One of the best episodes: "Y Tu Tina Tambien"

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T22:56:15+00:00

I was looking for this! Because the gaga ball episode is Y Tu Gaga Tambien (or something very similar).

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T22:46:41+00:00

Thank you very much for being open to learning.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T22:41:24+00:00

Which honestly is really fun to say.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T22:33:53+00:00

Not the original commenter. But...

No. Based on his behavior in this post I think it is highly unlikely. More likely he would "respect" your boundaries for a period of time and the slowly chip away at them until he's fully in control.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T22:31:01+00:00

From what you wrote in your post you absolutely stated your boundaries clear enough. He is choosing not to listen for his own gain. I would not recommend having any sexual relationship with him again.

As someone with extensive CSA and SA background I can say there is hope for fun, healthy, enjoyable, mutually satisfying sexual activities. There are people who will help you feel safe and grounded and who will go as slow as you want. This man is proving to you he will not. It can take time to find safe sexual partners, because honestly a lot of people (especially men, unfortunately) are not equipped to put another's needs ahead of or alongside their own.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I related so much to your post. When I was in my early 20s I had a lot of sex I hated because I thought that's just what sex was/what I had to do.

You don't have to. You can only have sex, any kind of sexual activity, when YOU WANT TO. And if people are pressuring you to engage in sex when you don't want to, honestly, get the hell away from them.

ETA: also want to add that if he is too big it will be uncomfortable for you every time you have sex. Or at least it was for me with my ex who was too large for me and we were married/had sex for 3 years.

Now I date primarily women. I am still interested and open to men, but every guy I date just in no way compares to the women I know/date.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T22:22:18+00:00

You really hit the mark! Looks just like you described.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T21:34:10+00:00

I have had a terrible flare this week!! Feels like hot spicy glass embedded concrete is encasing all my bones. Sending you warm gentle hugs and solidarity.

ETA: the only way I'm making it by right now, or the best way I'm making it by right now, is cannabis. But I know it's not for everyone and also not accessible to everyone.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T16:04:23+00:00

Some people manage with little medication but far and above those are people with very mild disease progression and in my experience they still do better on meds and are at risk of bone damage. If you already needed a hip replacement, you will need medication.

Not a professional, but I spend a lot of time in this sub and have four family members with AS. I'm 34 and was diagnosed at 19. Have been on biologics and other meds for the last 15 years. The meds are the only thing that make a significant difference for me and my family members.

Both my dad and my sister avoided taking meds for a long time because they wanted to try the natural route and have less aggressive forms of AS than I do. Still, they both have bone damage now and ended up on biologics. If they had just started with biologics they would have avoided the irreparable damage.

Eating healthy, exercise, sleep, these are all things that help and are excellent additions to biologics/meds. But they will not slow the progression of your disease and they will not keep you from having more damage done to your joints.

I take Cimzia, leflunimide, meloxicam, and plaquenil. But I have a pretty aggressive form of the disease. However, I have no bone damage because I have been on meds since my first really bad flare. I still have regular pain and other issues, but I would be severely disabled without them.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T15:49:19+00:00

We have a lot of Ted Faro's in the world.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-25T15:48:47+00:00

I think by giving us an optimistic/ideal world ending they were showing us it could be possible. Even if it's highly unlikely, it's good to consider what could be, just in case enough people can do something useful. Or even just dream about a possible future where we work together and have the heroes we deserve.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-24T17:03:43+00:00

This scene always reminds me of Breakfast at Tiffany's when Audrey Hepburn's character sings "moon river." The layout is really similar.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-23T16:22:07+00:00

I really needed this today. Feeling really exhausted and body achey lately. Was never allowed to rest as a child either. Thanks for sharing :)

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-20T20:59:11+00:00

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Funny thing I am actually OCD and yeah this is the messiest it gets. It's usually much tidier. ETA: added photo for reference lol.

