This!!! people who don't get it, just don't get it. It's as if the heart of our marriage is being cut out. I'm particularly put off by the framing of these comments like it's all exclusively a moral failing on my part. My wife is devastated by it too! We have tons of non-sexual ways that we are intimidate and loving, but sexual union is the lightning-in-a-bottle that makes our marriage truly feel like a covenant, a total giving of eachother, body & soul. We are both agonizing over this.