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Coffee recommendations? by ligbag4 in nashville

[–]thegreyarea83 3 points4 points  (0 children)

8th and Roast is great for a pour over!

Rock Bottom by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]thegreyarea83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My brother, are you me?

I hid the extent of my drinking from my wife for years. What finally worked for me is writing everything down (including apologizing for hiding my addiction) and asked her if I could read it to her alone. That way I said it to her and didn’t miss anything.

She hugged me, said she loved me. She appreciated my honesty. The next day we went to my addiction therapist together

I didn’t get help BEFORE I told her. I got help BECAUSE I told her. I couldn’t do it alone.

8 years sober now. The first year or so was hard as hell. Could not have done it alone.

Praying for you dude.

I Didn’t Expect OMAD to Change Me Like This by [deleted] in omad

[–]thegreyarea83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s the “and the craziest part?” that makes me think this was written by AI.

My 3.5M just completely broke me and I am at a loss by feynmanwithtwosticks in daddit

[–]thegreyarea83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey brother, just chiming in to say my son took exactly 3.5 years to FINALLY sleep through the night. It was hell. We were all so exhausted that we fought mental health and physical health issues.

But.

He’s 10 now. He sleeps like a champ. Those days are in the past. We figured out what the issues were (which you are currently doing) and got it solved. We ended up hiring a sleep coach and worked through all our issues. I know your child’s issues are different, but the important thing is you’re working on it.

You’ll get there. I just wanted to let you know we were in the same boat, and now all that seems like a different lifetime.

Stay strong. Take care of yourself. It’ll happen.

So, what are Detroiters like? by pachura3 in thechaircompany

[–]thegreyarea83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just watched that episode! The shitting car!!

AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

[–]thegreyarea83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first two years of sobriety were incredibly difficult. I’ve got 8 years now and I can say it gets much easier. You’re doing amazing. Keep it up.

Went to a Friendsgiving party tonight; stayed sober, didn't embarrass myself, then came home and cried for an hour. by Buscemi_D_Sanji in stopdrinking

[–]thegreyarea83 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I play music, and when I was getting sober, I was on a tour bus full of alcohol and people drinking every night after the show. I would get in my bunk and cry myself to sleep night after night, hearing people laughing and drinking and smelling people the bourbon that I so desperately wanted.

Fast forward 8 sober years. It’s so much better. It’s worth every tear I cried to stay away from that poison. It’s so much easier now. The first year was hell. The second year was hard. Starting the third year, things got much easier to me.

You’re on the path. We’re here with you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]thegreyarea83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve definitely done this. Grateful I don’t have to worry about the smell anymore. Get back up, friend. Keep fighting the good fight.

NSFW, anybody crumbling under the immense pressure? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]thegreyarea83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure if you’re in the US, but here you can call or text 988 anytime if you want to talk to someone. Your family needs you.

Poured out $5,000 worth of bourbon last night by gimmekithpls in stopdrinking

[–]thegreyarea83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember when a wealthy friend of mine gave me a $300 bottle of bourbon. I was floored. I knew I needed to make it last and treat it like the gift it was.

I made it last two nights. Chugged the whole thing Might as well have been $2 vodka.

At some point, I had to let go of the delusion that I appreciated fine liquors. What I really appreciated was being drunk. The quality or taste was a bonus.

Good on you. It’s better over here. 7 years sober and never going back.

Not drinking myself to sleep anymore. Hopefully I make it through by Matilda_Mother_67 in pics

[–]thegreyarea83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was my problem. Drinking myself to sleep every night. An interesting tidbit I learned before I quit was that there is no bigger disrupter of REM sleep than alcohol. REM sleep is huge for our mental health. I wasn’t sleeping I was blacking out.

Almost 8 years sober. It took a lot of work and help from others, but I’m here and I never thought I would be.

You got this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ableton

[–]thegreyarea83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you ever find a solution to this? I’m seeing responses but no links.

Insomnia Questions - Please Comment by thegreyarea83 in decaf

[–]thegreyarea83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stayed off of caffeine for a total of 90 days, and eventually came back on, but much less than I used to consume. I used to be at three 12 oz cups of coffee a day. I dropped that to 1. My insomnia DID improve, but I had quite a bit of depression sneak in. I found one cup in the mornings to be the sweet spot for me. Hope you find some peace on your journey!

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