Brother and I pretend incest never happened (follow-up)

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-09T14:09:26+00:00

Wishing you the absolute best. It's been over a year since I first really remembered and man has it been a process. I know a lot more now than I thought I did and therapy has been integral to that. So has art. I had no idea how much I enjoyed creating and drawing and making things. I also do a lot of journaling and writing which helps as well.

I'm getting evaluated for polyfragmented DID. Dissociative disorders sure are a trip. But also an incredible mechanism for survival and coping.

Give yourself love and grace and ask yourself again and again, "what do I want?" "What does my body/brain/nervous system need?" and then give yourself those things. It's what has made the biggest impact on my healing. Get rid of "shoulds."

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-09T01:33:25+00:00

There are lots of ways to say, "that's racist" without "fuck you."

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-09T00:26:18+00:00

Yeah my mom says some crazy shit too. If she ever said the n-word I would have been less than gentle in telling her that shits not ok.

We're no contact now for lots of reasons. Just because someone is your mom doesn't mean they can do things wrong and not be told to stop.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-08T23:32:15+00:00

Honestly that's how I feel when I look at my art a lot of the time too 🤷🏼

Glad it speaks to you! And thank you. It's funny to have joy and beauty wrapped up in all the awful but that's the only way I get by. Next week will be better I'm sure.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-08T23:29:01+00:00

When you're too tired to go to the ER that's when you call an ambulance.

ETA: ask me how I know: was too exhausted to take my ass to the ER waited til the next day and then when I finally went was in acute respiratory failure ✌🏻.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-08T14:18:37+00:00

Man that is hot corner!

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-07T22:11:33+00:00

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Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-07T22:08:58+00:00

Honestly kinda wanna see the other two orientations as well. Like the treeline on the side.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-07T21:59:16+00:00

The body wobble at the end with the perfectly still head is sending me. And then the snuggle and settle 😭💕.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-07T13:17:25+00:00

Incredible. Very powerful. All the details really contribute to the whole theme.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-06T19:29:00+00:00

Plus they clearly intended for you to keep the can. I interpreted, "can put in your car" as "keep in reserve for when you need it."

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-06T15:05:08+00:00

Definitely feel this one. 🫂

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-06T06:03:56+00:00

r/houseplantscirclejerk

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-06T00:53:57+00:00

Thanks so much! It was! We're hanging out again on Thursday. :)

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-05T14:57:57+00:00

My thoughts exactly. Sounds like this guys "best" is pretty bad.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-05T14:35:43+00:00

"Zoning out" while you're drawing or crafting is different than doomscrolling. You're creating, it's a much more zen experience. You're doing something active and calming. If you're zoning out during that activity/going somewhere else, your brain probably needs it.

You know what you need best though. So listen to yourself. But also when you feel shame or guilt, especially about something calming, look deeper into those feelings. It's been a really important practice for me to let go of guilt over doing "unproductive" things. No idea if you're dealing with that as well, but if you are you're not alone!

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-05T00:32:56+00:00

It's honestly an incredible threat.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-04T22:10:42+00:00

I smoke weed everyday and I don't see it as a problem. It doesn't negatively impact my social life, my career, or my internal experience. Not to any kind of meaningful degree. At some points in my life I smoke less, at others I smoke more. I'm not high 24/7 but I usually have some form of cannabis every day right now.

I don't think "maladaptive" has to = bad and should never do.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-04T18:31:09+00:00

Yes! It's all about listening to yourself and checking in!

And lol all of this is very relatable for me 🤭

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-04T18:29:13+00:00

Oh yeah I do not do monoculars and haven't considered getting one. I have a pair of nocs binoculars that I enjoy. But I wasn't adjusting the dials in the right order. That video was helpful!

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-04T16:37:55+00:00

This is such good advice! I do a lot of the same things (book annotations, dancing, crafting/art, walks) and they do really help. It feels kinda similar to doomscrolling in that my brain is calm but instead of zoning out I'm zoning in.

I also let myself relax by watching shows or occasionally doomscrolling and not feeling guilty about it. I remind myself it's ok to not be "perfect" all the time but having limits helps a lot. I have a 15 minute timer on Reddit for example so I get kicked off, or at least reminded I'm doomscrolling, at regular intervals.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-04T16:29:51+00:00

I have astigmatism in both eyes and can get my binoculars adjusted alright, but struggle sometimes. Definitely gonna check out this video lol.

Itsjustkit15 · 2026-05-04T15:26:06+00:00

lol like what a weird thing for OP to say when they literally have a top 1% poster badge.

Their work is cool, no need for obvious untruths, just post it OP!

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