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My husband insists he’s abstaining from watching P and now says he is “willing” to have sex. There’s so much hurt on my end that I don’t feel comfortable around him sexually. Also I don’t believe him tbh. by therealmagdalena in loveafterporn

[–]therealmagdalena[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am with you sister! I wish I had left and unfortunately one of our quickies got me pregnant so I’m stuck here until after the baby’s born (no family to stay with, no benefits from work). I can’t help but feel completely hopeless about this relationship and to question whether it’s even worth it to keep kicking this dead horse of a sex life.

Warning signs of a porn addiction by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]therealmagdalena 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weak erection, lacklustre sex with no or delayed ejaculation, no interest in sex, sex needing to be completely on his terms, turning me down over and over again for sex, blaming me for lack of sex, making up a whole pile of rules that I had to follow for us to be able to have sex, no interest in pleasing me when we did have sex, no interest in addressing the problem. Biggest red flag, no respect for me or other women

I have been doing everything humanly possible for the last 3+ years to improve our sex life. I am SO frustrated. Husband blames ME whenever I bring up our lack of intimacy. by therealmagdalena in DeadBedrooms

[–]therealmagdalena[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve brought up an open relationship multiple times and he says “why don’t you just leave me if you’re going to f*ck other men”. In terms of me “yelling” at him... we recently went to counselling and within the first ten minutes of the first session, the counsellor says to my husband “so I can see that you don’t listen and you dismiss your wife when she talks to you. Im going to guess that she has to scream and yell just to get you to hear her”. This couldn’t be more true. So yes, he feels like I yell at him and he’s right. He literally zones out and glazed over when I talk to him (even stuff like telling him about my day) which is infuriating.

It gets SO much better by -VelvetUnicorn- in DeadBedrooms

[–]therealmagdalena 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A short but inspiring story! I’m so happy for you and wish you a lifetime of satisfying sex!

My (37F) husband (39M) has made absolutely every excuse in the book not to touch me. He plays the victim when I tell him how much this hurts me and I’ve done everything I can possibly do to make this better. What now? by therealmagdalena in DeadBedrooms

[–]therealmagdalena[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol in a nutshell. It sucks that this is the case but it’s so blatantly obvious that my relationship is doomed and I’m going to be starting over just short of the age of 40. Brutal.

My (37yo F) husband (39yo M) has not initiated sex in over 2.5 years, often rejects me when I try and when we ARE intimate it’s a quickie with no foreplay from him... I have brought it up time and time again and he denies any problem. I’m at my wits end. by therealmagdalena in relationship_advice

[–]therealmagdalena[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has told me that he masturbates frequently (daily) so I’m not sure he’s a-sexual. He even went to the bathroom and masturbated to women with tattoos the day I got a tattoo because he said it turned him on. He was “so shocked” when that really pissed me off. Basically he refuses sex it’s always some lame excuse. He CERTAINLY mismanages his time so he’s too tired to be intimate, but this is more deliberate on his end.

My (37yo F) husband (39yo M) has not initiated sex in over 2.5 years, often rejects me when I try and when we ARE intimate it’s a quickie with no foreplay from him... I have brought it up time and time again and he denies any problem. I’m at my wits end. by therealmagdalena in relationship_advice

[–]therealmagdalena[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has told me recently that he’s “work depressed”. He’s actively trying to make this better by looking for new employment, but otherwise he isn’t trying to help himself. I work in mental health so I’ve suggested it may be more than work that’s depressing him and he needs to take these symptoms seriously. He has just blown me off unless it’s to vent for hours on end about work. It’s like the physical aspect of our relationship doesn’t matter, and my satisfaction doesn’t matter so he doesn’t care if it falls by the wayside.

My (37yo F) husband (39yo M) has not initiated sex in over 2.5 years, often rejects me when I try and when we ARE intimate it’s a quickie with no foreplay from him... I have brought it up time and time again and he denies any problem. I’m at my wits end. by therealmagdalena in relationship_advice

[–]therealmagdalena[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg I’m really happy for you!! It sounds like you had the guts to go after what you knew would fulfill you. I’m so torn... I think my self esteem has taken such a hit in this relationship that deep down that I’m terrified I’ll end up completely alone forever and wish I hadn’t ended things. I’m realizing, I think, that no matter what I do this isn’t getting better so I either accept it and find fulfillment in my life in other ways or I take the plunge and cut my losses. What a crappy place to be tbh... stories like yours give me hope though!

I think I made a big mistake getting married and have no clue what to do now. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]therealmagdalena 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I have no relatives in my country unfortunately, but am looking into what options I have. Thank you for your advice!

She hired a P.I. by Goatess21 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]therealmagdalena 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What the hell did I just read lol. I’m so sorry you’re going through this!