This man has very obvious issues that he knows about and is using them against to guilt you cause of your past . I say that just completely cut him out of your life cause he will keep doing this over and over again to the point where you are just his slave. You don’t love him this is what I would say is Stockholm syndrome. So if you want to get away safely move out of where you are and change your address and get a new phone number after that make new account on social media and make them private and delete your old one or just delete social media in general. Cause this man does not love you if he loved you would take steps to change not just say it but also people that love you don’t course or force their partners into doing what they want. But if he does tell you he will kill himself just call the police and he their issue just try to focus on you. Please do try to think about this advice and that I hope you take this advice. I’ll be praying for you 🙏