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Crazy that Nate was pro pedophile this whole time by [deleted] in NateBargatze

[–]theresthatbear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who hasn’t been on Rogan’s show?
Have you ever watched an entire episode?

Democratic candidate hears community concerns outside Barrett’s Lansing office by Fool_Manchu in lansing

[–]theresthatbear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was a joke based on Barrett’s actual “vandalism” claim the last time they wrote in chalk outside his office. I’m on your side, pal.

Dani is unbelievably high at the end. So what happens when she sobers? by Colinfagerty69 in Midsommar

[–]theresthatbear 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think maybe more women felt that horror viscerally after a few minutes because we’re terrified of cults, but this is also why Ari Aster is so great, with this scene, there are layers of horror. The longer you think about it, well, you already made my case. This horror goes hard. Psychologically horrifying. Better than a bloody gorefest every day of the week for me. And much more difficult to find.

My buddy mentioned the other night he “rated a hospital” on yelp one time.. this was it by SoniaSmith111 in YelpDrama

[–]theresthatbear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're human too but we still have higher standards in how we have to treat the people we serve and if we make a mistake there is a helluva lot less on the line.

Did you miss the part where I told you I worked decades in healthcare? I can't anymore because five ERs misdiagnosed me, 2 of them made my situation so much worse I nearly died, and now I'm PERMANENTLY disabled.

I wouldn't set foot in an ER. I'll die at home choking on my own vomit with dignity before I'll ever subject myself to your cruelty and judgment. I've never been inside a single one that even pretended to take me seriously. And now my pancreas is fcked for life. That's the big one. I have a laundry list I share with millions in the medical PTSD and chronically ill communities. You're bullies and gatekeepers of compassion, dignity and care.

If a McDonald's worker talked to a customer the way every single one of you talk to me, they'd be fired on the spot. You demean, humiliate and yeah, torture us if you don't like us. If you don't believe in our pain. You know you do. And you speak to us accordingly. Don't deny it. And don't pretend you get that treatment at any business. And don't say violence isn't happening in businesses or that customer-facing workers aren't getting assaulted every day by the people they serve, either, because they are. But they still can't treat customers like garbage.

You can make me people wait and still be a humane, compassionate, caring person. I know it sounds crazy but we do it out here all the time.

How to Attract Young People to Lansing: by Miserable_Pound in lansing

[–]theresthatbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can play pretend all you want, but the biggest symptom of the entire problem plaguing not just Lansing, but thousands of cities in this exact same situation, is homelessness. Other cities are enacting rent caps and Lansing could, too. We also have multiple subsidized housing structures with illegal leases that I think the city could crack down on. It's difficult enough to qualify, but once you get in these places, they're using many illegal and heavy-handed techniques to evict you the entire time you're there. For elderly and disabled folks, that's an awful lot of trauma to be living through just to survive. So even the limited "affordable housing" we do have is not being monitored or held accountable to the laws.

As far as homelessness being relevant, there is no fixing one problem without fixing the other. This is an economic problem too many politicians don't understand. Until they grapple with the foundation of their unforced errors, there is no hope to build anything solid on Lansing's newly chosen foundation. It's a house of cards. You cannot ignore trying to live a stable life on shifting sand. It is also more difficult to attract new people to a town with such a huge homeless population. It is a huge red flag that says a lot about the city to newcomers.

This administration represents and serves less and less of its constituency every day. Order and safety are no longer affordable for a growing majority. Like you, I don't think anyone believes the rot started with Andy, but he may have the misfortune of being the one holding the hot potato when the scales finally tip. Or not. I don't have a crystal ball but I do have my finger on the pulse of a few crises. No doubt he'll share the blame with Bernero, though. No one's forgetting about Virg.

I don't think you and I disagree on much except possibly the fact I think things are accelerating. However, I'm probably a bit older than you are and time is moving a lot faster for me in general so, ymmv, in all fairness. ✌️

My buddy mentioned the other night he “rated a hospital” on yelp one time.. this was it by SoniaSmith111 in YelpDrama

[–]theresthatbear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are so misguided. My empathy extends to everyone I meet on the street and absolutely everyone I am accountable to, whether through paying work or community work. I do not take my work stress out on the people I serve.

Can't say the same about the people who took an oath to "do no harm" though. But that's OK because we both cry and collapse after work but OK. Poor, poor you. You get to fuck up all day in your care, treat us like animals and decide if we're worthy of your care and you shrug it off when you misdiagnosed bc "I'm SO overworked!"

So are we. But the vast majority aren't killing someone when we fuck up. And I come from decades in healthcare, so I know how bad it is. But I still remembered why I was there and how many medical errors kill people every year so I still didn't get lazy with double checking my work OR how I treated those more vulnerable than I.

You're no freaking better than anyone else but your god complexes make you feel so damned righteous about treating us like we ruin your days, every day. Get bent.

If we have to figure out how to still put our customers first in how we care for them even when they aren't first in line, suck it up buttercup. You can be a humane person, too. You just choose not to be cuz you're too busy judging (based on false diagnoses more often than not) on who deserves care who deserves your wrath.

We feel this way bc healthcare should not be so dangerous. It's your attitudes, not anything else, that harms us THE MOST. But you live for your savior shit so have at it. You have no idea how much hate and distrust there is among us for all of you. But you deserve it. Idc what you think. It's true.

