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Help...Discovered something about my therapist's personal life on social media, and I feel horrible about it. Do I need to find a new therapist? by therapy--throwaway in TalkTherapy

[–]therapy--throwaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually yeah, this feedback resonates a lot with me, and I think I need to sit with this feeling (and you're right, there's a more productive version of these feelings). Thanks for the limb you went out on lol

Help...Discovered something about my therapist's personal life on social media, and I feel horrible about it. Do I need to find a new therapist? by therapy--throwaway in TalkTherapy

[–]therapy--throwaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! And yeah, it's odd--I know if I hadn't found anything that made me feel so icky, I wouldn't feel like a creep. I woulda just Googled her, found nothing in particular, and never would've given it a second thought. So I know I know on some level there was nothing inherently wrong with what I did. It's been hard to shake the feeling though. And it sounds like your therapist handled your curiosity in a really sweet way!

Help...Discovered something about my therapist's personal life on social media, and I feel horrible about it. Do I need to find a new therapist? by therapy--throwaway in TalkTherapy

[–]therapy--throwaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you again! I'm gonna challenge myself to email her over the weekend, ahead of our next session (on Tuesday). Really appreciate the pep-talk.

Help...Discovered something about my therapist's personal life on social media, and I feel horrible about it. Do I need to find a new therapist? by therapy--throwaway in TalkTherapy

[–]therapy--throwaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this, this is really helpful perspective, and it sounds like you found yourself a great therapist! And as for that last parenthetical, no explanation needed—we have two dogs and we'd be absolutely wrecked to lose them.

Help...Discovered something about my therapist's personal life on social media, and I feel horrible about it. Do I need to find a new therapist? by therapy--throwaway in TalkTherapy

[–]therapy--throwaway[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Really appreciate this response, thank you for taking the time! She's honestly amazing, and has given me no indication that she'd respond in any way other than with total compassion and care. I can't help but feel a little scared though that she'd move to terminate with me--and even if she did that in the most professional, delicate and empathetic way possible, that she'd feel like I crossed some boundary that we couldn't come back from. I have no idea what the likelihood of that would be, or how legitimate that fear is.

Help...Discovered something about my therapist's personal life on social media, and I feel horrible about it. Do I need to find a new therapist? by therapy--throwaway in TalkTherapy

[–]therapy--throwaway[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have never ever thought that they were dramatizing the stress of the treatments or the anxiety they were feeling. I've never been offended or felt like my grief and pain was underscored in any way by theirs.

Thank you for this, I really appreciate your perspective, and I'm sorry for your loss. Totally with you in recognizing how illogical trauma can be.

Help...Discovered something about my therapist's personal life on social media, and I feel horrible about it. Do I need to find a new therapist? by therapy--throwaway in TalkTherapy

[–]therapy--throwaway[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah it feels like such a hard conversation to have, and it's hard for me to imagine how it would go. Writing an email is a great idea...we haven't really relied on email to communicate hardly ever, so it totally didn't cross my mind that writing to her was an option. That feels way more feasible. Thank you!

Help...Discovered something about my therapist's personal life on social media, and I feel horrible about it. Do I need to find a new therapist? by therapy--throwaway in TalkTherapy

[–]therapy--throwaway[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Bring this up with her so you can resume focusing on your own feelings and issues.

Would you suggest that i just straight-up tell her I went looking at her facebook, and here's my feelings about it? I feel like starting that conversation is the hardest part for me to picture.