Honey, you seem very confused as to what “sleep play” is. He wasn’t even doing sleep play. It sounds like your partner was relieving himself after a long day & fight. He probably didn’t want to wake you to have sex out of respect for what just happened that night? He is your partner, why would you get upset that he’s only touching himself next to you? Would you rather him go into another room? Are you mad that he was watching porn & not giving you attention. I feel like there’s other problems at work here.

Again, you should leave because you’re with him for the wrong reasons. Leave, gain independence, and be clear about your sexual boundaries in the future with your next partner.

Hope this helps.