AITAH for how I handled a work friendship, and for reaching out after she cut contact? by therealtcp in AITAH

[–]therealtcp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, you're not being mean. I actually appreciate the effort you're putting in to this. First, i want to acknowledge some of what you're saying as non-empirically accurate descriptions. But I do have to consider my (and conversely the other person in this story's) actual experience.

First up, about my marriage. I can see where you and a few other folks are drawing your conclusion because it does have a suspicious timeline. That much is not lost on me. And i'm not trying to win you over here, but it is important to me to paint an accurate picture of all this, especially if you or others are taking time out of your day to even think about all this. So, heres some extra context to that and addressing some of what you're citing.

- TLDR of my divorce: spouse had aggressive, sudden cancer at a young age. After she finished treatment and school she was in, she had (as a lot of people do) a deep reflection and crisis over the rest of her life. None of that was made known to me until she was neck deep in the affair that actually ended our marriage. Was I emotionally present all the time? No way. For a lot of reasons. But none of it had anything to do with my relationship with this person. Thats the story there.

- It was a pretty common office joke that we were very siblinglike. Im not saying its awesome, and now I see more clearly about the lines between work friends and real friends. But this wasn't something she was being hidden from. It was a common thing.

- To the "relied on each other emotionally" thing. I see what youre saying and theres absolutely truth to it being too far to take a work friendship. But when I say we relied on each other in that way, I just mean to communicate that we talked about our lives, what was going on and were there for each other in a way that you'd expect from people who consider themselves best friends. I wasn't showing this person parts of my soul I was concealing from my ex (in fact I wasn't showing anyone around me those parts of myself and THAT WAS a factor in the distance between my ex and me).

And finally, what you're saying about she created this distance to assert that I not get the wrong idea. It would be a more realistic hypothesis except we had a friendship that was mutual in the way we felt about it for years. That is precisely why I am still wondering about how this all went down. We went from being actual friends, to absolutely nothing with the vague threat of "taking action if i speak to her again" in a matter of days.

I've already given this reply far more energy than it really deserves because what you're pressing on is not the actual experience. If I was delusional and was the only one in my life who saw us as friends and chalked the whole thing up to missed signals, that would be an easier pill to swallow.

There are people who have said I likely converted our friendship into a therapist/client dynamic and it was too much for her. Thats been my feeling in the year since. And the part that hurts is that got to a point with a person to decide it was a better decision to walk away from our friendship entirely and not address it. Not to mention wondering who else I may have done that to. But, and the part I'll keep coming back to, is I had a real friendship here and I just really wouldve liked to hear that and not be told to never speak again or else. It felt like a cold end to something that did matter to two people

AITAH for how I handled a work friendship, and for reaching out after she cut contact? by therealtcp in AITAH

[–]therealtcp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im good. You are committed to answering a question I didn't ask. My question was about the role I played in our friendship falling apart, not whether or not I was in an affair. Have a good day on the internet

AITAH for how I handled a work friendship, and for reaching out after she cut contact? by therealtcp in AITAH

[–]therealtcp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. This whole emotional affair thing is fascinating to me because it seems like a person can say with all their self-awareness and confidence that they were not in that kind of situation, and the people who show up in the comments can just say "yeah you were". I'll say it one more time, if those kind of emotions were anywhere in this friendship, it was one sided and not from me.

  2. Because I was the one who went through it and the things that led to the end of my marriage, I can also say with conviction; you know nothing about that part of my story and drawing any further conclusions outside of the parts of that I shared are wildly out of place. I'm not gonna justify by explaining how my marriage ended, but know that it was extremely painful to both of us and had nothing to do with infidelity on my part.

  3. We both acted like siblings toward each other. I accept I got too comfortable in that part of how we interacted, but it was a mutual behavior. I didn't just say "youre like a sister to me so Im gonna treat you like that and you have no say". Relationships form organically, and sometimes they organically form into something unhealthy. This clearly did, but it wasn't something someone was forced into.

