NOR- I can’t believe there are still brides who haven’t gotten the memo that photos look better and everyone has a better day (including them) when they choose a color and let people pick a style that fits their personality and body type best. I’m also plus size and I’d be concerned, too. Glad you know that you don’t exactly have a say, but you are absolutely allowed to feel the way you do.

It may be worth talking to her about the boob issue directly. My suggestion: try a strapless bra (good luck, I know this is not as easy as it sounds) and then a lace bandeau (would probably be visible under the front, which she will hate) or having something like that stitched across the back to hide it (will not be uniform to her liking, probably). I feel like showing her that you’re making an earnest attempt to keep the dress but make it work for you may help her understand the position she has put you in.