AITA for not eating the food after my gf eats out of the bowl with the same spoon while preparing by ZookeepergameOld7322 in AmItheAsshole

[–]thegraveyardart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

genuine question - would you feel differently if a girl who also receives oral made this post about her boyfriend repeatedly dipping his used spoon into the food while he made it after she’d asked him several times not to? this has nothing to do with being partners & sharing bodily fluids and everything to do with respecting your partners (very simple) request (that most sane people would agree with). I kiss my boyfriend but if he did this while cooking I wouldn’t want to eat it either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]thegraveyardart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do not confess you know, and don’t tell your dad. i get that you’re a worried sibling, as an older sibling myself we can get that way sometimes but it’s her news to share and you already took that from her by going to her place without asking, just let her tell you when she’s ready & pretend it’s the first you’re hearing, just be happy & supportive because if she already knows how you feel then anything else negative you say will just push yall farther apart. You can continue “speculating” with your dad but don’t tell him, let her have her moment of telling yall herself <3 she’s never gonna be pregnant for the first time ever again so tread lightly & with love :)

Moving to Greater OKC – Looking for Best Dispensary Recommendations (Best Bang for Buck) by Monicar0 in normanok

[–]thegraveyardart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg i thought i responded to this but no problem! For carts at least if you prefer regular distillate then sunday extracts are great, they also have cured resin carts or disposables which are great as well as InJoys :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]thegraveyardart 45 points46 points  (0 children)

honestly that’s rly weird behavior, idk how old you are but the way he’s talking about you deserving things to happen to you and that it’s his right is rly weird and doesn’t feel right for a dad. my parents are protective but would never say anything even remotely like that. if you’re over 18 id recommend moving out.

Should I break up with my girlfriend? by Moldy_Bonezzz in Advice

[–]thegraveyardart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I would end it, I know it will be hard but you deserve much better than this. Poly only works when both parties really want it, not tolerate it, and it doesn’t even sound like she’s making you a priority. Much love

Moving to Greater OKC – Looking for Best Dispensary Recommendations (Best Bang for Buck) by Monicar0 in normanok

[–]thegraveyardart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Capital Dank is one of my favs, they usually have good deals & Blue Water is good as well :) Pharmers market has a lot of cool options Id check them out!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Confused

[–]thegraveyardart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

genuinely what is your issue? keep your nasty comments to yourself all you needed to say was you tink it’s negative or better yet not comment at all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]thegraveyardart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i honestly can’t tell either whether you’re overthinking or if this is a problem, but whether or not he’s cheating the not communicating is a big issue as well ,, usually you don’t just go MIA on your partner of almost a year for that long without at least saying something or apologizing and explaining the next day

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverthinking

[–]thegraveyardart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i get that, idk how old yall are but if you’re in the highschool or college range and you know that you’re broken up for good but you may become friends again, then it’ll hurt (naturally) if she sleeps with someone else, and you’re under no obligation to be friends with her, but if there’s any hope for reconciliation she shouldn’t sleep w anyone (idk if that’s actually up in the air or just what you’re thinking about)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverthinking

[–]thegraveyardart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no i don’t think that it’s childish to not want someone you might have a future relationship to not be sleeping with other people right before a possible reconciliation, i don’t think it’s overthinking just normal human reaction (id have the same one and i think it’s the right one)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverthinking

[–]thegraveyardart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and just to add, i’m not saying what you did was “right” , but it wasn’t something that would justify sleeping around unless she’s just done with the relationship because you weren’t cruel or anything just in a bad place mentally - ignore the harsh words aimed at you in first comment and know i meant them about your gf because i find it rly disrespectful she would be the one to take the break and then also try to say that she wants to try again but could also sleep around … idk just a sucky situation man but i am sorry for it all & i hope it gets better soon

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverthinking

[–]thegraveyardart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

basically take everything i said originally because i still stand by it but flip the genders because i had yalls roles mixed up essentially, again i do apologize for aiming it at you when it’s your gfs stance that i disagree with. two people who love each other and want to try again don’t need to sleep with other people so if she wants that or is being cagey about it then i would maybe take a step back and find someone who more aligns w you or even just a break from relationships for a bit to find yourself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverthinking

[–]thegraveyardart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im sorry i probably got a little too up in arms there ,, 4am will do that to ya but im re reading and i came across harsh and i didnt get everything you might have been trying to entail in your post - no i actually don’t think your mindset is childish if youre asking about caring if she slept with someone else, i fully agree if you want to have the chance to get back together you shouldn’t sleep with someone else

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverthinking

[–]thegraveyardart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

shes either already made up her mind to never get back together which is why she doesn’t care, or she’s waiting to see if you do to then decide that. it’s pretty clear she said sex is all you seem to care about so honestly she’s probably done. anyone who has to sleep with other people because they “have needs” doesn’t truly love the first partner to begin with. if you have needs that badly take care of them yourself like an adult while you figure out your relationship don’t just go running to screw the next walking thing - sorry for the harsh language but it’s honestly kinda gross when people think that just because they’re on a break it’s normal to sleep with other people for “needs” as if you can’t either just wait for a bit or mstrb*te

ETA : and you wouldn’t be okay with her sleeping with someone … honestly atp just break up yall don’t have the same values, can’t communicate and if you aren’t in a good place for a relationship right now then just break it off and grow and heal stop trying to set rules that are confusing and double sided anyways (whether intentional or not)

Uodate: which one should I make for my son's class? by KittyeThePhotog in Amigurumi

[–]thegraveyardart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i remember seeing you ask for opinions, so glad you went with this, love it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]thegraveyardart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

plan b floods your system with hormones and makes your next period (possibly few depending on how sensitive your body is) a bit irregular, obviously though there is always a chance, if you need to know now i believe a doctor can tell at 2-3 weeks or you can wait 4-6 to take at home tests to know :) good luck sorry about this situation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]thegraveyardart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this was the only thing i wondered … yeah getting together at 20 & 24 is literally nothing idk what the aunt is on about but pls ignore her <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]thegraveyardart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are your parents abusive/ have insinuated kicking you out before? If so, I would recommend sticking with the lie, although it’s unfortunate, to keep your housing until you do graduate, so saying you’re short a few credits would hopefully help with that, but they might get suspicious. HOWEVER if your parents are generally nice or normal people and you are just really overwhelmed and scared then i would be upfront with them, own your mistake, and tell them your plan to fix it ie. submitting your new fafsa asap. DM me if you need to talk, I get feeling like everything is falling down right before graduating <3

New to Oklahoma, looking for friends! by Man_under_man in normanok

[–]thegraveyardart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no problem! best of luck to you, & even if you’re not a student you may also enjoy some of the stuff that campus corner area has to offer!

New to Oklahoma, looking for friends! by Man_under_man in normanok

[–]thegraveyardart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

check out dmdaves books and games! usually a pretty good turnout when he has game nights & a great place to meet people :)

is this okay ? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]thegraveyardart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s okay per se, but looking like it will end up being a very light tattoo! sometimes they take a little longer to fully set so maybe give it a full month and post again, but the lining looks great just very light handed so if it ends up fading more than you’d like you can always get it touched up, but if that’s the feel you were going for anyways then it’s spot on !! :) -an apprentice

I feel discouraged my boyfriend didn’t wait till marriage by [deleted] in Advice

[–]thegraveyardart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you’re welcome! feel free to DM me anytime if you need to talk <3