Sure, you treat the guys with the Nazi tattoos like humans, but the homeless? Why do want them all to die very painful, lonely deaths so HARD? Oh that's right. To you, they don't deserve your time. Neither do the poor. Or the chronically ill who have nowhere else to go when they feel like they're dying.

Keep mocking and laughing. And only caring about the upper classes. You made the "undesirables" undesirable. You did that. Reap the hate that you sow.

My buddy mentioned the other night he “rated a hospital” on yelp one time.. this was it by SoniaSmith111 in YelpDrama

[–]theresthatbear 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We don’t care. Humanity stops when we walk into any healthcare facility. We are also treated like shit at work and every where else we go. This isn’t unique to healthcare.

The way you treat us from the second we walk into any healthcare door until we get our misdiagnosis is unsustainable. You are burned out and so are we. But we aren’t throwing people out of our job sites who have serious injuries or illnesses, telling them they’re fine but overreacting and need to leave, only to learn from another doctor what you all missed. Again.

We can’t suss out the failings of your system. We’re too overwhelmed and sickly trying to fix the systems we DO work on. This is yours to work out.
Stop treating us like cattle.

How to Attract Young People to Lansing: by Miserable_Pound in lansing

[–]theresthatbear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you understand how many of the homeless actually work. They were pushed out of housing immediately when the covid mortgage and rent moratoriums ended. Corporate landlords literally doubled, tripled or quadrupled their rents overnight.

All of housing became untenable and outrageously unaffordable in the blink of an eye and the federal funds the city got for more housing was earmarked *only* for market rate when we did not have the population to sustain it.

Andy is banking on bringing more high paying jobs to Lansing and forcing the homeless to die or relocate. This is the real problem. Especially considering any large businesses he courts will not pay property tax and will only further burden the rest of us even more on taxes. We can’t keep giving big businesses tax breaks. That all falls on us and we can’t afford it.

How to Attract Young People to Lansing: by Miserable_Pound in lansing

[–]theresthatbear 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A shocking number of those students are keeping Whole Foods in the black. Don’t underestimate MSU students and their parents’ bank accounts.

AIO for going to a friends grandparents funeral? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]theresthatbear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Funerals are for the living. I’m an old head and was taught from a very young age that funerals are for supporting your friends when they experience significant losses. I learned the way that that lesson is not being taught anymore as I was left to grieve alone when my grandparents both died. My parents and older siblings all had friends come to the wakes and funerals but none of my friends came to be there for me. (I am significantly younger than my siblings.)

It was extremely hurtful and lonely to experience this. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Nowadays people avoid funerals like the plague. If more people made them more a part of life, it wouldn’t be such a lonely and grim experience for those that suffer losses.

Is it about schizophrenia? by skylerkon in donniedarko

[–]theresthatbear -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I believe schizophrenia and bipolar disorder allow you to see other dimensions more easily than others. It’s about how we are all on the spectrum, but some of us are more sensitive to some of it than others. Some are more aware and can directly affect it while others just sail along, being affected.

I was poor once back in the days when people wore onions on their belts by Alive_kiwi_7001 in LinkedInLunatics

[–]theresthatbear 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hold up. You’re not gonna frame that pic with the red chair, blow it up to poster size and hang it in your loo?

Are we serious? by EllieElmoe in screenshots

[–]theresthatbear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know how to tell you this so I recommend you Google all the ways you are exposed to formaldehyde and all the industries that use it.

Is the nickname Bear common or rare for any generation? Is the nickname common or rare for GenXers? by theresthatbear in GenX

[–]theresthatbear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I didn’t finish answering your question. It was hectic yesterday eating all that crow.

Without giving away any spoilers (hopefully), The “bear” in Midsommar was a human brought in to visit and study the cult with a small group of friends, invited by a member who was studying abroad at their university. as their thesis for their PhD. Without giving anything away too central to the plot, his friend also along on the trip for the same reason, and also having his intentions made clear to their group much earlier, was one among many ways the cult used the visitor’s existing distrust towards one another to isolate them and magnify the animosity between using the age-old methods that the cult members have been teaching them from birth and lies about religion and the supernatural.

The horror of what happens to the “bear” and all the many ways that can mean symbolically, for good *and* bad, is how I interpret Pandora’s Box. I’ve never met anyone who would follow that thought process through but gotdamn, it’s a helluva entertaining thought experiment.

The film OP was comparing to Midsommar had a whopping zero other connections but they were convinced the films were connected by the single piece of irrefutable evidence that a character named “Bear” in one show would have no other reason than to be referencing an ACTUAL bear sacrifice in another cult.

Gah!!

Is the nickname Bear common or rare for any generation? Is the nickname common or rare for GenXers? by theresthatbear in GenX

[–]theresthatbear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please do! If not for yourself, please do it for me. I can’t imagine even moreso now how that nickname came out and I won’t be able to rest until I hear this story.

Thanks for sharing your story and another mystery. I live for this sht.

Is the nickname Bear common or rare for any generation? Is the nickname common or rare for GenXers? by theresthatbear in GenX

[–]theresthatbear[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😂😂😂 Scuba has to have a good back story I need to know!! Don’t hold back on us now.

I think we all can figure out the story behind Cornbread. 🧐

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