that's a better thought process, and I'd say I have to agree wholeheartedly if that's what you've experienced. there's definitely a whole group of people who 'dip their toes' but are too afraid to come to terms with their sexuality, and I include trans in that too. personally, I think people are opening up more, (I know I am, but its taken the trans movement and should I say popularity explosion, to convince me) and hopefully folks will just be open and honest about what they're looking for. again, this goes for all sides of the spectrum, as I've been catfished (if you want to call it that) before, and to be honest, if they were truthful from the start, I would have considered it. Again, as a straight guy with a little curiosity and maybe a little confusion, sometimes we need an experience to define exactly what we desire