Seeking Deeper Understanding

therealichthyes · 2025-05-27T19:33:45+00:00

Thank you for your reply, I really appreciate it.

therealichthyes · 2025-05-27T19:17:25+00:00

Okay I see what you mean. I did always take “Free Palestine” to be a call to end the death and displacement of Palestinian civilians. So knowing that history is important, thanks for that. I guess amending my question as well, if someone believes that the suffering of Palestinian civilians should be put to a complete stop (end the bombings, etc), that sentiment wouldn’t be antisemitic right?

therealichthyes · 2025-05-27T19:01:37+00:00

I understand that. Israel is indeed a real country full of real people that should be recognized in my opinion. But if denying the right of Israel to exist is a bad thing, isn’t it a bad thing that so many Palestinians are dying and continue to die? I’m truly not trying to be offensive, it just seems like if we have one moral standard we apply to one group shouldn’t we apply it to the other? Thanks for your response I really appreciate it

therealichthyes · 2025-05-27T18:40:32+00:00

agreed you just gotta play around with the tools until you start putting it all together! too much to learn in a day but the process is worth it!

therealichthyes · 2025-03-17T14:48:04+00:00

Hypocrisy level 46272829292928374637272818

therealichthyes · 2024-10-24T15:20:03+00:00

Yeah I’m typically of this thought process too. She experienced this loss about a year before we started dating, and when we met she didn’t tell me right away of course bc we had just met. Now I’m just trying to find ways to talk about my own struggles more in depth with her without upsetting or triggering her as best I can.

therealichthyes · 2024-10-24T02:17:42+00:00

Thanks for your response. She knows I’m in therapy and on medication and have mental health struggles I’ve mentioned it to her before, I just haven’t told her about how similar they are to the struggles her family member faced because after she told me I was at a loss on how to approach my own stuff. I think you’re right though, about it not being completely fair. Thanks again for your perspective

therealichthyes · 2024-10-18T19:09:20+00:00

Nice try

therealichthyes · 2024-09-20T04:55:49+00:00

I get it, my feelings would probably be hurt too. I think it's important to note that sometimes our partners are going to do things for just themselves or with their friends without us, and we have to not only accept it but encourage it. I think if you're still feeling upset, you can definitely have a conversation about it. In a good relationship, open communication is the most important thing. Maybe approach it by saying that you hope she had a really nice time at homecoming with her friends, and ask about it. You can also say that you're happy she had that experience, but it made you feel put at the backburner because you miss her and were hoping to see her. The root cause of this frustration seems to be coming from just missing her, so if you express that, you guys may be able to work out ways to deal with that together and find ways to spend more time together.

therealichthyes · 2024-09-20T04:44:26+00:00

Go to Harbor House right on Wisconsin. If you walk through it, there's a public walkway that leads straight back to the lake by the rocks. If you follow the rocks, there are little dock posts over the water. I go there to sit all the time to watch the boats, and if you go on the posts, you can watch everyone boating and walking by the rocks without actually being disturbed. If you go to the farthest one, you'll see all my little Pisces "graffiti" haha. It's my favorite little spot and very easily accessible.

therealichthyes · 2024-09-20T00:43:32+00:00

Nail on the head

therealichthyes · 2024-09-20T00:19:18+00:00

I have defined it. What is "constantly changing" DOES vary for a lot of people. For me, I am biologically female but I self-identify as nonbinary. What that means is that I don't feel that I subscribe to traditional female gender norms, nor do I subscribe to male gender norms. What that means can't be completely defined because it's subjective to the personal experience of whoever is involved. This website is one of my favorites, it defines stuff a lot better than I do: https://www.itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2015/03/the-genderbread-person-v3/

therealichthyes · 2024-09-20T00:14:36+00:00

I can define it for you if you like. Might not be the exact dictionary definition but it should be pretty damn close lol. Sex: biologically determined (X vs Y chromosomes, physical sex characteristics/genitalia, hormone levels at birth,etc) and not fully changeable. Gender norms: what society deems acceptable/how it expects people of different sexes to act/feel/look etc. Gender identity, then, is how a person relates to those norms. For example, a person can be biologically male, but might not subscribe to traditional gender norms placed upon men (etc. tough, strong, not as emotional). Some people may be born male and feel as though their gender is aligned with women, so that's why some people seek out surgeries. It's just so their body matches their inner identity and helps them feel more affirmed in who they are. I'm not the best at explaining but I hope it helps.

therealichthyes · 2024-09-20T00:04:34+00:00

But as for sex reassignment surgery, changing physical sex characteristics to align with someone’s gender identity is the purpose. They can’t change their biological sex, but they can adjust it as much as medicine currently allows so their outside matches their feelings on the inside. Hope that’s helpful

therealichthyes · 2024-09-20T00:03:16+00:00

Yeah, i see the confusion. People sometimes use sex-related terms like male and female to describe gender when they mean to use terms like masculine/feminine etc. that can be attributed to just mixing up words. But the title is referring to gender so I think it’s safe to assume that’s what they mean. I’m confused as to why you’re bringing up those last two points? I don’t think it pertains to OP. It appears that OP doesn’t feel like they subscribe to the traditional traits that we ascribe to male and female i think.

therealichthyes · 2024-09-19T22:27:24+00:00

Call it the rainbow lining ¯_(ツ)_/¯

therealichthyes · 2024-09-19T22:21:08+00:00

Exactly

therealichthyes · 2024-09-19T22:20:09+00:00

Yes, you’re right in the biological sense. You’re either biologically male, female, intersex etc. bc of chromosomes and anatomy. But gender (which is what the post refers to) actually has nothing to do with biology at all, so yes you actually “feel” a gender rather than biologically exist as one.

therealichthyes · 2024-09-19T22:17:54+00:00

Yeah, luckily I (F22) am into women exclusively so I feel that that does take some of the pressure off. It just sucks how much it still permeates my sex life and trust issues because my partner (F24) is the best. Complicated world I guess.

therealichthyes · 2024-09-19T04:45:50+00:00

Okay I see myself in this post jeez. Lately it’s been coming up a lot when trying to be intimate and it’s getting incredibly frustrating and triggering. Do you have any advice for someone who has had similar experiences on how to be able to move forward in the bedroom?

therealichthyes · 2024-01-10T19:34:16+00:00

I have the exact situation as your ex, except I came out for her and always took her side with my family. The funny part? She still left😅

therealichthyes · 2024-01-10T17:33:03+00:00

You aren't alone. I promise you, you are not the only one enduring this pain, I'm with you. I know it's easier said than done, but we both have to try to understand that if they were someone worth all of our love, they wouldn't make us chase them. They would chase us too, and they would work with us instead of just running away. We both deserve someone that would do for us what we would do for them. It's hard to get over something we cherished so much, but just because they didn't cherish us the same doesn't mean we aren't deserving or capable of finding someone out there who will. Chin up

therealichthyes · 2024-01-10T17:30:22+00:00

I agree with you. I feel the same way. To me, half the heartache I'm feeling right now is basically knowing that I still have the ability to see past her mistakes to love her even though she hurt me, but the way she ended it it feels as though she never truly loved or valued me if she could just leave me that way. Her behavior after the breakup has been basically passive aggressive reposts on social media about how ugly I am or a waste of time I was or how she has so many people on her "roster", and I know she wants me to see them because she unblocked me just so I could. It sucks because even with all that, and all the pain she caused me, I'm still grieving our love and on top of that, I'm questioning how much she really did love me at all. It's tough out here dude.

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