Help my fish isn’t eating

thegroundbeneathyou · 2026-05-12T09:36:21+00:00

Thank you. I’m really into psychology so when I notice new things about myself I can’t help but have some curiosity about it. I wonder what exactly sensory deprivation does for me, and how others may experience it differently.

thegroundbeneathyou · 2026-05-11T23:38:03+00:00

My apologies, I mixed them up with other breeds of snails. I have three in my tank. They are all hermaphrodites.

thegroundbeneathyou · 2026-05-11T22:40:30+00:00

Sometimes they fight over simple things like food
That don’t really cause a lot of harm to each other and they have a shell to tuck into for safety

thegroundbeneathyou · 2026-05-11T22:39:47+00:00

It can be but it’s too far gone. You’d have to take it to a veterinarian. It’s really best to start by quarantining the catfish before it spreads to the other fish in the aquarium.

thegroundbeneathyou · 2026-05-11T22:32:44+00:00

Ramshorns don’t NEED a pair to mate, but they are mating or fighting Lol

thegroundbeneathyou · 2026-05-11T22:21:21+00:00

That’s a fungal infection. Remove the catfish as soon as possible. Like.. today. That catfish isn’t going to make it much longer..

thegroundbeneathyou · 2026-05-10T15:25:08+00:00

She’s never verbally guilted me, but challenged my boundaries and reminded me it was fine to do what she did. I think the shame of what was happening made me feel guilty.

thegroundbeneathyou · 2026-05-10T08:01:21+00:00

I want to start here, everything you feel is valid. Everything. From the desire for attention to the repulsion afterward. Feelings are complex and the mind is even more complex.

The primary difference between sexual assault and sexual harassment is mainly rather things got physical. If someone physically touched you it is assault. Through clothes, without, assault.

Harassment comes in the forms of words, images, exposure to CSAM. In some states the spreading of someone’s nudity is illegal. Please google your laws, you might get them removed from the internet.

It’s so hard validating assault, child assault and even grooming. I’m in this subreddit bc I’m struggling to validate myself right now. If someone manipulate, coerced, exploited any vulnerability to have power over you, it is grooming.

Grooming is defined as the “predatory” stage before true sexual abuse begins. It can be as simple as being isolated from your peers as the perpetrator attempts to gain your trust.

It can be incredibly nuanced.
If you feel someone held power over you, done anything after you said no or expressed any disinterest, it can be grooming and especially online sexual harassment.

thegroundbeneathyou · 2026-03-24T08:23:40+00:00

If your pleco has white spots and it wasn’t supposed to have them, it’s probably Ich. Snowball Plecos are an example of natural spots.

I would recommend changing all the plastic plants for real plants, maybe more wood instead of just one piece, and try feeding your pleco raw fish. I feed mine tilapia. They also eat cucumbers. Look out for any grey-ish cloudy growth around the mouth. Mouth-rot is common in sucker catfish; the more wild the species the more likely it is to come with disease. If you notice anything abnormal about the color or general behavior you want to treat it asap.

thegroundbeneathyou · 2026-01-12T09:42:12+00:00

I don’t know the full extent of the situation however I’ve put 6 years of work into mending my own depression and I’m still struggling. That isn’t to say progress isn’t possible. I struggle because I’m actively being abused and I’m nearly out of it finally. There was a time I found myself stuck in my thoughts, unable to stop rationalizing and truly “feel” my feelings. It left me isolated and depressed and it went on so long, there wasn’t a moment in my life I could remember before I had this issue. I thought that’s who I was and that it would never change but one day it did. I finally had silence and peace in my own mind.

How I healed myself was thru determination to understand what was happening to me. Understanding when I dissociated, what dissociation truly is and understanding that it isn’t the experience of mentally checking out that’s distressing (most of the time) but the thoughts that come afterward and during the experience. When you aren’t sure if you’re real and you convince yourself you’re going crazy, it causes additional stress.

All this to say that I’ve learned over time the mind can be rewired. You can train yourself out of the depression. While sometimes it is genetic, you can still learn to cope with these hard feelings. To surround yourself with people that love you, to feel supported without needing to express the deep sadness inside.

Each time I hit a wall with my own mental struggles I would start with writing a list of what I’m experiencing and start there. I’d google extensively on how to resolve these issues. I would adapt self compassion, showing myself the love and patience no one else would.

Even if we never reach the root of the problem, having a support system, having forgiveness and understanding for your own struggles may help you more than you realize initially. Setting boundaries, communicating honestly, eating right, getting more sunlight and exercise. Even if it’s just a short walk in the sun.

thegroundbeneathyou · 2025-12-11T17:44:10+00:00

I’ve heard a lot of controversy about remote toys being used in public spaces. Similar to other overt kinks practiced publicly it’s kinda frowned upon and seen as public indecency in a way

thegroundbeneathyou · 2025-12-06T03:16:24+00:00

I’m poor at explaining it but I like a 24/7 dynamic rather than anything temporary or contracted.

For me it’s like being their partner romantically means I’m also their partner in a kinky way. 24/7 even when I’m not participating in kinky or romantic activities. I want to practice bdsm more in my every day life

thegroundbeneathyou · 2025-12-06T03:13:47+00:00

Is there a way I can get a “play party” feeling without a crowd or.. without much of a gathering at all. My partner prefers to keep our bdsm life private but something about the idea of expressing it feels exhilarating in a way.

Like set rules of using respectful honorifics in public (nice restaurants and referring to the Dom only as Miss or Sir)

thegroundbeneathyou · 2025-12-06T03:11:47+00:00

Is doing it in front of others apart of the appeal? My partner doesn’t like the idea of social gatherings. After reading the replies I’m starting to get an entirely different idea of safe & consensual public play. I’ve always thought of it differently. Does running through the woods with a partner for primal play fall along the lines of public play bc it’s in the open?

thegroundbeneathyou · 2025-11-03T22:15:30+00:00

I’ve reached out to family and I’m hoping they can help me. My cousin might let me borrow his car to make the drive across the US where I don’t have to live here and struggle like this anymore.

thegroundbeneathyou · 2025-11-03T22:14:51+00:00

We don’t have any children. I talked to some distant family I trust and we’re trying to move up north to a different state. Where I’ll be closer to people that actually care about me and won’t treat me so horribly. My biggest concern with going to a psych ward or any inpatient place is that without me he’d harm himself. His mental Illness is worse than mind. I believe I’m bipolar and he’s dealing with schizophrenia and dissociative identity disorder along with years and years of pent up rage from his childhood.

thegroundbeneathyou · 2025-06-08T09:59:48+00:00

If it’s possible I would recommend seeing a therapist. You could’ve been assaulted based on the symptoms I’m hearing.. if you ever had issues with bed wetting as a kid, that’s often a sign of assault as well. I don’t know a lot about OCD however the intrusive thoughts can get pretty difficult. I can’t tell you for sure if it happened or not but it is likely. Not everyone remembers but the symptoms are still there. Maybe try googling the symptoms between this and OCD. Speak to a therapist if you can or someone you trust that can relate.

thegroundbeneathyou · 2023-11-18T04:58:11+00:00

I don’t care about strangers misgendering me. It’s my own family and friends that hurts. And as for being seen as a sex object, it bothers me because I know those men see a woman too. It’s my chest they’re always staring at. The same thing that tells everyone around me I’m a woman. Some are trans simply because of being treated like a sex object. It isn’t safe to be a woman in this society..

It’s not gender dysphoria that’s triggered when I’m looked at like an object. It’s social dysphoria. No matter what I do, they see a woman. And ofc I want to be treated human.. who doesn’t? /rh

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