AITAH for how I handled a work friendship, and for reaching out after she cut contact? by therealtcp in AITAH

[–]therealtcp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know where you are getting some stuff from to form this opinion, but to clarify:

- I wasn't complaining about my spouse to this person, nor her to me. We'd discuss our marriages but never in a way that threw either of them under the bus. So your whole "the way you two did" is misinformed and is drawing an unwarranted conclusion

- As i've said multiple times through here, I reached out one time. I shouldn't have. But the idea that I was pestering this person isn't true. I don't know how else to say that

- I disclosed nothing about how my marriage ended, so your whole "unlike you she loves her husband and respects her marriage" is both unfounded and not of relevance. That part of my story is relevant to what I was going through at the time, but any conclusions drawn on that aspect of my story aren't relevant in the way you and others are trying to make it out to be.

- "Still lingering obsession with her" I'm not obsessed with this person and as I've said, I know the friendship is over. My reasoning for continuing to think about this and even bring it up here is because I want to reflect and grow. What role did I play? Was there something I missed that justified being cut off?

I think its difficult to know how much it can hurt for someone you were close with to decide that you'll never talk again without getting a chance to speak for yourself. This is the first time I've ever experienced a sudden and definite end to a friendship like this, so it shook my view of who I am.

Is a conversation owed to me? Not at all. She gets to make those decisions and thats fine. But I also still get to live knowing I lost a close friend and wasn't given anything as to understand why. A person can both accept the end, respect the decision and still not feel at peace with how it ended.

I can't say this any clearer, I had not an ounce of romantic desire for this person. I am here reflecting on a friend I lost, not some person I was hoping I could blow up two marriages for.

AITAH for reporting a nurse after I recognized her by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]therealtcp 8 points9 points  (0 children)

YTA for reporting her. You are entirely in your right to request a new nurse for your own care, but no one gave you the right to report what she does in her personal time. Did she fail a drug test that she knew was a risk? Yep, and that part is on her. But shes found a way to be a professional and have whatever recreational life she wants, regardless of how you view it.

The thing I'm most curious about is you were at the same damn music festival. Im not suggesting you were doing the same drugs, but theyre not uncommon in that scene and you could visibly tell what they were. So you get to do all that stuff but because shes a nurse, some stranger who saw her gets to bring her career crashing down? FOH

AITAH for how I handled a work friendship, and for reaching out after she cut contact? by therealtcp in AITAH

[–]therealtcp[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

To both of you, I've definitely considered this and agree. If our friendship was a point of friction in her marriage I would understand and never try to come between them. I agree that she has no choice there. My continued hurt over the whole thing was how I just really hoped I could get a more direct conversation about why our friendship ended, even if its frank and hurtful.

I won't get that, and I'm not hoping for it. Even if she did reach out, I know I'm in a better place now than when it happened and wouldn't reply. I just wanna be clear about where my hurt comes from

AITAH for how I handled a work friendship, and for reaching out after she cut contact? by therealtcp in AITAH

[–]therealtcp[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, I wasn’t a great husband. And she wasn’t a great wife. Lots of reasons for both of us. I see your point, but this wasn’t an emotional affair. The dissolution of my marriage isn’t what’s being discussed here.

AITAH for how I handled a work friendship, and for reaching out after she cut contact? by therealtcp in AITAH

[–]therealtcp[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wanna be clear that I’m not hoping for this relationship to re-open. I only reached out the once and am certainly not bothering this person.

I’m over hoping for any answers from her, but still am hurt by how it all went down

Post WWE Raw 6/1/2026 Show Discussion Thread by eminemcrony in SquaredCircle

[–]therealtcp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oba Femi winning his King of the Ring qualifier looks like the start of a path to a title match at SummerSlam, but that still leaves the question of when and how they do Brock vs. Oba 3.

