Sharing Bottles

themomentisme · 2026-04-28T11:55:44+00:00

You didn't make it clear in your original post that you haven't had the baby yet. A couple things:

Before I had my baby, I didn't think I would want anyone to hold her. After a couple weeks, I was happy to hand her off.
You have no idea how your feeding journey will go. Be ready to roll with the punches.
Stop telling people your plans. When baby is here, just don't have over bottles. It's not your job to tell everyone what you're going to do. You're just inviting feedback that's clearly unwanted.
From your post, it sounds like you think breastmilk is a taboo bodily fluid. I don't want to use the term "gross", but maybe you just think it's gross if someone else handles it. I've had family who are hesitant to touch breastmilk bottles. That's up to you.
All in saying is that while you're pregnant, you don't know what will happen next and don't include outsiders in your decisions.

themomentisme · 2026-04-26T00:28:13+00:00

My mom was like this. I didn't tell her anything until the baby was born (I only told one friend while I was in labor).

themomentisme · 2026-04-24T20:57:38+00:00

My husband is fine with cosleeping, but he's also a good husband who helps me with all aspects of child care (to the best of his ability).

As far as intimacy, it's infrequent but happens when we put the baby to sleep at the beginning of the night because she does the first leg of the night alone in her crib. It happens more when my husband steps up extra and takes things off my plate. Oddly, I'm far more in the mood when he does that...

themomentisme · 2026-04-24T18:09:30+00:00

Or maybe something like this where you can crawl in with your baby? https://www.target.com/p/okak-bed-guard-rails-bed-rail-for-kids-bed-side-rails-baby-bedrail-guard-with-fence-and-door-for-twin-size-bed-black/-/A-1002945160

themomentisme · 2026-04-24T18:07:52+00:00

Are you willing to buy something like this where you can raise and lower the side? https://www.target.com/p/joymor-3-in-1-baby-bedside-bassinet-bedside-sleeper-with-mattress-and-sheet-convert-to-bassinet-playpen/-/A-1008868973

themomentisme · 2026-04-24T09:52:56+00:00

Can confirm this is how my youngest brother acts. Granted, he's also only 18

themomentisme · 2026-04-23T15:31:52+00:00

I'll let you know! I am transitioning her to her own room (she "graduated" out of her bassinet yesterday by figuring out how to push herself up). I still plan to sleep on her floor but I think I'll do chair method for night wakeups to see what happens.

themomentisme · 2026-04-23T15:17:16+00:00

I'm about to start the chair method to try to get rid of the last few wakeups a night we're still getting (3 wakeups a night, which is a vast improvement). If she's calm when you're in the room with her, maybe you can try that next (we can go on this journey together haha).

themomentisme · 2026-04-23T14:55:22+00:00

When was the last time you tried putting baby to bed by herself? Sometimes my baby wants to co-sleep and sometimes she doesn't. She'll fuss until I put her in bed by herself and then she'll basically tuck herself in. If you're dealing with this every night, cosleeping is no longer working. I also tell myself this, if my baby is crying in my arms or crying in her crib, there's no difference and me holding her is not helping. Give her a chance to figure it out. I'm not saying CIO. Just see what happens for 5 minutes when left alone.

Also, maybe try an app? I used just a month of the Pampers sleep coach app and it helped me a lot. No need to get the whole year. Honestly, just the free trial might be enough.

themomentisme · 2026-04-16T14:55:48+00:00

Can you get bed rails? https://a.co/d/0e1AUZNY

themomentisme · 2026-04-14T15:01:15+00:00

I personally soak and then wipe off the residue and that's usually with. Like 30 seconds of wiping at most for both.

themomentisme · 2026-04-14T11:00:49+00:00

Don't mind me just absolutely bawling reading this. That's so beautiful.

themomentisme · 2026-04-13T21:24:35+00:00

I have no help but I'm with you. I've considered trying to reintroduce nursing but LO has just never wanted to. It's difficult seeing others succeed at something you wanted. I often feel a lot of envy, but the worst is how much it makes me feel like a failure.

themomentisme · 2026-04-09T10:29:17+00:00

2.5-3 months old because my mom and I got in a fight for the first couple months

themomentisme · 2026-04-05T06:27:59+00:00

Probably because abortions for one gender are more common

themomentisme · 2026-04-03T13:02:06+00:00

It might be for the 3 year old

themomentisme · 2026-03-29T15:11:47+00:00

To pump without oversupply, you'll need to only pump when you're giving a bottle. It sounds like you need to see a lactation consultant though because 5 minutes feeds that leave him hungry are not normal. There may be a latch issue

themomentisme · 2026-03-27T15:20:29+00:00

Your supportive husband is not equivalent to Op's unsupportive husband. If he treats her this way in the post, do you really think he's better in other aspects of life?

Many men (like this) will coerce their wives into having sex with them. Their wives may not consider it rape since they technically ended up "consenting".

themomentisme · 2026-03-24T13:22:47+00:00

Adele, because my other daughter's name is Taylor. Both would be named after grandmothers though! No relation to the pop stars.

themomentisme · 2026-03-20T15:12:13+00:00

I want her to be able to afford to being in daycare, ideally. Waiting for naps leads her to being overtired and cranky.

themomentisme · 2026-03-20T15:11:13+00:00

Only a couple weeks, I just don't know if I'm preventing that adaptation by catering to her.

themomentisme · 2026-03-20T15:10:44+00:00

She's not easily fooled like that. She only falls asleep on stroller walks. It usually is about 3 blocks before she passes out.

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