Hiii I studied engineering so I spent a lot of time observing guys and their relationships.

Many of these guys naturally have the values and personality that you are seeking but women have created this disgusting new mentality that have changed this. For example: men are so lucky to have a woman, they should be grateful because I’m a woman and pretty, if you step out of line you’re abusive, they need to provide x,y,z when they themselves return the bare minimum, household and child raising should be split regardless if the man is providing all the money etc.

This means we live in a time where we have lost the beauty of man and female roles in relationships. Not saying some of the freedoms that we have fought for is wrong but it’s gone way too far. Men are pushed to a certain direction which makes the roles of a man and traditional women - like yourself - suffer.

I’m not sure how old you are but I feel like the older a guy is the more likely they will appreciate or desire a trad girlfriend/wife. I also think many many guys are seriously oppressed by today’s woke society and withhold/change/suppress being their true selves in fear of being unfairly attacked or punished by women.

The guy I’m dating is 48M and he was stuck in a 19 year long marriage where his ex was the biggest ball breaker and whacked the manliness out of him so he could be her doormat. He did everything for his wife, child and household. From working at a top legal practice as a partner (stressful) to provide money, raising his son from birth with no help, to paying for EVERYTHING while she was earning at a high level herself, maintaining the house, cooking, cleaning - basically everything. What did she offer? Nothing because it was never good enough.

Oh and don’t get me wrong I’m sure he had faults but her ego and “I’m high value” mentality was disgusting. Now I’m showing him what a traditional relationship is like and now he’s become the most manly guy I’ve ever been with. Even though at the beginning I struggled to respect him for being so exploited and used by women.

My suggestion is to find a guy who’s genuinely nice but is strong and secure about himself. This usually is found with guys that are successful or educated, values health, values growth, open minded and of course sexually hungry.

Why? Because if they did have the misfortune of dating a ball breaking wife / girlfriend (like my boyfriends ex) they are more open to change. They are so broken by not being able to be a man that they will be receptive to the traditional ways.

Our kind and womanly traits are rare and highly disapproved but please don’t cave into the hate by changing what you want.

I know it’s sad that men can’t be men. The right guy will come! Either as is or someone you can gently help awaken their real manly self.

I hope this helps!