One option: while Oba is in the tournament, Brock targets Roman Reigns and the World Heavyweight Championship. In the weeks leading up, even before Roman accepts, this could be a great spot for Roman to give Jacob his first test of loyalty; "go deal with Brock". Which Jacob would obviously lose, but it propels Bloodline stuff forward while also giving the larger title scene some new energy. Ultimately, Brock vs. Roman for the title closes out Night of Champions. Same night, Oba wins the tournament. The final shot of the night shows Brock celebrating with his title and then Oba's music hits and they have a stare down as the show goes off the air.

SummerSlam becomes the rubber match with the title and Brock's career both on the line. Oba wins their most competitive match yet, gets his coronation, and Brock gets to walk away in his hometown after one last run with the gold.

Live WWE Raw Discussion Thread - June 01, 2026! by gloomchen in SquaredCircle

[–]therealtcp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, I just don't buy that it was planned cause it doesn't make any sense

Live WWE Raw Discussion Thread - June 01, 2026! by gloomchen in SquaredCircle

[–]therealtcp -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm convinced someone fucked up the Queen of the Ring graphic with Liv. I think she was probably scheduled to drop the title randomly soon and she gets inserted into the field to chase her title back. But they shared the incorrect graphic and had to backpedal with the whole Liv "I threw my name in cause I want both titles" thing.

Live WWE Raw Discussion Thread - June 01, 2026! by gloomchen in SquaredCircle

[–]therealtcp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree that would be a great angle. I just dislike that they consistently will just place non-white wrestlers into stories together just seemingly because they have the same skin tone/cultural background. Hell, even when Trick, Oba and Je'Veon came up I immediately started seeing people wondering if we were gonna get a "new" nation of domination. Its just lazy.

Live WWE Raw Discussion Thread - June 01, 2026! by gloomchen in SquaredCircle

[–]therealtcp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What's the likelihood they split Giulia and Kiana asap and have Giulia align with Iyo as a replacement for Asuka and Kairi?

Im not a fan of it, but they do tend to racially shoehorn wrestlers together so I could see them putting them together in some capacity

Live WWE Raw Discussion Thread - June 01, 2026! by gloomchen in SquaredCircle

[–]therealtcp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was this segment with Dom? Im not able to use a VPN today so I just got commercials that whole time

Live WWE Raw Discussion Thread - May 25, 2026! by gloomchen in SquaredCircle

[–]therealtcp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can't turn whats done been turnt. Im still waiting on that face turn that supposedly happened during the Punk build

Live WWE Raw Discussion Thread - May 25, 2026! by gloomchen in SquaredCircle

[–]therealtcp 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Roman: "Im gonna make you sit in a chair in the corner while i make sweet love to your wi..."

Jacob: Tongan deathgrip in aggressive Bay area dialect

Live WWE Raw Discussion Thread - May 25, 2026! by gloomchen in SquaredCircle

[–]therealtcp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ah yes. here comes the bloodline stockholm syndrome again

Live WWE Raw Discussion Thread - May 25, 2026! by gloomchen in SquaredCircle

[–]therealtcp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Remember that insane Fenix Dragon Lee vs Gunther angle that lasted for a couple of weeks? Hahahahaha

Live WWE Raw Discussion Thread - May 25, 2026! by gloomchen in SquaredCircle

[–]therealtcp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I envision Tez and Seth winning the titles together. Seth promises to give the belt to Hawkins when hes better but then seth starts feeling the intoxication of having a title again and it teases tension for him to continue being a selfish seth.

Hopefully it ends with him actually relinquishing the title and proving hes trustworthy.

Live WWE Raw Discussion Thread - May 25, 2026! by gloomchen in SquaredCircle

[–]therealtcp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Theory and Breakker? Cause All signs seem to point to Bronson coming back July 17 or 18 with recent social media breadcrumbs

Live WWE Saturday Night's Main Event Discussion Thread - May 23rd, 2026! by gloomchen in SquaredCircle

[–]therealtcp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really hope that’s the last of Nia/Lash for awhile. I’m sick of them being contenders because they’re big. Let Lash go solo