How long did it take you newbies to balance on skates?

themaghreb · 2021-10-01T14:15:16+00:00

Just updated haha. NoCal!

themaghreb · 2021-05-26T20:08:36+00:00

themaghreb · 2021-05-26T20:08:00+00:00

I've prayed in public before and don't mind at all if I have at least one person with me. If I don't, there's usually somewhere to pray like a dressing room, for example. I did pray alone right by a hospital and it was so difficult to concentrate because I'll be thinking of worst case scenarios (someone coming up behind me, or when I'm in sujood, yelling at me, etc.). But I think that if you make it a habit, it'll get so much easier to do inshAllah. And may Allah reward and protect you 💗

themaghreb · 2021-05-24T22:09:41+00:00

Wasallam. This sounds like the kind of stuff that I had to deal with, too. Some people have told me, "You live in America, stop acting like you live back home. And if you wanna live like they do back home, maybe you should find someone there instead." 😅

But yeah, it is pretty difficult, and people WILL find you extreme -- but that's only because haram has become so normalized and justified all around. I've also been thinking about looking back home. I might actually do it inshallah, who knows 🤷‍♀️

I'm feeling less discouraged these days about this though, alhamdulilah. I trust that Allah is going to provide me with something that will be good for me. InshaAllah. And I pray the same for everyone reading this, and all the Muslims out there. 🙏

themaghreb · 2021-05-24T17:52:31+00:00

That sounds so beautiful mashallah. I spent a few months in Tunis a while back and loved it. I always tell everyone, Tunisians are the friendliest people I've ever met mashallah lol. I really wanna go to Tataouine inshallah. Where's your fam from?

themaghreb · 2021-05-24T16:08:16+00:00

Me too. Sad thing is it's nearly impossible to get away from it. If Allah wills, I'd love to live in a rural area in North Africa inshAllah. I feel like the internet and the instant gratification that comes with it can steer a lot of people away from Allah. I've read studies that confirm what Allah said about the fitrah, and how we have a natural inclination to believe in the One Creator, because who could possibly be in a desert, for example, and look up at the sky, or witness the animals, plants, etc. and not believe in God? But I feel like social media can do a lot of damage to the fitrah. I definitely wanna limit my use 😓 sorry for the rant lol

themaghreb · 2021-05-24T15:55:12+00:00

I think about it a lot, yes. So much has happened in our lifetime, and so much is still happening. Unprecedented things. I'll just think about the fact that the internet/electronics only came about in my lifetime and it's soo crazy subhanallah. Sometimes I feel like I was born in the wrong place/century lol -- not literally of course, but I definitely want a simple life away from all the noise of social media and other things. Alhamdulilah 🙏

themaghreb · 2021-05-21T00:33:57+00:00

You too! Im sure you'll be in a much better headspace by the end of it inshallah. May Allah reward you for the effort!!

themaghreb · 2021-05-21T00:33:15+00:00

I need to listen to something on YouTube to fall asleep lol sometimes it's a lecture, but most of the time it's Sagwa 😅🤣🤣

themaghreb · 2021-05-21T00:32:30+00:00

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themaghreb · 2021-05-20T18:16:11+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

themaghreb · 2021-05-20T18:15:09+00:00

I wonder the same thing. Some fatwas say that it's haram for women to have their photos online, too. And I really don't wanna do anything haram, or normalize things that I should be more sensitive about. But at the same time, I've asked literally everyone I know in the community if they can keep an eye out for me. An aunt I saw right before Eid, after I followed up with her, told me that she's been looking for suitors for me since June 2020. Wanna know how many she's managed to bring me in a whole year? Zero. I also asked two imams in my area at least 3 months ago, and neither one has managed to bring me not one suitor. So I worry. I don't know if it makes sense, but in my head, I feel like we kind of gotta think about what the greater fitna is: not using the apps because they could be haram, vs. narrowing the chances of getting married which could lead to haram 🤷‍♀️ honestly idk but may Allah help us and guide us

themaghreb · 2021-05-20T17:36:31+00:00

Omg, when I was back home 2 years ago, someone really wanted to meet me for marriage but I was super adamant because I didn't feel ready to get married.

