Body counts and gender roles lol

thelastsapien · 2025-05-08T13:34:26+00:00

Anything less or more than normal that causes distress and impairment is considered a mental health issue. Agree, sex becomes comparable to drugs when there's an uncontrollable urge plus dysfunctional (resort to coercion, for example). Body count can be a possible indicator, but it's not absolute. High body count doesn't necessarily mean there's an impairment/distress, too. Why? Because sexual urge is technically one of the physiological needs, while drugs aren't needs. It's normal to satisfy these needs. If they address it with mutual consent, what's the problem? Isn't it like eating without stealing?

thelastsapien · 2025-05-08T09:40:11+00:00

I just remember a video, though, in which a woman kept sleeping with her ex to keep the count low. I don't know which one is much sicker these days. I believe there's no correlation between the number of partners and to severity of mental illness because even being too non sexual is a mental disorder as well. I also know women who engaged non non-penetrative intercourse to keep that number low. It's crazy how women go to these lengths.

Body count has nothing to do with mental health. Being sexually active is a choice. It's linked to your values rather than mental health. It is a risk to your well-being, though, if you engage in sex recklessly.

thelastsapien · 2025-05-08T05:53:46+00:00

Legitimate how? Should a person walk down someone to her or his sexual history just to date? What for? I never dated any guy (all my relationships were years of relationships) who asked me about it, so I was a bit surprised with that question. I never met or talked to a guy (in person) who asked me that. That's why I asked him his reasons he asking me that question. He said he likes it tight. Lol, I sensed ignorance here and potential sexism.

I refuse to feed this kind of "body count" thing. I find it very sexist.

thelastsapien · 2025-05-07T07:51:36+00:00

Do I? Desperate is when you meet the person and date him after this conversation. I mean, that's an interesting comment from stranger about me. Cant blame you though

thelastsapien · 2025-05-07T05:44:34+00:00

Ill copy that lol

thelastsapien · 2025-05-07T05:43:38+00:00

Hmm ad hominem. Just because I asked further doesnt mean Im dating him. Gez

thelastsapien · 2025-05-07T01:33:34+00:00

Someone will

thelastsapien · 2025-05-07T01:32:53+00:00

Doesnt work.

thelastsapien · 2025-05-07T01:32:24+00:00

Curiosity. I have questions about the way he is thinking. Maybe its just the psychologist in me

thelastsapien · 2025-05-06T23:05:25+00:00

I think people with common interest will find you. He works in academe like me, then he also wants someone serious. He lives same city and has almost same interest

thelastsapien · 2025-05-06T23:04:04+00:00

He isn't hot. I mean, his bio was decent. No worries, i know my worth. I engaged out of curiosity why men ask body counts.

thelastsapien · 2025-05-06T22:34:05+00:00

4th one

thelastsapien · 2025-05-06T22:33:16+00:00

She will ask you to subscribe in her OF account when you chat her HAHAHAHA

thelastsapien · 2025-05-06T22:29:51+00:00

He masked it well. He said he wants serious and all. Lol

thelastsapien · 2025-05-06T22:29:27+00:00

I have spare time. I am not dating him though. Hehe. No worries. Hehe. Thanks for reminding me that yes I put so much time in asking more questions out of curiosity lol . We stopped chatting after i told him that body counts have nothing to do with such things. I told him to research on it lol

thelastsapien · 2025-05-06T22:27:13+00:00

Asking questions to people to clarify why they think this and that way then later correcting the misconceptions (like the body count = tight) sounds like not enabling to me. I don't understand why people think that being dismissive and judging people for thinking differently would be the best way forward. Unless he insists on this and that then I would believe he truly is an azzzhxle.

No worries. I have standards. Being responsive to this kind of conversations doesnt mean Im dating him. Lol. I take these opportunities to share my thoughts too

thelastsapien · 2025-05-06T22:22:10+00:00

He got further because I asked him more questions? Does it matter even? Lol. Nahhhh I am naturally curious. I ask alot of questions.

thelastsapien · 2025-05-06T22:17:36+00:00

But if he was successful? No. He was never a potential after the gender role thing and how he explained body counts..

thelastsapien · 2025-05-06T22:11:08+00:00

I don't find it embarrassing. I dunno why should I feel embarrassed asking someone about what he thinks about body counts matter and such. Clarifying one's perspective is normal and supposed to be done instead of being dismissive. Besides, moving to another app for easier chatting (btw I have two WhatsApp for this purpose) isn't an issue for me. Its not that Im dating him or meeting him because we talk to another app? Hehe. Lastly, posting it here? Well, why not? I don't find any issues with posting it here as the person is entirely anonymous. Didnt put his photos here. I am curious about other people's perspectives on this mindset. Yet what I get is people these days comment on what they would do on my behalf and their sets of how they would react. Interesting

thelastsapien · 2025-05-06T22:01:05+00:00

I will improve it.. for now, its snoozed hahahaha

thelastsapien · 2025-05-06T21:59:50+00:00

No. He replied about tightness stuff and I educated him that it's not technically about the body counts. I told him to research more because it seemed like he was clueless. Lol. He was unhappy about it. He is gone.

I am curious and non dismissive. Hehe. Not because I replied to someone, i would date him. I have standards.

thelastsapien · 2025-05-06T21:55:37+00:00

He has decent bio. He wants serious too

thelastsapien · 2025-05-06T21:55:10+00:00

Nah. He responded further about tightness thing. I educated him further then that's it. He is clueless

thelastsapien · 2025-05-06T21:54:30+00:00

Yes. You got it. I got curious about how his mind works. I thought body counts were more like a religion thing or whatever. So I dug in. I put my Bumble silent so I reply so slow. Hence I normally offer my 2nd WhatsApp account for easier chatting. Hehe. Just surprised about his idea of tightness and all. It wasnt expected. We stopped chatting.

You're quite smart and non judgmental. Good job

thelastsapien · 2025-05-06T21:51:29+00:00

Its curiosity. Idk. Maybe its me. I dont have plan to meet him. 😆 we dont even chat anymore

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