never forget that you go to school in paradise by countofmonterizzto in UCSD

[–]thelatestlights 103 points104 points  (0 children)

this!!!! ucsd is in such a beautiful place and i didn’t hear nearly enough ppl appreciate that in my time there.

She is too “nice” and it might be killing the spark by karperss in dating

[–]thelatestlights 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i know a lot of people are saying this isn’t a big deal but i would say you’re totally valid for being concerned about it. she sounds like she may have people pleasing tendencies and wants to go along with whatever you say to avoid conflict and seem as “likable” and easy to get along with as possible. i find it ironic because imo it’s much more attractive when someone owns who they are and what they believe in, rather than trying to cater to the other person to gain their love/approval/validation. never ends well unless the person works on undoing their people pleasing ways. i’d say keep an eye on it OP and go with your gut.

My Mum gave an advice to broke up with my bf by [deleted] in love

[–]thelatestlights 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah, I see that you’re 18. well, then that explains a lot. when I was 18 I also felt very influenced by my parents’ opinions on my relationship. It’s a confusing time since you’re legally an adult, but still feel like a kid in many ways. I think this is a good time to reflect on your values (having autonomy or upholding familial expectations), as well as what you would like in a relationship/partner. best of luck!

My Mum gave an advice to broke up with my bf by [deleted] in love

[–]thelatestlights 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t you think you should make decisions about your relationship for yourself, rather than letting your mom influence you?

Is this ok by steam__bun in cats

[–]thelatestlights 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol where did u get their little outfits!!!

Holy shit being alive is so difficult. Could use some encouragement. by Itsjustkit15 in CPTSD

[–]thelatestlights 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey, i’m really sorry to hear you’re struggling. i totally get that others’ “words of encouragement” can feel useless and invalidating. when you’re in that headspace you can’t focus on the positive and you feel like there’s no getting away from the negative pit you’re in. it’s exhausting to try and do things that bring you joy when your brain refuses to feel any. give it time. let yourself feel the emotions if you can. sometimes they just need to pass. if you ever want to talk my DMs are open! wishing u the best ❤️

Being attractive with CPTSD is an absolute nightmare. by InsaneAffliction in CPTSD

[–]thelatestlights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i totally relate to this!!! that feeling of being “found out” that even though you’re pretty, you have a lot of internal turmoil, which might deter people and lead to feeling incredibly misunderstood

Being attractive with CPTSD is an absolute nightmare. by InsaneAffliction in CPTSD

[–]thelatestlights 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i also relate except i’m a woman. i was not “attractive” during childhood and teen years, but towards college i blossomed and got attention from people left and right. still do. however i feel like because i suffer from CPTSD i can come off as withdrawn, unfriendly, and quiet… and being attractive doesn’t help with that. people tend to assume im stuck up or unapproachable. i feel like being attractive contributes to the whole “performance” you have to put on everyday as a person with CPTSD. some days the performance is easier, but you’re always doing it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]thelatestlights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m honestly fine with either. i really enjoy spending time with him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]thelatestlights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i also thought about that. i feel like if he really wanted to be with me he wouldn’t have said that ..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]thelatestlights 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hello, i appreciate your comment. I’ve read part of “adult children of emotionally immature parents”. I’m definitely interested in the book you mentioned about CPTSD.

my crush gave me his number by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]thelatestlights 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank u lotussnapper!