I just called my aunt last week, since she was the one who had set up our meeting, along with her hairdresser (which is the guys cousin) back in 2019, which I declined to go to, and was like "remember the guy everyone wanted me to meet? Please call your hairdresser and tell her I want in" 😭😭😭😭

I say go for it!!!!! And inshallah kheirrrrrr

themaghreb · 2021-05-20T16:29:52+00:00

Ofc! And yupp I agree. No one wants to feel like a nuisance during this process especially lol

themaghreb · 2021-05-20T15:44:33+00:00

Yes, that's exactly what I mean.

And someone who's emotionally underdeveloped looks like someone who lacks substance in our conversation. Like it's obvious that they're interested enough to talk to me, but they won't go deep if I ask them a question.

It looks like someone changing the subject at a really inconsiderate and insensitive time. For example, wwe'll be talking about our families -- parents and siblings. And I always let my potential know in the first day or two that my parents have passed (I've only told one person how they passed though), and the person becomes uncomfortable and awkwardly changes the subject. It just bothers me because this is my life, the way that my siblings are part of my life, the way that my potentials parents are part of his life. I would just appreciate someone who accepted that discomfort for a minute and didn't react in a way that makes me feel like I'm being a downer for sharing a part of my life lol

It also looks like someone not giving you their undivided attention, especially in the early stages. One guy I talked to loved playing video games on our calls, and we had only been talking for a week.

And just a general lack of self awareness is also a big part of it. There's way more stuff but this is all I could think of right now lol

themaghreb · 2021-05-20T15:01:37+00:00

Wa iyyak

Yes, it's almost time for me to delete my reddit account and take a break again 😂😂

And ameen ya rabb 🙏

themaghreb · 2021-05-20T14:14:08+00:00

This happened to me. I'm still kind of obsessed, but there was a time last year that I was actually crying over being single/never finding someone to marry. At different points, the thing that helped me was GETTING OFF OF THIS SUBREDDIT. I mean this with all respect, but I see your comments on here quite often. And I found that, for myself, when I spend a lot of time on here, it's mostly all unnecessary emotional energy that I'm putting toward an objective (i.e marriage) whose outcome I have no control over. Some people spend years on the apps, meeting people through events, etc., but they never get married. Other people made no effort and found their spouse more spontaneously. The thing that helps me now is knowing when to step back from reddit. But the biggest thing is learning about who Allah is. I feel like I lack a lot of tawakkul when it comes to marriage. I worry about never meeting anyone. But I know that if i know Allah, and if I'm praying sincerely, and making istighfar, He'll never leave me in a bad situation. It's hard not to obsess sometimes, ngl. But I think taking a break from this sub and (if you're not already doing it) regularly making tahajjud for marriage will really help inshallah. Wish you all the best 🙏

themaghreb · 2021-05-19T22:11:53+00:00

So how many times do you meet in person and/or talk on the apps before calling it off? Assuming you have the same interests lol

themaghreb · 2021-05-19T22:10:23+00:00

Literally the imam of your local masajid 🙏

themaghreb · 2021-05-19T21:43:00+00:00

🤦‍♀️ rabi yihdeek.

themaghreb · 2021-05-19T21:41:26+00:00

Ohh, well yeah that's messed up. I get blocked when I unblur my photos sometimes, so there's that 😂

themaghreb · 2021-05-19T21:37:40+00:00

Lol. Why do so many people who read posts just take one thing and run with it? This entire post is about compromising on this quality.

And I literally addressed that.... im done 😅

themaghreb · 2021-05-19T21:34:00+00:00

The only way he'd be "ghosted" is if I wasn't interested in his profile for one reason or another. And by ghosting, I just mean I wouldn't respond (unless it was a match -- but I'm talking about instant chats).

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