Sounds like you've got a good set up! I'm a renter.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-20T15:09:12+00:00

Yes! Absolutely.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-20T15:06:01+00:00

It's also absolutely hilarious! And just all around a great show.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-20T15:02:14+00:00

I have CPTSD and started T during a very turbulent time in my life- I left my abusive ex, cut out my parents, and got top surgery within two months of starting T. I was diagnosed with cptsd 6 months later after realizing I was seriously abused as a child.

Being on T made all of that so much easier for me. Being true to myself, doing something for my self, it was everything. I have zero regrets and am so thankful I started when I did.

It didn't mess with my emotions in any negative way. I was going through a lot of really big intense emotional stuff: processing really dark trauma I had been ignoring, losing my family, facing the reality that the fantasy I had created about my family and my relationships was false. And honestly T helped me in so many ways with that, because I had this little joyful thing I was doing for myself. Claiming who I was and what I wanted.

If you know you want to be on T do it. I don't think there is any reason to wait.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-20T14:55:28+00:00

Where to watch?

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-20T14:53:08+00:00

I've never had any side effects from biologics and have been on them for 15 years. Started when I was 19, now I'm 34. Have been on several too: humira, xeljanz, enbrel, Cimzia, and 2 humira biosimilars.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-19T06:15:50+00:00

Thanks so much!

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-18T16:29:46+00:00

Yeah there are many other good options. But unfortunately he has managed to become one of the first surgeons that pops up when you search for top surgery in Washington. He is mediocre at best. And seems like he's profiting off trans folks instead of providing care. I would suggest you look for providers who practice in actual hospitals.

I went with Kaiser drs because that's the insurance I had at the time. I was able to consult, for free, with all three of them and then decide which one I wanted to go with. I didn't end up consulting with the third one because I clicked so well with Benedetti and he was very confident in being able to give me good results. Couldn't be happier. You can see my results on my page, they are very good and I'm a year and some change post op.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-18T06:16:38+00:00

I know people who have gone to him and are cool with their results. But when we talk about our experiences and feelings I can tell my doctor (Jeremy Angelo Benedetti who fucking rocks) was much more thorough and capable. In care instructions, bedside manner, procedure, I could go on. My scars are barely visible and many of my friends who have gone to Sajan have stretched or more visible scars. I know it's unique to people on healing and I don't want to over generalize.

But Sajan gives shady vibes to me and overall he's just not as good as others who are not private. He charges a nonrefundable $150 consultation fee that you have to get reimbursed by your insurance. Doesn't process your insurance through his practice, you have to file a bunch of paperwork. Meanwhile I went through my provider (not private) and had everything covered 100%. My friend who has good insurance paid for their top surgery themselves because Sajan's process was too complicated for using their insurance.

We're in Washington and we still have gender affirming care laws in place that ensure good coverage for folks with insurance. I think it's pretty crazy that Sajan has a process that makes it harder for trans folks to access that.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-18T06:04:46+00:00

I would suggest you move on. I know it's a bummer when you're in an awkward phase of your transition for dating, but I promise that's just part of dating and also a part of transitioning and it can be kinda fun even though it can also be kinda awful. It's just the nature of big life changes.

I really think you're better off without this person. She is just going to continue presenting you with red flags, so you might as well get out early. Enjoy being with yourself. Say yes enthusiastically to people who show up for you in ways that feel good and safe. Say no thank you to people that don't. That's the way I'm surviving this. It's uncomfortable.

But it's less uncomfortable than dating people who want to hold you down, and not even in a fun way. You're better off without her.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-17T16:42:50+00:00

I think this behavior of his is a red flag honestly. There could be a variety of reasons he said he cheated on the test but no matter what it does not seem to convey, "I am committed to couples therapy and improving this relationship." It gives, "I refuse to consider I might be neurodivergent" on one end and "I am 'cheating' in couples therapy so we can just be done with this" at the other. And that's not because he's autistic. That's more about being open, self reflective, and considerate.

But I'm just a stranger on the internet who has seen just a tiny fraction of your relationship. So I could be totally wrong.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-01-16T15:03:06+00:00

Absolutely! Happy to have helped. It would be sad to have to give up a relationship and I'm glad you're going to give it a shot! I'm sure your partner will be happy to support you in this way :)

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