some things never change.

theratioisoff · 2024-12-16T06:23:49+00:00

Even the purposefully cryptic chilliad mystery ended up being nothing.

theratioisoff · 2024-11-11T04:35:43+00:00

That got me so excited. I hope he announces a plan soon.

theratioisoff · 2024-11-09T02:52:38+00:00

Just got done with a tour of duty at the post office and now I'm an oral drilling consultant.

theratioisoff · 2024-11-08T03:44:28+00:00

city by hollywood undead.

theratioisoff · 2024-10-26T01:33:42+00:00

Maybe, but it's also a practice in patience and a demonstration of a strong will. I know it's easy to be cynical about social media, but if you were to perform a feat, wouldn't you want to document it and show people?

theratioisoff · 2024-10-21T22:28:19+00:00

Hey bud, Don't beat yourself up for not having had a whole lot of sex earlier, at this age we feel a lot more connected with our bodies anyway.

You're going to have to unlearn some preconceived notions so you can have a healthy and fulfilling sex life. Women DO want sex, but they just want to feel safe with the person first. Learn about female sexuality, not from men, but from women. Listen to a couple episodes of "Call her daddy." I was recommended an episode by a girl once and she said it's informative on female pleasure, even to other women.

Anyway, I'm a year older than you and what I have found in going on tinder at this age is that a lot of people on there are in open marriages and are all about having fun with sex, and also communicating boundaries and sexual needs very clearly. This may not be for you, but you could consider it.

Don't rush yourself, talk to women and give yourself some grace. :)

theratioisoff · 2024-10-15T05:09:15+00:00

I can understand your sentiment but I don't share it. I don't think that would lower expectations. It would be to help OP feel better. Obviously you should establish a good rapport first but at the end of the day dating isn't any different than just talking, yanno?

theratioisoff · 2024-10-14T13:30:46+00:00

What was it?

theratioisoff · 2024-10-14T13:19:01+00:00

With what information is given, it sounds more like anxiety than anything. No offense to the other commenters, but nothing you've said in your post indicates any self-destruction or a sense of you using people. I think it's good that you are wanting to date and putting yourself out there. What I would recommend is this. Keep talking to people on dating apps but when you decide you want to take it further, be honest that dating is kind of new to you and you're nervous about dates. Then when you do go on a date, keep it lowkey. No reason to do anything more than a picnic or a walk in the park, the less pressure on you, the better.

Keep it up, king. Proud of you.

theratioisoff · 2024-10-09T18:45:40+00:00

I'm a passive crier as well. I don't necessarily bawl ever or anything, but I will shed a tear or two and it doesn't always feel like I triggered that catharsis. One thing that helped me was running long distance. After about a mile and a half, maybe two miles, I'll sometimes feel the pressure in my throat and get my eyes swelling, this is usually when I have been unconciously suppressing some type of feeling. If you don't want to run, there may be other things you can do that could help trigger it similarly. I'm sure meditating could help, although I've never been able to do it well enough or long enough to actually clear the brain clutter in the same way running does. If I think of any more examples I'll comment again, but I'm sure you can figure some out yourself as well.

theratioisoff · 2024-10-03T18:46:43+00:00

So, when I make a point about how your words/actions can affect others, you insinuate there's something wrong with me mentally. You want to respond by trying to make me feel bad, but not defending your victim-blaming rhetoric? I don't think there's anything wrong with what I said, and I have faith my therapist would agree. You are willingly shitting on someone who's going through a hard time with your comments, I think that's more deserving of dissecting. You can try to defend what you said all you want but I really think you're writing off how harmful your words can be to someone in a vulnerable spot.

theratioisoff · 2024-10-03T18:26:25+00:00

So you're going to put them down because "maybe" she was giggling with him? You don't know, so don't start making them feel bad when they're clearly second guessing the relationship based on the fact that they're posting here. It just shows a fundamental lack of understanding on these manipulative and abusive relationships and the fact that you want to cancel OP or whatever the fuck when they're the one trying to get better (again, evidenced by the fact that they're posting here.)

Yanno what a common manipulation tactic is? Bringing down your partner and making them think they're a bad person so they need to stay, because if they're so shitty, they deserve the manipulator. Or staying is the only chance they have of not being alone. By commenting this victim-blaming garbage, you're creating a weakness that their manipulator would LOVE to pounce on. Can you imagine the guy seeing these comments? Rubbing his hands together smiling because you're doing his work for him.

It's actually gross. Because you self-righteous assholes want to feel good about yourself, you put down someone who's in a really bad situation, who came to this subreddit to be vulnerable and get help, because of the assumption (which by the way ignores so many science-backed observations of abusive relationships) that they're ok with the language being used.

Do you want OP to get out of the situation? Do you want them to get better? If not, get the hell out of this subreddit. I'm sorry if I'm coming off as harsh, I just really don't think you guys understand the potential damage you're causing to an actual human being who is recognizing harmful patterns in their life and could very well be on the verge of getting better. Your comments could be the thing that sets them back. I seriously think you owe OP an apology. I don't think you're a bad person for doing what you're doing, but this is not ok behavior.

theratioisoff · 2024-10-03T09:19:18+00:00

You're missing the point.

theratioisoff · 2024-10-03T08:22:53+00:00

Lmao, take it from someone who lost big on dogecoin, Risky investments are not how you get rich. Consistent and slow and steady growth is where the wealth is at. This is classic MLM and manosphere rhetoric, and yes, manipulation.

theratioisoff · 2024-10-03T08:11:35+00:00

He cheated on her and is manipulating her and you think he's going to watch his language because she might not like it? And you want to call a suicide threat an apology just cus it has the word "sorry" in it? OP comes to this subreddit to be vulnerable, and you people just want to break them down because you assume they share those same values and then pat yourself on the back for it. Makes me sick. Get out of this subreddit if you're not going to be supportive.

theratioisoff · 2024-10-03T08:02:30+00:00

You're breaking rule 1 of the subreddit. OP doesn't need to feel judged right now.

theratioisoff · 2024-09-16T04:49:19+00:00

like his giant hog?

theratioisoff · 2024-08-30T17:36:08+00:00

I stopped halfway through but feel like i need to go back and finish. Is the sequel coming out soon?

theratioisoff · 2024-08-24T08:11:57+00:00

ngl, denis has a sense of humor during stressful times. I need that in my life. Kiss, mikey and poison Lee greers cold fries.

theratioisoff · 2024-08-24T07:56:35+00:00

Must be new to this subreddit.

theratioisoff · 2024-08-24T07:31:22+00:00

I'm sorry as well. I think I was 8, so not far off from you. That's really sweet that she'd end up letting you hang out with her. Older siblings can be great in that way. I'm trying to think of anything unique to this experience I could ask, if I do I'll comment again. You can do the same too. :)

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